Its June!!!!! 20 week scan next month!!! Whos with me?

[time]

Good luck inoue, definitely sit down and talk about what you want and try and get an answer out of him for why he is being distant with that side of your relationship. Hope once he knows how you feel things start to improve!

Jeez that age gap would terrify me!! My sil has a 12 month old and is 21weeks pregnant and she is struggling enough. Just can't imagine being pregnant with sickness back ache etc and having to look after a baby!

 

[Scally]

Did you manage to talk to him Inoue?

Hows the gaviscon going with Ollie Kellie?

How are you time? lauryn? pops? sarah?

Back to the nurse last night, scar isnt as good as she hoped, off the antibiotics for now, got to go back later in the week for re-dress. I want a shower!!!! Its been 2 weeks now with this dressing on! Washes just arent the same!

I have booked Izzy's pre school jabs for next tuesday, absolutely dreading it, i know she will leg it between the two injections!
For those who are vaccinating the little ones soon, Poppy was fine with the first injection and screamed loads after the second, I nursed her at the same time. She was fine afterwards, a little grizzly maybe with sore legs that day, but no temperature etc
x

 

[Inoue]

Yeh I had a word with him tonight when we were layed on the bed with Reimi. I just asked him if he still wants to be with me in which he replied yes and I had a good chat saying how hurt I felt with him not being physical with me but had no problem sorting himself out with internet material. He was shocked at how awful that sounded and says he really meant no harm. I didnt really get a reason to why he's been declining me but I think its due to him worrying about Reimi when we dtd. Im glad he's not gone off me physically, that was what upset me most.

He's now being very touchy feely so it seems he's taken my talk as serious. Thankyou Scally, Time, Kellie for your words of wisdom

Cant believe your scar still isnt healed Scally, this isnt 'normal' is it for C-sec patients is it? :/. What a nightmare for you. Good luck with Izzys jabs next week. I have Reimi's jabs next Thursday, did you take anyone with you (adult wise) xx

 

[Scally]

Glad you talked to him, i hope he continues, and that you do get to dtd! I am so pleased for you, and its nice that you were able to talk it all through.

I took Dave with me for Poppys jabs- with Izzy he used to hold her as i cant handle it but this time i nursed Poppy so he got to sit to the side! With Izzy we will go united again, who knows who she'll want when she gets them.

My scar was healed initially, it then came apart in the middle with the infection, there was nowhere for the abscess to go so when it burst it came out a weak part of the skin. hopefully it wont take much longer to re-seal now, and hopefully all the yucky stuff has come out now!

x

 

[kellie_w]

Im glad you managed to talk and sort things out Inoue! Hope everything improves now x

Argggggg ollie is 10 weeks tomorrow and going through the growth spurt from hell. He has moaned all night and all yesterday, barely smiled and wants to feed constantly. And its currently -9 outside and so frozen it looks like its going to be our third day stuck in. Waaaaaa I want summer. .. and sleep....and for the next 3 months to go very quickly. I shouldnt wish time away but I just can't wait to be able to do things with oliver, jumperoo, toys etc maybe then he will finally be a happy baby!

Sorry for my tired ramblings! X

 

[Scally]

Oh no Kellie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not another growth spurt! Oh no for the moaning and no smiling, do u have to up his gaviscon with the extra bottles he is having? Wont be long until he can go into his jumperoo and interact with toys.
It doesnt help that you cant get out for your sanity! I agree with you I want summer!!!!! It looks so frozen outside, i was going to attempt to get out today even for a little walk but it looks so cold!

x

 

[time]

Aww glad you talked it out inoue I think that is always for the best rather than keeping it all in!

I still haven't booked Wrens 8 week vaccinations as I am in 2 minds about whether to delay them or not. It just seems such a lot of things all at once all at 8 weeks! I don't know. But when we do go rob will definitely be coming with me.

I have my 6 week check tomorrow, don't think I will be going on any kind of contraception, just sticking to condoms as this worked well for us for 5 years until we had baby.

Hope the healing is getting better ally, feel so sorry for you its such bad luck!

And poor you Kellie! It is hard work while they are too young to be distracted by toys etc! We popped wren in her cot lastnight for 10 mins and put her mobile on.. She absolutely loved it!! Hope oliver gets over the growth spurt soon and hopefully the temps will rise so you can all get out!! Me and wren have come to work today which is nice to get out and see all our regular customers who just love her! Got all the heaters on though and hats and coats haha!

