IUIs 2014!!! Let's do this!!!

[welshgem]

Oh heath, I'm sorry to hear about the bfn. It always seems like Sod's law that your friends and family get pregnant when you're trying.

I'm only taking a prenatal vitamin but my friend who just got pregnant after 18 months of trying swears that it was no dairy that did it for her.

 

[beaglemom]

I also wanted to add I am eating brazil nuts in the TWW along with pineapple core dpo 1-5. Supposed to help with implantation.

 

[Flannelsheets]

Well I'm officially out now. I got a BFN last night and a visit from AF this morning. I really thought this would be our month as it seems like everything was lining up. We had our IUI on Christmas Eve so I was hoping for a Christmas miracle! On top of that I found out my friend who has been trying for 2 months is pregnant. It just doesn't seem fair that is can be so easy (not to mention cheap) for others but so hard for all of us.

I will begin taking Femara again in a few days and then try for our third IUI. I have been taking a fish oil pill along with pre-natal but I was wondering if anyone uses any other kind of herbs/vitamins along with the Femara (ex: bee pollen, royal jelly)?

I'm out, too. Our nurse called with the BFN. (Our IUI was on Christmas day -- pretty much the same timing, heath...)

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I mean, happy for her, but ... you know.. About 6 of my friends are pregnant or just had babies -- it has really cut down on the number of friends I feel I can be really honest with at this particular time in my life. It's rough.

I'll start clomid when I get my period (was on progesterone, so it might take a few days to start), and then we'll do our 2nd IUI. Is the neg. result any easier after the 2nd one? (I'm guessing not..) I had to ask the nurse today for a pep-talk. I'm glad I did -- I feel more positive now.

Onwards & upwards (with some well-earned self-pity in the mix, too..)

 

[beaglemom]

Good luck on your next round...try to keep up with the positive thoughts...it can only help.

 

[lamago]

plus it's depressing to be depressed!

 

[Flannelsheets]

plus it's depressing to be depressed!

It IS depressing! You're right! Went for a run and out to dinner with the hubby. Things are looking up. Waiting for AF to show up to get the next party started.

 

[beaglemom]

Sometimes I see negative results as one more month of freedom, you know? I can drink every once in a while, have some mt dew, fast food. Not that I don't want to have a baby, just one way to put a positive spin on a bad outcome.

 

[welshgem]

Sorry about the bfn Flannelsheets. It totally sucks and I'm trying to maintain a healthy PMA but at the same time trying not to build my hopes up specifically for the bfn day because I can't take the overwhelming disappointment when it comes.

It is hard when you feel you can't share it with friends either. Besides my boss (well, his wife), nobody I know well has gone through this so they just don't understand.

 

[lamago]

I have a few of my friends that are struggling with me. We don't catch up on TTC as regularly about it because we want to have fun and try to put it out of our minds. I have other friends that struggled and now have kids so they can relate but it's still hard to share with them bc of the not knowing when I'll get to the other side. But I've been pretty open with friends/family about it. I hate feeling like it's a dirty little secret!

 

[beaglemom]

I don't tell people. Only because of the expectation of a pregnancy. I have one friend who knows about the infertility but not that we are trying again. Another friend who had her own struggles & got pregnant knows everything & I talk to her sometimes. But it tends to only be about that, so it gets old & I start to feel like I am a burden to her. But I love the forum & I also have my husband to talk to all the time.

 

[heath81003]

Sorry about the BFN flannelsheets and no I don't think it get's any easier with each BFN. I just try to stay as positive as possible and try not to let it overcome my life.

Out of all of my friends, there are only 2 of us left who doesn't have a child or is pregnant. And each of my friends have been able to conceive within 2 months of trying, so none of them really understand what it's like. I try not to talk about it much because I don't want people to feel sorry for me. beaglemom - I like your thoughts about using the BFN as another month of "freedom." I always like to treat myself to a nice big glass of wine as soon as AF shows up!

That's why I love this forum because I feel we are the only ones who can truly understand what it's like.

 

[3chords]

I've only talked to three friends, all of whom have had their own struggles with fertility, and my Mom (because I can't not tell her this!).

