Its June!!!!! 20 week scan next month!!! Whos with me?

[Scally]

After Izzy was born we were so bad with our eating! We are going to make a lasagne, stew, cottage pie, mac cheese and freeze them as well as stocking up on portioned meat and sauces. Izzy loves pasta too!

We havent had our post yet, are they actually checking the care from Colchester hospital? I do hope they have improved since I was there with Izzy, thats one of the main things I am worried about is the after care!

x

 

[ttc_lolly]

I can't wait for Red Dwarf Kellie! We've got it set on reminder

Ally - I think I'm going to hold off washing the moses basket fabrics until I'm around 36-37w. As you say, I don't want them to get too dusty before then. I'll probably drape a sheet over it all after it's been cleaned. Going to start my hospital bag next week I think as it's payday and I need to buy everything yet!

Offer got accepted on the house so it's all systems go now, scary to think we could possibly be moving with a very young newborn! I can't wait to just get in and start making the place our own, but I think January will be a good time as baby will be a couple of months old and it might be a bit easier for me x

 

[ttc_lolly]

Oh and I'm planning on stocking the freezer up, but will probably stock up on meats and veg too and just make a lot of slow cooker meals!

 

[Scally]

Yay for the house Lauryn!!!!! I think with the move you and the kids could go somewhere and leave everyone else to sort it out for you!

That reminds me I want to get a slow cooker, i figure it'd very good to have as can put things in to cook when i get chance!

x

 

[Scally]

Kellie- post has just arrived and i have a letter too! Shame its not about after care, but maybe it would have improved! So basically they just want to know how much info we received about breastfeeding?! x

 

[ttc_lolly]

Slow cookers are the way forward, I'm telling you! I make so much in mine and it's really easy. Curries, soups, casseroles, stews etc etc. Ours was only £16 too, bargain!

 

[Sarahcake]

Thanks guys He's feeling old today bless him, he's only 32 and he thinks that he is past it lol daft sod He's gone to work with an awful headache though so im hoping that shifts pronto for him as were supposed to be going out for a meal with him and friends tonight.

Kellie, how odd! It is such an rare surname, one ive never seen before that's for sure. Gotta get used to spelling it on the fly when Logan is here mind, currently I can write it fine but always mess up spelling it aloud haha! Wow well done you on being so organised! Especially seeing as your thinking of storing meals! That thought hadnt even crossed my mind! Hopefully Luke settles down for you more this evening and that last night was just a one off.

Ally, sorry to hear that you arnt sleeping There's nothing worse than feeling tired and drained, It hits me hard enough and I dont have a LO to look after so cant imagine how knackered you must be come the end of the day.

The situation with my friend is a delicate one that myself and my OH havnt quite figured how were going to sort...Long story as short as I can make it, since she found out we were expecting, she has gone into excitement overdrive, referring to him as her little man etc. Its gotten so bad now that Neil confessed the other day he feels like shes pushing him away from the baby as she's already tried to override some of his decisions. The most petty sounding thing in the world but one occasion she asked Neil if he had any father son things he wanted to do with Logan, he said that he wanted to watch the Star Wars films with him, enjoy them together, use that as an opportunity to bond - something which im more than happy about, he never expected to be a parent, ever, so has found it hard to bond with the bump and he's worried about bonding when he is here so I will actively encourage anything that he wants to do with his son to achieve that bond. She went mental over this, seriously mental saying that his choice of films is shit and shes going to make sure that when she has him over hers (yes shes presumed he will spend a few nights a week with her....) shes going to make sure he comes home and doesnt like it any more...all because shes not a star wars fan herself.

It sounds hurrendously petty, but its the best example I can think of about her overstepping her mark...the bathing stuff is no different. She deliberately went out and bought better than what we could have gotten..its a control thing, we can have that when she says so and not before Thing is, she is genuinely lovely, just has really strong opinions on things and doesn't quite realise where the line is and that shes sprinting over it. So if you see on my status's my OH get angry with someone over something that is said regarding Logan - this is why. You may have noticed it on a status where she is adament that he will arrive on halloween...shes been bugging me for ages to make sure i get an induction on halloween...Neil is sick to the back teeth of it.

Holy crap that was quite the rant...sorry!!!

 

[Sarahcake]

Pops!! I adore your nursery! Well done you, thats gorgeous!

 

[ttc_lolly]

What the hell Sarah, is she for real!?! I would have probably hit the roof, your poor OH how dare she say that and just presume your LO will be staying at hers!?!?! I would have laughed at her and said ''Yeh right, Logan will never be staying around yours! We'll be attached parenting, don't ya know!? '' seriously though she sounds like a right cow! And with regards to her buying stuff that you wouldn't have been able to afford, as nice as it is, baby doesn't need something that costs the earth. As long as it's safe and tested by the manufacturers, or in perfect condition if preloved then that's all he needs. I wouldn't like her attitude at all and would more than likely buy the stuff myself (no matter how little it costs, Logan isn't going to know the difference) and tell her her stuff is no longer needed. I wouldn't want her holding anything over my head in the future, like ''Ohhh but it was ok when I spent x amount on that changing mat for you...'' iykwim? A weird predicament as she's your friend I know, but Logan is yours & OH's and she has no claim to him whatsoever. If she buys you a gift she should just give it to you! Rant over

 

[Sarahcake]

Lmao I agree with you! Its so frustrating because shes a really good friend in literally every other respect but she's just driving us insane over Logan. Its as if she feels she really has a claim to him equal to us. Currently, its a bit more difficult for us to say no you wont be taking him when you want etc because she will use the giving us a break from parenting line but I intend on being very very firm when he's actually here with us. Will be easier too as she cant just physically take him and I can say no sorry, he's wingy/tired/needs feeding so you cant have him etc.

