Its June!!!!! 20 week scan next month!!! Whos with me?

[Sarahcake]

I know what you mean, ive known a few people really struggle and not spoken out about it for fear of being judged, because people do, and those people are assholes lol Tis one of the reasons ill be avoiding baby club on here, ill drop into the light hearted threads but I dont think I will be asking advice as everyone that does, seems to be jumped on from a great hight and I hate seeing it.

Im one of the least judgemental people around so dont ever be afraid to say anything around me Whilst a first time mum myself, I know babies are tough to take care of and emotions just go crazy when your surviving on such little sleep. I may not have answers for you, but ill be here should you need to vent in a totally non judgy environment

It really is crazy how different they can be, the books and classes and things teach you that all babies are pretty much the same, ie they will all wake at night, several times, they will all hit the same milestones at similar times etc and in reality, its very different to that isnt it.

 

[kellie_w]

Ally, I'll pm you my mobile number on Facebook, then we must must meet!

I can't believe how similar things have been for us, same birth problems, the colic etc. I don't like admitting how I felt for the first 3 months after, and please girls don't let me scare you. As ally said, all babies are different! This is my confession: I used to cry all the time, I wanted my life back, to go back to work, to go back to normal. Nothing felt like it would ever be normal again. This wasn't what I had imagined, I was going to have a baby who just slept and gurgled happily who I would dress in the cutest clothes. I couldn't dress or bath him for fear of hurting him and was scared to put him down incase I was saw as neglecting him.he just cried day and night. And it was all my fault. I caused it by failing to deliver normally, failing to breastfeed, failing my son who I had desperately wanted for so long. But things got better, the smiles started, the crying got less, the nights got better. Then at 6 months, we had the worst scare. Doctors, ambulance, suspected meningitis. I thank god everyday it wasnt but that was the turning point for me.

And it's true, there is no where to turn, my mum told me if I told my hv how I felt then ss would be involved. So you just act everything is fine. It will be great to have this thread go on after birth, to let out if any of us are feeling low or struggling. I love that I have met such amazing people on this thread, and so pleased we have shared our pregnancies x

 

[kellie_w]

And I'm with Sarah, I'll be avoiding baby club. It was awful in there last time round! I remember when the popular and unpopular threads started... Who cares how popular you are?! And the bragging...erg... I'm staying here! X

 

[time]

Wow 34 weeks ally! So exciting!

My nipples have been leaking for weeks now but not a lot and I've never had any embarrassing leaks yet haha not through a top or anything! My blobs are massive don't know if that has anything to do with it.. I've always been a 32e so luckily they haven't grown much ha!

I know what you mean about picturing baby here Sarah, I don't think it hits home until you do actually bring them home though! We set the moses basket up about 2 months ago to get our doggy used to it (waste of time he couldn't have cared less!!) and it did seem strange that soon there will be a baby in there! That finally hit me then so it may for you once you start filling the house with baby things.

Ally I'm the same I can't remember not being pregnant haha but then it's gone so quick I can't believe it!

 

[pops23]

I can't picture it either, and I wonder if a lot of that is to do with the fact that I don't know whether baby is a boy or a girl? I'm so excited for the surprise but its hard to picture a baby when you don't know the sex

Sorry you ladies had hard times of it first time round but I love knowing that I will be able to talk to you on here and will try not to feel guilty about things going wrong xxx

 

[time]

Thanks for sharing that Kellie, I think it's important for people to realize it isn't always how you expect it to be once baby is here, and as ally says every baby is different and you can only plan and expect so much!

 

[Scally]

Our experiences were so similar Kellie- i can honestly say i didnt actually enjoy Izzy until she was about 3-4 months old! And even then she was hard work!
How scary with the suspected meningitis, that must have been awful!

Its funny, I used to cry all the time to dave saying i cant cope with one, and my neighbour had two and seemed to breeze through it, but a year later i got to know her and found out she hadnt found it a breeze and that she cried alot!

And Sarah- totally agree with you, and you sound so lovely, we can be non judgemental together!
Pming your phone number sounds like a great idea Kellie!

 

[Sarahcake]

You know what guys, id sooner see a couple of blatent honesty posts about how things really are than 1000 covered up happy smily posts. I know it must be hard for you guys to share your experiences, especially when people are so judgmental of everything you do and say as a mum so thank you Im sorry things were so hard for you both, and im even more sorry that you didnt have the support that you could have really used through fear of things like social services getting involved.