 

[Scally]

Good morning!

How is everyone today? I was planning on going out but it looks like an ice rink out there! So we have stayed in and baked cakes instead! (although i am baking them for Izzy and Dave as I'm now on my healthy kick- cant exercise so watching the diet!)

How is everyone doing with their diets?

I am soooooo happy, i went to have my scar re-dressed yesterday and the nurse said it was so much better, the holes are still there but closing well, and i now have a smaller dressing (like a big plaster) which i can do myself AND i'm allowed to shower!!!!! I got home last night, fed Poppy and then had the most amazing shower ever! Havent been able to do that for 2 and a half weeks!!!!!! I have to see her Tuesday to see how its doing but hopefully thats the end of the special dressings and antibiotics!!!!! woohoo!!!!!
I still have to take it easy but the fact that i can shower makes it all soooo much better!!!! haha!

Hows all our little munchkins?

Poppy slept from 10 until 7, but was so fidgety and noisy from 3 onwards so she slept through but we didnt, she is such a noisy sleeper!!!!! Not that i'm complaining i just hope i get used to all her noises and sleep through them soon! lol.

x

 

[time]

We have definitely hit a growth spurt with wren.. She is normally such a good sleeper but lastnight she went to bed at 8.30, and woke at 11.30, 1.30, 4.30 and then 6. She was so hungry and had near to 100ml every time!! The 6am wake up wasn't toobad though she was just giggling away in her carrycot!

So glad you can have a shower now ally!fingers crossed it is even better when you go back!

Hope everyone is well!

 

[time]

Had an awful time at our 6 week check this afternoon. Dr asked what contraception I would be going on and when I said we're happy to just stay using condoms she switched and was so horrible and patronising. Said well you won't be wanting more children for a long time now so I think we should fit the coil. I kept saying no thankyou and she just would not stop.. Pushed contraception leaflets in my bag and said 'well ring me and we will get you booked in for a coil fitted'. So mad. I may be classed as young at 23 but I am married own my own house and 2 businesses.. I don't need to be patronised and spoken to like a child. She then checked baby, checked her heart and looked really worried. After about 10 minutes she told me she had found a heart murmur.. She didn't explain it to me, just said she's going to make an appointment at the hospital for wren in the next week. She didn't weigh her or check her over.. Just sent us away with no information and crying.

Been doing some research since I got home and it doesn't sound as uncommon or bad as she made it sound so I'm trying not to stress until we see a professional but I am just devastated right now and sick still how we were treated. Will definitely be making a complaint at my drs.

 

[Scally]

My god Time she sounds like a bitch!!!!!! Its up to you what contraception you use not her!
And as for Wrens murmur how dare she not tell you more or give you more information, I have heard its quite common. Let us know when you get an app.
Definitely make a complaint and never see that poor excuse for a doctor ever again xx

 

[ttc_lolly]

Time how fucking awful I would've taken the leaflets out of my bag and shoved them down the back of her throat! Cheeky cow, I agree, complain. Sorry that she detected a heart murmur on Wren, but as you say they aren't all that uncommon and I think they can just correct themselves after a whole (I may be wrong though, sure you'll get lots of helpful info at hospital).

Ally, I'm happy for you that you can shower again!

Kellie, I feel for you hun. Millie's colic and growth spurts are all just merged together into 1 making me have a very grumpy baby and she'll probably stay that way until she's 3/4 months I just keep telling myself it's not forever and to try enjoy her being little as much as possible... because I no longer think I want anymore! She's been so much hard work, I'm not sure I could risk my sanity having another baby grump I hope Oliver is over the worst soon

Inoue, glad you spoke to your OH I hope the situation has been resolved and he has finally given you a good seeing to! Ha!

Millie was 7 weeks on Tuesday and had her weighed today and she's 12lbs 4oz, my little chunk! We went to a breastfeeding group today and it was lovely meeting other bf'ing mums in my area and Amber got to play with the older kids and all the toys, was hell trying to drag her away at the end though! She also started preschool this week, my big girls growing up too quickly just 1 session a week to start her off for now, but she loved it and keeps going on about going back to school! I lost 6lbs on my first week at SW and very pleased with that, I was a bit naughty here and there so trying to be really good this week and see what I can shift! We got an appt through for Millie's jabs but I've already told them we are delaying and ill bring her in end of Feb/beginning of March. Will take her to be checked over still though x

 

[Inoue]