She can try what she likes with me, she can try and tell me when im having him, what she plans for him all she likes, I know that she wont be doing that...its the bond between Neil and Logan I worry about...she's so opinionated, if you like something she doesnt my god you know about it...Neil is just thinking that he is going to spend time with Logan, get close and then she is going to just influence that out of spite as he's 'her little man'...she said to me yesterday that Neil should just go back to work for the time he would be off on maternity leave as he wont miss anything important, and its all stuff she could do for me....took everything I had to not bite on that one it really did.

I wont have that kind of crap, she tries and she will see my temper. Just hope that when he is here, we are able to keep her at bay so we can both have time with him, alone, as a family.

Its the sole reason I wont be telling anyone, besides you ladies when I am in labour as I know she will be wanting in the room too, likely telling Neil to just go home and rest and she will handle it.

I know I paint such a bad picture of her, its probably as im ranting on lol but she really is the perfect friend in every other way, thats why its a bit more delicate than just telling her to fuck off as I dont think she realises shes being so pushy as its just her nature.

 

[ttc_lolly]

That's understandable. Maybe you could politely tell her that she's overstepping the mark on some parts, and although you know how to take it, Neil doesn't quite and he's worring enough as a new dad to be without someone else trying to butt in as the third (and very unwanted!) wheel? It will be a lot easier once Logan is here, you can just turn your phone off and not answer the door then you can say you'd had a bad night and you were all asleep or whatever!

 

[Sarahcake]

Yeah I think thats what Im going to do. The novelty may wear off when he is here and she realises that its noit just a case of picking him up and taking him out, or having him over hers...theres routines to follow, crying will be done etc. If it doesnt wear off then I shall be asking her to butt out a little bit. Its just hard as she will massively take offense to that and I dont want to cause arguements but at the same time, I want to be firm enough that the point is taken in by her!

 

[ttc_lolly]

Yeh exactly. Well your his mum and Neil's his dad so you have final say if she wants to take offence then that's her own problem, but hopefully she won't!

Happy 33 weeks btw, you are now under 50 days to go ! And 32 weeks today for me time's going so fast now I think x

 

[Sarahcake]

Happy 32 weeks to you and thank you! Your right, it is going so fast now. Cant believe my due date is less than 50 days away! I feel so unprepared! lol

 

[ttc_lolly]

You and me both!!

 

[time]

Hey everyone!

Your nursery is gorgeous pops! Mine will hopefully be finished by the weekend and then the cot gets delivered next week! So exciting!!

Kellie you sound so prepared now! I'm planning on making a lot of bolognese, stews etc and freezing them in a few weeks, as well as having sauces etc in so we don't end up having a takeaway every night which I know we would!

Had a few hours off today and went and bought a few things.. I have grown so much this last week I hardly recognized myself in the changing room mirrors I am gigantic!!! Will have to take a recent bump pic!

 

[ttc_lolly]

Did you buy much time? Next week is payday and I'm going to finally finish getting stuff I think, mainly hospital bag things.

Here's my bump today at 32w - I feel mahoosive!

https://i1129.photobucket.com/albums/m503/laurynp86/32cropped.png

 

[time]

Got quite a few big wooly jumpers and leggings as I know I'll be living in those for the next few weeks and then once baby's born. And I got a few bits in the h and m sale that were soo cheap I couldn't resist even though I swore no more big baggy baby clothes haha!

I might have enough clothes now to finish my hospital bag as I was just going to throw an outfit for me in when I set off to hospital as I don't have enough clothes to pack them now haha

 

[time]

Your bump is lovely Lauren very neat! X

 

[Scally]

Happy 33 weeks Sarah!

And 32 weeks Lauryn! Lovely bump!

And seriously wtf is with your friend Sarah, i know she is perfect in every other way but she sounds very stalkerish and jealous when it comes to you, Neil and Logan! I think you need to maybe put a ban on visitors in that first bit (mainly her) until Neil gets a bit more confidence, she's likely to say a small remark to him which will put him off. Is she your friend more than both of you? it sounds like you might need to put your foot down alot, but will be easier once Logan is here. As for the things she has bought you, thats very lovely, but you need them now, prepared and all ready before he arrives- otherwise she'll be there straight away with the excuse of having to give you the things!

I have overdone it with the walking again, have done about 5 miles today, I got slower and slower as it went on, I almost crawled the last bit home! haha!

x