IUI today

[Mendy]

Went in for my last IUI, and things are not looking good. RE came in and said DH's count is lower than it's ever been...out of the total 5 million sperm collected, only 1 million were good sperm they could use, so that's what I got....1 million is the lowest they go to do IUI, and anything under 5 million is not a good chance, so I'm on the lower end of a successful pregnancy with IUI.

I'm already not feeling good about this cycle, I mean, I KNOW it only takes one, but it didn't happen when there were 2 million and it didn't happen when there were 3 million, so what makes me think 1 million will do the trick?

If it doesn't happen this time, then we will do in vitro, but it won't be for about another year or two. We just really need to get some $ saved up for it...and I sense a horrible meltdown coming 2 weeks from now...I just FEEL it.

Especially because if it doesn't happen I have to wait a looooonnng time before we even start trying again and before I can start thinking about the possibility of holding my own baby one day.

I can' believe how involved and how emotional this TTC business is....there are days I honestly feel I can't do this any longer.

I know I'm sounding like a little whiner right now, especially because there are others on here who have tried way longer than I, but I can't help it. In a week I will be hitting my 1 year mark of TTC. I surely thought I would've had my first baby by now!

This is just how I'm feeling right now.

 

[NeyNey]

Aw honey I'm sorry.
But it's still early days for this cycle. Try not to give up hope until the fat witch sings!

 

[FJL]

You're not whinging at all!!! You have every right to feel this way.

I'm sorry that DH's sperm count wasn't very good. Is he on vits/mins to improve fertility?

I know things aren't looking good but its not going to stop me sending you some and to think good, fertile thoughts for you

Do you know prices of IVF in your area should you have to go down that road? Will your insurance cover some of that?

Thinking of you xx

 

[Beckic]

Oh sweetheart you are not being a whiner!!! you absolutely have the right to feel like this. I am so so so sorry that the results weren't good.

I really really really hope that it is successful honey - but we will all be here for you you in two weeks time if not (and well everyday in between - but you know what I mean).

Im crossing everything for you.

I cried for three days solid when I hit the 12 year mark - it bloomin hurts.

Bx x x

 

[pixielou]

Hi mendy, really hope all goes well for you and keep us all posted!

 

[chefamy1122]

oh sweetie I am really sorry his count was so low. Sending loads of and to you.

 

[lonate]

Awe Mendy I'm so sorry. I really hope that this one works for you. I just want to give you BIG !!! I know how you feel about this whole TTC thing. I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I know there is nothing I can say. Just know that you aren't alone in this. There are many of us that are going through the same emotions as you.

I am feeling very down right now as well. My 2nd IUI is a BFN (I go for b/w tomorrow for sure) and I bawled all night last night when I got home from work. Also, yesterday I found out my friend is pregnant with #2 after taking her last pack of pills last month. She got pregnant with her 1st child less than a month after getting off the bcp also. I wish I was as lucky as her.

I feel so hopeless sometimes, especially this week. I am going for IUI #3 and we are adding Follistim injections to Femara/Trigger/IUI so we will see. If that IUI is a then I will get a lap next cycle and won't be able to do another IUI until the following cycle.

My fingers are crossed for you sweetie. Feel free to pm me anytime

 

[Mendy]

You're not whinging at all!!! You have every right to feel this way.

I'm sorry that DH's sperm count wasn't very good. Is he on vits/mins to improve fertility?

I know things aren't looking good but its not going to stop me sending you some and to think good, fertile thoughts for you

Do you know prices of IVF in your area should you have to go down that road? Will your insurance cover some of that?

Thinking of you xx

Hi FJL! Yes, I know the price...starts at about $17,000 and my insurance doesn't cover anything, it would all be out of pocket.

He has been taking some vits that are especially designed to improve sperm count, but believe it or not, his count was lower this time. I don't think the vits have anything to do with it, I think they just didn't work for him. I don't get it, because he's not a drinker or smoker, he's not overweight....I guess it's our destiny...

But I really do appreciate all the positive vibes! It only takes one and I want to hang on to that thin thread of hope during my 2ww!

 

[Mendy]

Oh sweetheart you are not being a whiner!!! you absolutely have the right to feel like this. I am so so so sorry that the results weren't good.

I really really really hope that it is successful honey - but we will all be here for you you in two weeks time if not (and well everyday in between - but you know what I mean).

Im crossing everything for you.

I cried for three days solid when I hit the 12 year mark - it bloomin hurts.

Bx x x

Wow, Beckic....you have been trying for 12 years??!!!!! I really can't complain now...I admire women like you that have tried so long and keep on going strong!!!

 

[Mendy]

Awe Mendy I'm so sorry. I really hope that this one works for you. I just want to give you BIG !!! I know how you feel about this whole TTC thing. I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I know there is nothing I can say. Just know that you aren't alone in this. There are many of us that are going through the same emotions as you.

I am feeling very down right now as well. My 2nd IUI is a BFN (I go for b/w tomorrow for sure) and I bawled all night last night when I got home from work. Also, yesterday I found out my friend is pregnant with #2 after taking her last pack of pills last month. She got pregnant with her 1st child less than a month after getting off the bcp also. I wish I was as lucky as her.

I feel so hopeless sometimes, especially this week. I am going for IUI #3 and we are adding Follistim injections to Femara/Trigger/IUI so we will see. If that IUI is a then I will get a lap next cycle and won't be able to do another IUI until the following cycle.

