IUIs 2014!!! Let's do this!!!

[xurfingers]

I need some advice/commiseration: Do any of you have major trouble planning vacations with all of this fertility business going on? We're teachers, and are trying to plan a trip for spr. break. It seems like vacation planning -- more for me than for my husband -- is where all the anxiety comes out:
1. What if we need to do IVF and we need to save our money? Would we then cancel flights or put them off or put off the procedure? Better to plan a trip that doesn't involve flights?
2. We love to travel, so maybe we should just go for it and plan something we want to do -- take advantage of our childlessness. But if we do something fun, will we feel guilty for spending that kind of money on ourselves when we maybe should be saving it for IVF? My parents offered to help with $ for IVF, but I don't want to seem like LALALA we need your help with that medical procedure because we really need to go take in some RAYS on a beach.

So much is bound up in traveling -- obligation, guilt, anxiety about the unknown outcomes of these procedures. Have any of you dealt with these issues in your fertility journeys? This is one bizarre complication that I find it difficult to talk about. Any advice or solutions you found that worked for you? I'd be really curious and comforted to hear.

My suggestion would be to wait for the ivf until after your vacation. More than likely, you will be placed on BCPs for a period of time before the ivf to quiet your ovaries before beginning the stimming process. IVF is intense once you start... You will see your doctor almost every day as your follicles grow larger and are close to being mature. It's very difficult to work during this time due to so many appointments and you will absolutely feel like crap once the follicles get larger. It's a no brainer. You have to wait till after vacation or cancel the vacation.

 

[moni77]

BFN today at 2 weeks post IUI. Guess I'm waiting for AF...

 

[Dini]

BFN today at 2 weeks post IUI. Guess I'm waiting for AF...

Same here Moni

We won't be doing another IUI this cycle or probably next because of finances. I thought maybe after income taxes but we have to catch up on things and have work that needs done to my Jeep so I think it will wait until March or April..guess I'm out for a 2014 baby.

 

[xurfingers]

BFN today at 2 weeks post IUI. Guess I'm waiting for AF...

Same here Moni

We won't be doing another IUI this cycle or probably next because of finances. I thought maybe after income taxes but we have to catch up on things and have work that needs done to my Jeep so I think it will wait until March or April..guess I'm out for a 2014 baby.

Hun, I know from experience that you need to deal with your husband's morphology issues or you are probably just wasting your time. We've spent the last 2 1/2 years trying to go around the morphology with IUI'S AND IVF.... We changed REs and he put my DH on a vitamin cocktail for 3 months. His morphology went from 1% to 4% in 75 days. This is our first cycle ttc with the improved morphology. Most fertility clinics usually focus on the female but there are some doctors who realize that the male is just as important. You definitely should have your DH take the vitamins during your ttc break... I promise it will only make things better! And Clomid is not going to help your success rates at all hun. If your DH has 1%morphology, that means only 1 sperm out of 100 is normal.

 

[welshgem]

Same here Moni & Dini. I'm one day off my official testing day but got a BFN yesterday & today. Started spotting brown blood yesterday which then stopped. Just as I was on my way out yesterday evening, I had a sudden wet feeling which I thought was AF starting but when I ran to the loo it was just lots of watery cm mixed with creamy pink cm. I put a tampon in and a few hours later there was a streak or two of blood on it (tmi sorry).

But nothing this morning. No streaks or spots on the toilet paper or in my knickers.

I normally get brown cm before AF shows so I think it's just a matter of time.

 

[moni77]

sorry welsh...

 

[xurfingers]

10 dpo, BFN. Looking more like IUI next month... Ugh!

 

[Regalpeas]

Sorry for bfn. I'm one week down one to go.

 

[welshgem]

Frer this morning at 14dpiui was a BFN so awaiting for my next schedule from the clinic now. Not sure how long I'll have to wait as I have to fit in with their times so I'll be prescribed Norethisterone again.

 

[3chords]

I'm sorry moni, dini and welsh! I was really hoping we'd have a blockbuster thread here.

Good luck to everyone who is still in for this month...