Time, thats awfull!! These doctors have a bloody nerve sometimes . Id be happy to use condoms as a precaution, there as good as anything elce so dont know why she's being judgmental over it?! As others have said, heart murmurs are VERY commen in babies. I believe I had one detected straight after birth and my mum got no info on it and nothing was really said after that and ive got no show of it now (had ecg etc). Dont worry chick, its the way the dam womans put it across that makes it sounds horrific

Scally, glad your scar is healing well, at long last!! Bet that shower was bliss, I love a good shower when you haven't had one in a while . Brilliant that poppy slept from 10-7, Its amazing how babies differ, Reimi can still only manage 4h max before she needs a feed, and we give her a 180ml bottle of thick anti reflux milk, lol. Guess poppy is 2 odd weeks ahead so maybe that will make a difference

Lolly, glad you got booked in for the jabs, weve got ours next Thursday and still debating whether to take marc with me. Also congrats on the BF, I managed 3 weeks till I had enough, I take my hat off to you! .

Afm. We DTD last night . Reimi fell asleep so we had a laugh trying to do it stealthily, gave up in the end and acted normal and she still didnt wake up - good girl . I think my body is about to have a period aswel as getting more spotting/flow. Glad things are going back to normal cycle wise.

Are you noticing your LO getting there own personalities already? I forget Reimi is 7 weeks, she acts more like 7 months! Ive got a right little madam here, hate to think what ive got coming up in the years to come

Xx

 

[Scally]

Yay for dtd Inoue!!!!!!!!!!! I bet u r so happy now! Haha i have never been so happy about other people having sex before! haha!

I think the two weeks makes a huge difference to their sleep, as Poppy has becoming more aware etc she has seemed to need more routine and sleep. I know what you mean about personalities, i think i have a bit of a diva! She wont be put down for long and needs attention constantly when she is awake, she will not be ignored! lol


Lauryn- fantastic about Millies weight, well done! And well done on your weight loss thats great! Glad you had a good time at the breastfeeding group.
I need to go to our one Monday as they do the baby clinic there too, but last time i went i felt it was so clicky, nobody spoke to me, and i had to take Izzy and she was the only older one there and they looked at her like she was a demon child! lol. I got all flustered as Izzy wouldnt leave when i asked her to, Poppy was crying etc, all so stressful! On Monday i am hoping i will be a bit more confident!

Round here you have to take your baby to be measured every 2 weeks, the hv said if i wasnt up to going to the local group she would send someone round (luckily its 2 mins up the road), is that the same where u guys are? I also have to take her anyway in two weeks to get her head measured again to check its growing, i am sure it is though it looks bigger!

x

 

[Inoue]

OMG it was soooooo good! . Looking forward to going on pill so no more condoms (marc hates them!). Reimi only needs to get measured once a month at our local hospital so ill go about 10th feb, glad im not the only one with a diva child. She gets a right monk on when I wipe eye boogers away! Now in my fitness gear trying to get my ass through a 20 min zumba dvd, god its hard work! I can see my belly flab going down though so it must be doing something! Lol.

Reimi has got a semi routine, basically sleep from 10pm - 2am, feed till 3am, sleep 3am - 6am then dose for the rest of the morning in her swing. Shes very alert/awake in late afternoon, evening. Maybe ill be tryping what you put in two weeks time x

 

[time]

Thanks guys, after reading more I am a lt less worried, just made at how she told me and didn't explain a thing. Will be looking forward to speaking to a specialist at the hospital. But normally they correct themselves.

Wow lauryn what a little chunk millie is that's great! Haven't heard from my hv for 16 days now and Dr didn't weigh wren yesterday so I've no idea what she weighs. The lack of follow up care in yorkshire is ridiculous. May call my hv this afternoon and ask what is going on!
Well done on the weight loss that is fab!
I still have had no letters through about vaccinations either but I have definitely decided to delay her schedule by a month or two.

Glad you dtd inoue!bet you feel a lot better for it haha!! You're right about seeing a personality coming.. Wren is a little monkey!
We've got an ok routine going now too, we normally get her to bed about 9, up at 1, feeds for 10 mins then up at 4 again feeds for 10 mins, then up at 6 which she doesn't normally want food she's just giggling away to herself!! So we put her in bed between us and snuggle for an hour!!

Really hope she takes after poppy and only gets better!

 

[pops23]

Hi ladies! Sorry I've been absent, life's been hectic as I'm back at work now, crazy!