My fingers are crossed for you sweetie. Feel free to pm me anytime

Hey Lonate!
Thanks for the encouraging words...I'm sorry about your BFN....I have had TWO girls that work with me get pregnant in the last 3 weeks. One tried for a month and the other for 2....why can't that be us??!!!

I really do hope your upcoming IUI will be lucky #3 for you...and me as well.
Thanks for all the support!

 

[Beckic]

Oh sweetheart you are not being a whiner!!! you absolutely have the right to feel like this. I am so so so sorry that the results weren't good.

I really really really hope that it is successful honey - but we will all be here for you you in two weeks time if not (and well everyday in between - but you know what I mean).

Im crossing everything for you.

I cried for three days solid when I hit the 12 year mark - it bloomin hurts.

Bx x x

Wow, Beckic....you have been trying for 12 years??!!!!! I really can't complain now...I admire women like you that have tried so long and keep on going strong!!!

OOOPPPs - meant 12 months mark (actually been trying now for two and half years) - sorry!!!!!!!

bx x

 

[Mendy]

Oh...wow! That's a huge difference!!!

It's still heartwrenching, though...no matter how long you've tried.

Best of luck to you, hun!

 

[Beckic]

Hope you are bearin up ok sweetheart?

Bx x

 

[Mendy]

Hey Beckic!

Thanks for checking up on me. I'm ok. I'm actually not thinking about it too much, or trying not to at least, just keeping busy and trying to stay positive!!!

11 days to go!!!!

 

[FJL]

I know what you mean about sperm Mendy. My DH is the same, non smoker, not overweight, looks after himself, eats well, is active, a few beers here and there and thats it and his sperm is so bad in everyway. Yet some lowlife drop kick who is a drug addict, alcho, heavy smoker, treats his body like crap can have normal sperm...Its just not fair!!!!

Wow...those IVF prices are really scary. What is the go with health insurance if you swapped to a company that would cover IVF? Have you got to be with them for a certain amount of time to get cover on something like this? Have you thought (but hopefully this IUI will work and you won't have to!) about travelling o/s for treatment? I know that would be hard with extra expenses such as travel, accomodation, time off work etc but it might just work out cheaper.

Just some food for thought for you. This is a link to my clinic regarding international patients https://www.sydneyivf.com/AboutUs/Worldwideservices/PatientsoutsideAustralia/tabid/83/Default.aspx

You'd be looking at around $9,000 for a full cycle (FS appointments, tests and some drugs are not included) so if you took that + air fares + accomodation and time off work you'd not really be saving any $$$ BUT there are much cheaper clinics here in oz so if you want anymore info just let me know.

I hope you don't mind me posting that in this thread...i'm hoping so badly that you don't need the worry of all of that and that IUI works for you

 

[akcher]

Wishing you all the luck and lots of for this cycle.

 

[Mendy]

I know what you mean about sperm Mendy. My DH is the same, non smoker, not overweight, looks after himself, eats well, is active, a few beers here and there and thats it and his sperm is so bad in everyway. Yet some lowlife drop kick who is a drug addict, alcho, heavy smoker, treats his body like crap can have normal sperm...Its just not fair!!!!

Wow...those IVF prices are really scary. What is the go with health insurance if you swapped to a company that would cover IVF? Have you got to be with them for a certain amount of time to get cover on something like this? Have you thought (but hopefully this IUI will work and you won't have to!) about travelling o/s for treatment? I know that would be hard with extra expenses such as travel, accomodation, time off work etc but it might just work out cheaper.

Just some food for thought for you. This is a link to my clinic regarding international patients https://www.sydneyivf.com/AboutUs/Worldwideservices/PatientsoutsideAustralia/tabid/83/Default.aspx

You'd be looking at around $9,000 for a full cycle (FS appointments, tests and some drugs are not included) so if you took that + air fares + accomodation and time off work you'd not really be saving any $$$ BUT there are much cheaper clinics here in oz so if you want anymore info just let me know.

I hope you don't mind me posting that in this thread...i'm hoping so badly that you don't need the worry of all of that and that IUI works for you

Hello FJL!

No, I do not mind you posting that on this thread, I have to be realistic, and I have to face the fact that this may not work and I may end up having to go through IVF. So I need to start looking at all my options.

I suggested o/s treatment to DH, but he started doing the math and it seems like it would end up costing about the same with lodging and air travel, plus we would be missing days off work, so that would be that extra money not coming in. Of course, we just took the average $9,000 into consideration (I believe you mentioned that figure to me before) and it may be more than that.

As far as switching insurances, we've been researching and we've found that not too many insurances cover IVF, and those that do only cover about a third of the costs. That's what I've found for California, at least, I'm not sure about other states. We are planning on moving to Texas late next year, and we will have to see if it's cheaper there, and if it is, we may have to wait until then.

But you are right, over and over I keep asking myself why we are going through this. DH has never done any of the things recommended not to do when TTC, yet we still have this problem!

Oh, BTW, I looked at the Sydney IVF link....wow, how informative! Just by reading and going through a few of their pages, I felt so hopeful and felt like they can help me too! If it was any way possible for me to travel o/s, I would love to get treated at that clinic, they seem so professional and helpful! Thanks for that link, it definitely gave me a better idea on how IVF works!

But for now, all I can do is hope and wait!!!