One of my friends went all the way through with IVF (3 rounds) before "giving up". I think she may try again in a couple of years, she's 37 now so she still has a bit of time, but she has Stage IV endo and she basically also just ran out of $. Sucks that this costs SO much. My other friend had unexplained infertility, they thought tubes were blocked, they thought may be thyroid problem, etc...took her 16 cycles to get pregnant and then she had a pretty premature baby. My third friend had a very late loss (24 wks), 2 miscarriages since that and 15 months of infertility since then. Also unexplained.

My other friends either got pregnant by so much as coming within 2 feet of a man, or they are career women who explicitly don't want children. So while I love them and they are lovely, I really don't feel like sharing my story with them and I can't blame them either for not understanding what this is like.

 

[lamago]

Wow chords, so sad to hear about your friend with 3 ivfs. So hard being in this boat. Going to go vent now

 

[Flannelsheets]

It's interesting to hear so many approaches to telling/not telling friends. I go through phases with this, but am mostly a teller. In telling, I've learned about 3 friends going through IVF, and one also suffering with unexplained infertility who may soon do IUI. Obviously the friends who have gone through infertility struggles can always relate and have good things to say (and this forum is so great for commiseration), but my best friend is pregnant right now (due any day), and she's been my best support. I'm glad I gave her the benefit of the doubt and confided all this stuff in her -- it goes to show that it's sometimes more about a person's capacity for empathy than it is about their shared experience.

My mom, on the other hand, I have not yet given that benefit of the doubt... It's a complicated relationship..

Still waiting for AF to show up after stopping progesterone. Any day now, lady!

 

[lamago]

Flannel, You are so right that people will surprise you even when you think they could not understand. For me it's more on MY side. I get selfish and start wishing I was on the other end and it makes it harder for me. Altough, I'm lucky I don't have anybody close to me pregnant right now because I don't know how I'd deal with it. Of course, I'd be happy for them, but I might have a hard time being close to them.

 

[heath81003]

Do any of you have any experience with acupuncture or have you heard any success stories of doing it with IUI? I was thinking about trying it out, but I'm not sure about the added costs on top of the IUI.

 

[Dini]

Hi ladies! I don't think I've joined you all yet, may I?

My second IUI is tomorrow after finally getting a follicle after stair stepping to 200mg of Clomid. I got a big old 26mm, so that's gonna hurt when I O!

DH has very low (1%) morphology so IUI or IVF is our only option, but IVF isn't because of the cost.

3chords - Your friend must be devastated. I just can't imagine, this is hard enough!

I have found this time around I'm a teller. This is our 4th year of TTC and not a single one of my friends has suffered from infertility, all of them have children, most young ones, or are pregnant. My best friend has a 16year old and doesn't want anymore so she's been my biggest support. I used to not talk about it but I couldn't handle the constant baby showers and baby talk anymore so I told them, even people at work because I'm a nurse and guess what, nurses make lots of babies! People have learned not to come running to me with cute pictures or stories of their new babies, or their pregnancy journey.

I have one good friend who has 2 boys and I love seeing her videos and pictures, but everyone else seems to rub it in my face.

I do work with one guy who's wife and him have struggled. Not with conceiving but with healthy babies. After two stillborn's, they now have 2 healthy babies. So he gets it and it's nice to have him around sometimes.

My family is complicated as well. Most of them on my side are so uneducated that it's pointless to explain it. My niece on the other hand is going through the same thing so she gets it. My inlaws are great, they are very supportive and understand why we didn't come to his dad's families Christmas, lots of little ones and lots of people asking when we are going to have kids because we just got married in May.

That's my story for now. I hope you all have a great weekend!

 

[Dini]

Do any of you have any experience with acupuncture or have you heard any success stories of doing it with IUI? I was thinking about trying it out, but I'm not sure about the added costs on top of the IUI.

Oh me too! So glad you said that!!

 

[welshgem]

Good luck with the IUI Dini; 26mm is a nice big juicy follie! Let us know how it goes.

I've just got back from the clinic and had a CD11 scan. I've got two follies at 19mm on each side & my lining is triple striped at 12mm so I'm happy. I trigger on Saturday & IUI is booked in for Monday morning!

 

[beaglemom]

I have not done accupuncture, but have heard great things. It is probably something I will highly consider if I end up on the IUI track in a couple of weeks.