It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[mlm115]

I'm ok thanks- just nervous. Not having crazy symptoms which I don't like. I just want to fast forward to at least 8 weeks (or even better, to 2nd tri!)

 

[GI_Jane]

I've only had very mild symptoms so far Mlm so try not to worry (easier said than done I know).

Bobster, your bump is official now you've had your second comment from a stranger!

 

[bobster]

MLM I didn't have many symptoms either in the early days. Try not to worry.
Hopefully they will put your mind at ease when you see the dr.

 

[mlm115]

Thanks ladies. Feeling "more pregnant" today. Just tired and drained of energy, then I started crying and I still have no idea why haha. DH was very confused by that one!

 

[bobster]

Haha yes i've done that a few times too. Weird isn't it. Feels like when you're on af and you bawl for no apparent reason. Poor men having to put up with our hormones!

 

[GI_Jane]

A friend just announced his girlfriend is 12 weeks pregnant. I am happy for them (bit shocked too as their circumstances are not great) but anyway, I feel a bit annoyed that he has trumped my good news as I still haven't announced to that set of friends about my pregnancy. Hmmm if I announce now it looks like I'm copying them.

DH said we should wait to announce until 20 week scan but I'm really feeling like I just want to tell people now. Our motives for waiting we're to get the downs result and hear the heartbeat again at 16 week appointment but since that's next week I don't know what's the sense in keeping it secret even later than that.

There is a huge part of me that is worried the minute I tell the world my good news it will all start going wrong. But equally I want to enjoy being pregnant and talk openly about this pregnancy.

Not sure what to do thoughts ladies?

 

[bobster]

I think you should go with your gut and share your news now. There's a good reason for waiting until 12 week scan but you're well past that now so I think its time like you say to start enjoying it.

Believe me I know what you mean about feeling you may jinx things though. Its a horrible feeling. I think for me I would have had that feeling whether I told at 12 or 20 weeks though as I was so worried about it going wrong. It's just because we love our babies so much already.

 

[bobster]

I think you should go with your gut and share your news now. There's a good reason for waiting until 12 week scan but you're well past that now so I think its time like you say to start enjoying it.

Believe me I know what you mean about feeling you may jinx things though. Its a horrible feeling. I think for me I would have had that feeling whether I told at 12 or 20 weeks though as I was so worried about it going wrong. It's just because we love our babies so much already.

 

[mackjess]

I shared my news very early on. I don't think I put it on FB until 14 weeks or so, after the NT scan. But my close coworkers, friends and family knew at about 8 weeks. Crazy I know. But, I had shared a lot with the first pregnancy, so I think that made it easier to share because they knew about my m/c and understood that I was cautiously celebrating.

Mind you, I've never posted a bump photo or us on FB, even though a few friends have asked, because I'm superstitious! I'll send them a photo if they want to see it, but I never plan on posting the bump or us photos!

 

[GI_Jane]

Thanks ladies. Our close families knew straight away, like you mackjess, they knew about the previous mc and we would want their support if it happened again.

I think I need to start enjoying it so will start dropping it in conversation after my 16 week appointment next week. I'm not on Facebook so that makes that decision easy!

How are you doing mackjess, have you got another scan coming up again soon? Enjoying DH's chair?

 

[mlm115]

Jane, I wouldn't worry about "copying" your friends. I'm sure they'll be just as excited for you... Plus you're further along and will probably have your baby first, so ha!

I wish I could tell at least my parents now, but my mom is such a gossip I can't trust it to stay a secret until a "safer" time.

 

[bobster]

Had some different sensations today. Not painful but very low pressure. Have to keep reminding myself if no bleeding or severe pain probably normal. Will I ever relax?!
How are you all. Weather is glorious in UK, hope its nice for Mack and mlm too.

 

[GI_Jane]

That's a shame you can't share the news with your mum yet Mlm. How are you doing, still feeling more pregnant?