In truth, thats my biggest fear. I was bought up in foster care, I was emotionally and physically abused by my dads girlfriend and was abandoned as a child to take care of my 2 brothers. Because of this, I apparently am at high risk of PND so im being watched like a hawk by midwifes and will be by health visitors. I broke down to my midwife at my 16 week appointment as I just felt that if I did struggle a little bit, that would be it and he would be taken from me. Im sure that's not how it works, but its my biggest fear. So im glad I have met you guys so that I can rant on and share my concearns and my thoughts without worry of ss being involved.

Pops, that was one of the reasons I wanted to find out the sex. Logan himself was a massive suprise and I just couldnt cope with having his sex a suprise too. I needed to know as much as I could so I could get used to the fact I was having a baby in my mind - if that makes any sense! I think I would really struggle with team yellow as im one of those that needs to know every detail about what is going on! But I am so jealous of that awesome suprise you are going to get in that labour room!

 

[ttc_lolly]

The leaky nipples wasn't too bad, thank god! I think it was just over night it happened. Shocked me in to going to Asda though and I have stocked up on breast pads, maternity pads and even bought some disposable briefs I didn't try them last time so thought I might give 'em a go!

I am starting to panic too... mainly about coping with 2, but also how Amber will deal with it all. She has no idea what's coming - we tell her there's a baby in mummy's tummy and she says her name and rubs my bump but she doesn't actually realise I don't think! She's the least clingy kid ever though, and isn't bothered at all when I hold other babies or children, so hopefully she'll be fine. I do feel a little sad for her though, she had me all to herself and now she's going to have share me

 

[time]

Haha lauryn! I've stocked up on all that jazz too, ordered a load more maternity pads from mothercare and got some of those pants too! So glam!!

So many people cope with 2 that I wouldn't worry it will just fit into place I'm sure! Your older ones will probably grow up fast once baby is here! My sil has just announced she is 9weeks pregnant again and my niece is only 9 months old so that's a big shocker! Don't know how I would cope with 2 so very close in age, only 15 months.

 

[ttc_lolly]

Wow your SIL is very, very brave!! Amber's still pretty young, and I worry about being out with them both on my own, if baby starts crying and Amber starts fussing etc but I can't imagine having a gap that small between the 2!

 

[time]

I know it came as a massive shock as her baby is still such a baby if you get me, not eating solid foods fully, not talking or walking and now she's pregnant again and for me the tiredness, sickness etc as well as having a baby waking 4 or 5 times a night would kill me!

 

[ttc_lolly]

I remember Amber being 9 months old, and at the time thought she was sooo grown up (in comparison to a newborn!) but looking back now and comparing her to how she was she was very much still a baby baby, if that makes sense!? Her LO will be not long walking then when the new baby comes along... in to everything! Teething... tantrums... good luck to her!

 

[Sarahcake]

Wow, brave woman having two that young! Will be hard work but Id imagine those babies will be really very close as they grow up which is lovely.

 

[time]

Yeah the thought terrifies me but she seems completely at ease! Fair play to her!

Don't know if there is a Boyes near any of you.. It's sort of like a big store that sells everything you could think of haha.. Went into one yesterday and they had some gorgeous baby things on sale.. Got some knitted cardigans for £2.99 and they had some pink vests with frilly sleeves for £1!! Will pop in there again when we're in the area.

 

[time]

Ooh and we're now a honeydew not a squash Sarah haha x

 

[Sarahcake]

I saw that yesterday and did a little happy dance! Waiting over 3 weeks for that ticker to change fruit is a pain! I liked it before when it changed every week, least you felt like you were progressing! Only one box left on one ticker and one fruit left on the other!

Cant say ive ever heard of Boyes before, Will have a nosy online and see if there's one in Sunderland! Cheers for the tip off

 

[time]

Yeah we will be watermelon next arghhh!

Boyes may be a yorkshire thing I'm not sure but definitely worth a look!

Has anyone started on the rlt yet? I started last week and after everyone telling me the tea was gross I actually love it!!

 

[Sarahcake]

Im thinking of going and getting myself some rlt over the weekend. Where do you get it from? Is it a Holland and Barratt type thing?

 

[ttc_lolly]

I've got the capsules, and got them from H&B Sarah, you can buy the tea there too I think

There's a Boyes in Notts, but I don't think they have any down here. Will have to ask my sister to pop in to the one near hers and see what they've got