 

[beaglemom]

I am hoping to have my first IUI later this week...but I have a few concerning factors. First, my regular gyno is doing it, so I will not be able to do it if I O on the weekend (just using opk, no trigger). I am thinking I will O around Fri...so I am REALLY hoping it happens earlier. I use the clear blue monitor & have gotten highs since Saturday. Backing it up with opks. I got a neg at 10 am today. Also I am in NC & they are calling for snow. In my part of NC they shut down & freak out over snow. So I am hoping this does not delay anything.

 

[gabbygabz]

Hugs to those waiting for AF ... here's to February!

AFM, 12dpo today and still in it but who knows. I'm a mid-cycle spotter and so far nothing so that's promising but it's still such a crazy waiting game. Hoping to wait to test until Wednesday but we'll see! There's a drugstore downstairs in my office building calling my name!

 

[lamago]

When are you planning on testing gaby?

 

[gabbygabz]

So if I can hold out, Wednesday, but honestly ... I may start this afternoon! For my first BFP (which sadly ended in an early miscarriage) I figured out that my hcg levels typically show much stronger later in the day so I'm tempted to grab some FRERs and check it out.

 

[3chords]

gabby, your chart looks good!

 

[heidiliz626]

7dpiui and the progesterone supp. Is killing me. Sore boobs, irritability, major increased appetite, complete exhaustion... man i hope this ends in a bfp! Testing in 8 days...

 

[Dini]

BFN today at 2 weeks post IUI. Guess I'm waiting for AF...

Same here Moni

We won't be doing another IUI this cycle or probably next because of finances. I thought maybe after income taxes but we have to catch up on things and have work that needs done to my Jeep so I think it will wait until March or April..guess I'm out for a 2014 baby.

Hun, I know from experience that you need to deal with your husband's morphology issues or you are probably just wasting your time. We've spent the last 2 1/2 years trying to go around the morphology with IUI'S AND IVF.... We changed REs and he put my DH on a vitamin cocktail for 3 months. His morphology went from 1% to 4% in 75 days. This is our first cycle ttc with the improved morphology. Most fertility clinics usually focus on the female but there are some doctors who realize that the male is just as important. You definitely should have your DH take the vitamins during your ttc break... I promise it will only make things better! And Clomid is not going to help your success rates at all hun. If your DH has 1%morphology, that means only 1 sperm out of 100 is normal.

I'm well aware his morphology issues is one of our biggest issues. Drugs can get me to ovulate, although this last time it took 200mg, next time we will try Femara. My RE did put DH on the vitamin cocktail, he's been on it for almost 2 months now and that was only one SA and sometimes it takes more than one to be sure of an issue. I'm a nurse so I'm good with Doc's, and I think ours is really good, he has been upfront and honest, and gave us the option to try naturally or at least timed intercourse but our chances with that are only about 3% per cycle and the IUI gives us 12-15% because although his morphology was bad, his count was great, and even post wash he had over 15mil, so if 1% were normal that's still a lot of normal, fast moving sperm, a lot better chance than doing nothing. I see you are from Cincinnati. I'm from north of Dayton. I go to the RE in Kettering.

We will be doing nothing for a few months though, I'm having my gallbladder removed Wednesday. The fertility drugs did a number on my system now my gallbladder is obstructed and needs to come out ASAP. I've lost 10lbs just because I can barely eat. I am ready for a break and maybe after a few month's we'll repeat DH's SA and see if the vitamins and cutting way back on caffeine have helped.

 

[moni77]

Good luck with the surgery Dini - who knows maybe the vitamins will boost it enough that you get a positive the natural way!!

 

[welshgem]

Good luck with the gallbladder removal Dini.

By way of a quick update, I phoned my FS yesterday to let her know I had a BFN on testing day and now I'm waiting for a new schedule. I've stopped taking the progesterone so she said I should expect AF in the next couple of days. Then I have to go on Norethisterone again but I don't really understand why or when yet. Last time I used it to hold AF off but then that will mean it'll be a good month before IUI #2. I should get my schedule in the post today or tomorrow so I'll let you all know.

 

[lamago]

Has anyone heard from hatethewait?