Glad to hear your babies are all doing well! Time sorry to hear about wrens heart murmer, but is definitely very common, let us know how her appt goes

Inoue, yay for DTD! We still haven't, haven't had a chance! Lee is back so late from work and Flynn has a fussy evening period so there is really no time at all, hopefully this weekend, I'm definitely keen! ;-)

Lauryn great job on Millie's weight Flynn is only 11 lb but he has bronchialitus so had a few days of not feeding well, he's dropped from the 75th centime to below the 50th but I'm not too worried

Ally glad scar is healing finally, it's awful what you've been through, c sections are so debilitating and come with so many other issues

Kellie, not long until Oliver will be over this growth spurt stage, before you know it hell be crawling and playing, I'm so looking forward to that but can't believe my baby is 7 almost 8 weeks already!

Flynn is generally doing well, he has a bath at 6.30 after some play time then boob and on good days sleeps until 9.30/10 then has a bottle of expressed and fingers crossed goes back to sleep until 3/4 and then back to sleep till 7/8 after a feed. He's a pretty good night time sleeper but for the past few nights has woken us up choking in the night on his own mucus I'm guessing. Horrible and scary but then he's back to normal, very strange!

Xxx

 

[Scally]

Hey pops! Hows Flynn doing now? Is he still choking? He sounds like a very good sleeper! how is it being back at work?

Time- Wren sounds like a good sleeper too! Your after care sounds so bad! They do seem good round here for that, checking their weight etc.

I really love that Poppy is so good with naps during the day and she does go long during the night, but i seriously would love her to go down earlier! We managed one night at 8.45, but usually its 10, or more like 11. We have been trying to get her down earlier, bath at 7, then boob and then trying to put her down, but she can be asleep on the boob, put her down and she screams the place down, this cycle continues until 11! lol. We tried doing it all earlier tonight thinking she might be getting overtired, but no the same thing happened. Any ideas? Do i just go with the flow and try and make it earlier as she gets older?

Poppy was weighed today she is now 11 5! Thats over a pound on in two weeks, they are happy with how she is doing, and her head has grown too, so that looks all ok!

x

 

[Inoue]

Glad her head circumference is ok now Scally . I also think my little Reimi is a chuffer as she was 11lb 3oz at 6 weks - god knows what she is now! .

No idea with how to get them to bed earlier, Reimi is the same. We got her down at 9pm before but its more like 11pm when she will entertain sleeping. We always do an anti reflux bottle before bed as it fills her up for longer but even if we give her it at 8:30pm, she still wants to stay awake till 10:30ish. Dont think there's much we can do other than go with the flow.

Were booking a week away in Weymouth for holiday in May, really looking forward to out first holiday with Reimi . Im usually a hotel only person but weve got the best upgraded caravan we can so im hoping its nice. Then im back to work 2 weeks after that, the more time goes by, the more I want to be a sahm . Not going to like going back.

Marcs also getting rid of his 2 seater sports car for a nice Renault Laguna, will be handy for May!

I started my period 3 days ago, glad ive got a 'cycle' now I can work on. Feels wierd though that im not planning an ovulation day in 10 days time!

Xxx

 

[ttc_lolly]

Wow well done on Poppy's gain ally! You must be making jersey cream like me how is your scar? Millie's the same and will usually go down properly at around 11, sometimes later. I'm not too bothered right now as I think she's far too young to be in any sort of routine. We'll probably look at putting her in her cot when she's around 4 months old as that's what we did with Amber, and hopefully we can start some sort of bedtime routine then.

Inoue, I'm not taking Millie for her jabs that's what I meant in my last post. We got an appt through but I've cancelled it, will reschedule in the next couple of months well done Reimi on her weight gain too! I know what you mean about their little personalities starting to shine through - its so amazing to see. I am already forgetting what Millie as a newborn was like, time is just flying by.

Pops, poor little Flynn - how is he now? That's still a marvellous weight and I'm sure he'll make up for the loss in no time happy 8 weeks to Flynn & Millie too!

Not much new to report here - the colief has really done the trick for Millie's colic and she's such a happier baby, I'm so relieved and pleased! We have just booked our summer holiday to Menorca, I can't wait for our first family holiday of 4! Hoping the girls don't run circles around us too much when we are out there Amber was always easiest as a immobile baby on holidays so I'm sure it'll be the same with Millie, and it'll be Amber that's hard work!