It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[mlm115]

Glad you are still doing well.

I am in my 2ww (4 dpo I think?) I am thinking about starting a healthier diet and have been researching fertility diets, so that should occupy my mind a bit. Tomorrow is my "would have been due" date. I'm coincidentally off of work, so I may take the day to myself and go to a park or something and reflect. I'm sure I will be sad. Sorry to be the downer, but I don't know who else to tell this stuff to.

 

[GI_Jane]

Hey Mlm, don't apologise, that's what we're here for.
Hugs for you for tomorrow.
None of us will forget the ones we've lost and the journey to recover and try again. It will happen for you, so when you are reflecting tomorrow please don't forget this.

 

[mackjess]

I'm so sorry MLM. It's going to be a tough day for sure. Even though I'm lucky enough to be PAL, my original due date would be this Sunday. It makes me teary eyed because I'd be getting to meet my baby, but feel blessed that I have a rainbow due in a few months. It's a hard journey. I'm glad you will have a day to yourself.

Jane, It's a co-ed baby shower at my friends. Very casual. We will have beer and wine, and then we will be grilling out dinner at our house if the out of towners want to visit longer they can head that way. I'm excited, but bummed since my original due date was this weekend as well. I hope it doesn't make me too emotional at the shower Saturday. I feel very blessed, but it's bittersweet. Bugger, I'm teary eyed now at work just thinking about it.

Bobster, how are you feeling today? Do you think you are having braxton hicks? They say that they happen early but aren't felt until 3rd trimester, but I've heard of lots of women feeling them as early as 16 weeks.

 

[bobster]

Hello everybody.

The cramps were pretty nagging and constant but thankfully they've gone now. I had some round ligament pain today but no central cramps. It is worrying. Hope they weren't braxton hicks. If they were could that indicate an incompetent cervix? Will they check my cervix at the 20 week scan?

Mack sorry about your due date. Hope the shower helps to get you through it. I know its hard, mine was in February for my first mc. Hopefully little Finn will help you through it. He wouldn't be here if you didn't lose your other little one. I know it doesn't seem fair to think about it like that though.

Mlm- please don't ever feel bad for talking about your mc, we all need support about it and as Jane says that's why we're all here and this thread was started. I hope you are OK. If you need to chat please don't hesitate to talk to us. Thinking of you today. What's this diet about? Does it have good evidence for success and are you meant to do it all the time or just during the 2ww? Did you manage to do smep properly? 4dpo is a rubbish time as it always seems to drag around that time. Are you having any symptoms?

Jane a sweet potato is quite good isn't it. Better than an onion! I bet it will be because of the depression that you need to see the consultant. Did you ring the midwife anyway? They should make that clear to mum's rather than just sending letters. I am watching the Eastenders story, seems ridiculous really but I still watch it lol! How are you feeling? 12 days until your scan, 13 for mine! Have you ever been to Ingleborough caves? Me and other half went today- it was great fun and beautiful countryside. So peaceful. Would recommend it as a place to visit.

Is MrsPhez still here? Hope you are ok.

 

[MrsPhez]

Hello everybody.

The cramps were pretty nagging and constant but thankfully they've gone now. I had some round ligament pain today but no central cramps. It is worrying. Hope they weren't braxton hicks. If they were could that indicate an incompetent cervix? Will they check my cervix at the 20 week scan?

Mack sorry about your due date. Hope the shower helps to get you through it. I know its hard, mine was in February for my first mc. Hopefully little Finn will help you through it. He wouldn't be here if you didn't lose your other little one. I know it doesn't seem fair to think about it like that though.

Mlm- please don't ever feel bad for talking about your mc, we all need support about it and as Jane says that's why we're all here and this thread was started. I hope you are OK. If you need to chat please don't hesitate to talk to us. Thinking of you today. What's this diet about? Does it have good evidence for success and are you meant to do it all the time or just during the 2ww? Did you manage to do smep properly? 4dpo is a rubbish time as it always seems to drag around that time. Are you having any symptoms?

Jane a sweet potato is quite good isn't it. Better than an onion! I bet it will be because of the depression that you need to see the consultant. Did you ring the midwife anyway? They should make that clear to mum's rather than just sending letters. I am watching the Eastenders story, seems ridiculous really but I still watch it lol! How are you feeling? 12 days until your scan, 13 for mine! Have you ever been to Ingleborough caves? Me and other half went today- it was great fun and beautiful countryside. So peaceful. Would recommend it as a place to visit.

Is MrsPhez still here? Hope you are ok.

I am! Just checked in for first time again, it's been a few weeks! I'm OK. Had a month off after the chemical to chill out about it all. 7 dpo today with no chance of a bfp this month as we were sleeping in my brothers bed at time of ovulation (we swapped houses). Imagine!!! No way.
My cyst is being removed by laporoscopy in a few months but we'll keep trying next month.
Good luck this month mlm, hope you get your long awaited BFP hun.
Sounds like you are all progressing nicely lucky preggy ladies.
Seems llike a hard weekend ahead for mlm and mackjess, so sending big hugs to you both

 

[bobster]

Lovely to hear from you Phez! I am glad you've finally got a date to get that cyst sorted. Will that help with ttc did they say?Might give you more chance each month if you can ovulate from both sides. Least you know you're out this month so you don't have that awful am I/aren't I dilema. You can relax and enjoy a ttc free month.