It's so hard not to worry bobster isn't it! I think we need to remember that pregnancy is a new journey for all of us so there will be new and different sensations as time progresses and baby gets bigger- you are right though, no bleeding or severe pain is good news

I'm doing ok thanks, booked our antenatal and early baby days course-20 hours of tuition starting in September- crazy booking so early but the organisation that run them are very popular where I live (loads of yummy mummy's).

Otherwise I am feeling impatient to get to my 20 week scan now! Have that appointment with the consultant on Thursday to check my mental well being! (which is doing really well-apart from the odd day but we all get that!).

 

[mlm115]

Just wondering if you experienced cramping in your early pregnancy. I've been getting some aches that feel kinda like period cramps. They're more achy, not sharp pains, and they are periodic not consistent. Is this normal in your experience?

 

[GI_Jane]

I had periodic cramps that I described as moderate in my diary but they felt slightly different to AF cramps in that they felt more like a stretching and pulling sensation and definitely achy so what you describe sounds normal to me

 

[mackjess]

I had some pretty bad cramps and even a little spotting from old blood at 5/6 weeks. I think your uterus stars expanding right away.

hi Jane. I have an appt this Friday, and another scan Jun 21st. I'm still good and being a chair hog. I need to do laundry, but it's downstairs, and I really want donuts. trying to convince myself to go do the laundry so I can go get a chocolate donut for my reward. lol

 

[bobster]

Mine felt very much like mild period pain. Had them on and off since ovulation and occassionally even now. I wouldn't worry unless it gets severe. This is what I've tried to tell myself all the way so far but I still do worry!

Are you ladies hoping for a boy or a girl or not bothered? I've got such a strong feeling I'm having a boy that it worries me that if a girl pops out i'll feel at a loose end. Almost wishing we'd found out the sex now just to confirm things. Of course as long as its healthy i'll be happy and I don't really mind. What are your thoughts?

 

[mlm115]

I can't believe you haven't found out Bobster, I would be dying to know! It will be an awesome surprise though. I'm sure you will be thrilled with either gender when the day comes. I will definitely find out when (not if!) I get to that point.

 

[GI_Jane]

Like the positive thinking Mlm

Mackjess, leave the laundry and have the donut anyway

Initially I didn't mind boy or girl but I had strong boy feelings too so really wanted a boy but the more scan pics I see and compare mine the more I think it's actually a girl so feeling a little disappointed as sometimes it seems there are so many girls born- don't get me wrong this baby is wanted and loved whatever it is.

Would you consider getting a private gender scan done bobster?

 

[mackjess]

Well I talked DH into going and getting me an icee and a donut. I don't have sweets cravings often, but boy watch out when I do!! And I just did 2 loads of laundry since I was running out of clothes.

MLM - I was like you and wanted to know asap what the baby was. I would have been very happy to have either, but I knew DH wanted a boy. I figured the more time he had to get used to the idea if it was a girl the better.

Bobster - I know, the worry NEVER goes away. I started getting the pelvic strain a little this last week and started wearing a support belt. I think the bugger hasn't turned yet and is kicking me in the pelvis!

Glad to hear some are having nice weather. I've only been swimming ONCE because of the rain, thunderstorms, cool temps. We have a baby basics class tonight, and hospital tour tomorrow. I may go back to the indoor place on my lunch hour Friday to get some swimming in since I'll be at home. Maybe if it's less busy the chlorine won't be so strong. I don't think it will be warm enough until maybe Monday to go to another outdoor pool.

AFM - another (well probably the same lingering one) sinus infection. Feeling a bit better since I started taking antibiotics on Monday. I think I'll have sinus problems til the baby gets here, since I'm really bad in the spring time. I don't think it's going to go away until I can take Advil, sudafed and prednisone again. My mission is to get EVERYthing done as far as nursery, packing, thank you cards the next 2 weeks while I feel energy, then after this round of antibiotics is over I can just be a lazy sad sack til the baby gets here! I can survive 4 weeks of feeling crappy if it means not being on another round of drugs. I had to do it this time since I barely had the energy to get off the couch. DH has been GREAT about housework and groceries, but there are a few things left that I need to do. ya know?