Its June!!!!! 20 week scan next month!!! Whos with me?

[Scally]

Oh my god Kellie that sounds awful!!! I think u have done the right thing u have to be well for your children! X

 

[Inoue]

Bloody hell Kellie! Youve done the right thing, dont feel like a failure! . I dont know much about the diet but was you only having powdered drinks?! If so, it sounds like your body was starting to relapse and shut down . Good plan to move onto a lower diet plan, I aim for about 1200 cals and that loses approx 2lbs a week for me. Sometimes its best to throw these diets out of the window and go back to caveman style; eat less, move more

Xxx

 

[kellie_w]

Im liking your caveman diet inoue! I just dont think my body could cope, especially only 9 weeks after childbirth. Im feeling my normal self today, apart from my mouth and throat hurts still. That orange water flavour must have some pretty harsh sweetners in it. Eating last night was really painful, my mouth felt like it was swelling, I could only eat a little before my stomach hurt and I felt sick. Makes me question the long term effects. The small amount I ate made me gain 2Ib but I hope re starting today afresh will have that off tomorrow.

So does anyone have snow today?! Prepare for the cabin fever in the coming days! X

 

[Inoue]

If we were still chasing mammoths then none of us would be chubby . Long term effects from that sounds alarming, esp as you were only 4 days in?! . Glad youve stopped and eating normal food again. We have to be so careful post childbirth, im only managing 10mins on treadmill before I get period type cramps, weve just got to take it a little at a time. Weighted myself out of interest and yesterday I was 181lbs, today im 178lbs. Hopefully ill get good results by the time day 11 is here .

No snow here in Lincolnshire x

 

[Inoue]

DEEP SNOW!!!!!

 

[Scally]

woohoo for snow, none here!!!!!!!! boo!!!!!!!

yay for your weight loss Inoue!

x

 

[Inoue]

Thankyou, I naughtily weighted myself today and im now 176lbs (5lb loss so far) and managed to do 20 mins on treadmill. Getting back to normal fitness

Abit TMI, but have you guys DTD yet? Marc is qute stand offy and feel abit like he doesn't look at me like 'that' anymore . He still gives me little kisses and tells me he loves me everyday, but I dont think he see's me as 'sexy' if you know what I mean x

 

[Scally]

We havent done the deed yet, but mainly because of my recovery really and tiredness with the two. I am sure Dave would love to, but god knows when we will be able to to! Have you asked him? Initiated anything? x

 

[Inoue]

He just says he's tired or uses Reimi as an excuse . Ive tried to initiate it by saying about going upstairs with a wink and he either laughs and still sits there, or ignores me and picks Reimi up. I think he thinks im joking x

 

[Scally]

Could you talk to him about it properly? Saying to him that you arent joking that u would like to start your physical relationship again?
x

 

[Inoue]

Im always saying to him stuff like "when are we going to have sex?", he just awkwardly grins like "here we go again" and says Reimi isnt asleep (eithern though she's flat out) or he's to tired from work. A few nights ago I was really wanting it at 4am (not a bad time as his alarm goes off shortly), I told him the day later and he said "thank god you didnt. Esp as I have work soon". There just never seems to be a 'right' time, even when he's not at work, I remember going through this before and I end up resentful . Thanks for your help Scally xx

 

[Scally]

You have been through it before with him? how is his libido usually? is he happy enough day to day?
x

 

[time]

Aww inoue I would just persist and tell him straight up that you want to get going again!

We have done it once about 10 days ago.. I only had a few days between the bleeding stopping completely and coming on my first period so we haven't had chance to do it anymore. He pestered the life out of me though I have the opposite problem to you as I'm so so tired and just can't be bothered most if the time haha! It was definitely tighter down there.. Don't know whether everyone feels like that after so long not having sex!! I felt pretty self conscious as well but just got on with it!

Good luck inoue!!!

 

[Inoue]

His libido is usually very low for a bloke so it takes quite abit to get him going (difficult for me as past partners were of standard libido), but its non existent now when it comes to me. He seems more happy looking at porn and taking care of himself. I feel dirty if I keep asking for it, he clearly isnt interested. Guess all I can do is keep going my fitness for myself so I feel better x

Edit: Think im going to be closed up at this rate Time, let alone tight! xx

 

[Scally]

i dont get that at all- porn and taking care of himself but not sex?

lol to being closed up!

x

 

[Inoue]

I know.... I cant figure it out either. Its always been the same (well, from about 3 years into our relationship). Guess I feel like ive damaged my body by providing us with a child, and now im damaged goods (god that sounds worse than what it probably is). Bleh, im stuck. X

 

[kellie_w]

Oh inoue, I wish I knew what to say to help. I know a lot of men once they see a women give birth can stop seeing them in a sexual way as they just see them as a mummy and find that difficult. I really think you need to talk to him, be honest. Is there anything you can do to, erm, get him going? Anything you know he liked in the past? Don't feel like you are damaged goods, you have given him the most precious gift of a very beautiful daughter! You say he likes porn, would he watch it with you? I don't know what else to say, my oh has a very very high sex drive, that's why I ended up dtd so soon after birth!

Well done on your weight loss! X

 

[kellie_w]

Just been terrified by a post in baby club, someone has a 8 week old and is 5 weeks pregnant. I take my hat off to her, she is one brave lady! X

 

[Inoue]

Wow! Thats a close age gap!

There isnt really alot that gets him going . Ive unfortunately found the pages of porn he goes on but I get rid of it quick, it just seems to be fit naked women in sexy positions . He doesnt really have a trigger (ie lingerie, dress up, dirty talk) so im stumped either way. He did watch the birth when he said he wouldnt so I wonder if seeing Reimi come out has grossed him out, but yeh, I basically feel like a mum, a house maid and a friend. He will be home from work soon but I may bring up the subject if it seems a good time although im sure he will wash it off. Thanks ladies xxx

 

[Scally]

My god kellie that's a small gap!
Good luck inoue x