MLM- how did today go hun? Did you go to a park?

 

[MrsPhez]

Lovely to hear from you Phez! I am glad you've finally got a date to get that cyst sorted. Will that help with ttc did they say?Might give you more chance each month if you can ovulate from both sides. Least you know you're out this month so you don't have that awful am I/aren't I dilema. You can relax and enjoy a ttc free month.

MLM- how did today go hun? Did you go to a park?

Well, the gyn said if I am having signs of ovulation, then I am, the cyst probably moves things though so whether the egg reaches the tube after o I don't know. My name is down for lap although I havent really decided whether to go for it tbh, just wanted to get my name on the list. There is the risk I'll lose the ovary so I need to think hard but he said it's unlikely to resolve itself after all this time.
37 in July, this makes me nervous but there's still time. And I have it on good authority that if we don't get lucky, we will get a dog for Dexter so he has a buddy. This has made me feel so much better!!!
I'll be back to update and peek at how you're all doing!

 

[mlm115]

Phez, I am so glad to hear from you! Glad you are getting the medical attention you need to take care of yourself. Also, very glad for you that you have Dexter to give big hugs to during this whole ordeal. I can't wait to see you get through this and get your bfp!

You know, yesterday wasn't as terrible as I thought it would be. I've grieved so much already I think. To make it a good day, DH and I went to the pet store to play with puppies and bought a new fish haha

 

[GI_Jane]

Hey ladies,

Thanks for the update mrs phez. I think you've done the right thing putting your name on the list and when it is your turn you can give him strict instructions that once he's got you on the table and if it looks like removal will be complicated and possibly damage the ovary not to attempt/touch it.

Mlm, glad it wasn't as bad. Mine was 30th April and I did spare a thought to the one I had lost but like you I have grieved deeply for that one for months so I felt at peace with the loss and got on with the day. Sounds like you had a lovely one playing with the puppies. My cat always makes me smile (except at 4.30am when she keeps bugging you cos she wants food).

Bobster, pleased to hear your cramps have eased. Not been to those caves- are they up north somewhere? Haven't rung the midwife to track down my notes and ask about this consultant- work is an open plane office and so difficult to get some privacy during the day to ring them- must do it next week though, wish I could email them, would be so much easier! Do you need to take your notes with you to the scan? If not then I have a bit more time to trak them down before 16 week appointment.

Mackjess, enjoy your shower and all your visitors, sounds quite chilled out. A lady at work left for maternity leave today and all her desk was decorated and a big presentation of presses etc but it filled me with dread, I wouldn't want to be the centre of attention like that!

We are off to the theatre for our wedding anniversary tomorrow, haven't been for ages (way too expensive) but looking forward to this treat.

Have a good weekend everyone

 

[GI_Jane]

I can't do the top of my trousers up and everything else feels a little tight! Damn this bloat!

 

[bobster]

You are nearing your 12 week mark now so your womb will be moving up out from behind your pubic bone! I felt massively bloated at 12 weeks too but now feel I have the start of my baby bump.

I was told to take my green notes to every appointment with me. On the 12 week one they put the report from the ultrasound in there.
The caves are in the yorkshire dales. Well worth a visit.

Mlm- when are you testing?

 

[GI_Jane]

How are you doing bobster? How is your oh mum after her horse accident?

Not long until our scans

 

[bobster]

I'm ok thanks for asking. How are you doing? How's your little bump?

I know i'm on scan countdown already!

 

[mlm115]

If you were me, when would you ladies test? I'm 9dpo today. Wasn't feeling too optimistic, but just within the last hour I got a few short, sharp pains low that made me think "implantation???" Although every month I feel convinced I feel symptoms and have yet to get my bfp so who knows!

 

[GI_Jane]

It's a tough one, I was the worst early tester. If it was implantation I think it takes roughly 48 hours before you get enough hcg in your system to be detected. so I would say wait till 11- 12 dpo if you can hold out.

 

[bobster]

Hmm could be implantation bit if it is like Jane says you need to wait 2days. Hmm I'm terrible for wary testing too. I tested at 9dpo and you could barely see a shadow. 10dpo was a very very faint line on frer. Maybe test tomorrow evening or afternoon with a frer? Or 11dpo for a more trustworthy result. Good luck. Have everything crossed for you mlm x

 

[GI_Jane]

In my haste yesterday, forgot to say good luck Mlm

 

[bobster]

Have you decided when to test mlm? Anymore twinges/pains?

 

[GI_Jane]

Think I've got a urinary tract infection

 

[mlm115]

Thanks ladies. I'm going to take your advice and test tomorrow. No expectations, but I'm hopeful as usual.

Ugh, Jane, poor you. Utis are terrible. Hope you get some meds ASAP!