IVF/FET in Aug'13' - Aug'14' buddies wanted!!*13 BFP's!!**Updates on first page**

[MeganScott]

Thats a very good count Hana, good luck!

ababy - I admire your courage. I'm too chicken to test it out, didn't even buy them tests...

Yes, you're right, you're prepared and you won't be as nuts and devastated as I will be on Thursday, despite the gut feeling that its over. I'm actually thinking maybe I should try testing tomorrow morning if I don't spot through the day today? Maybe...

Be positive hon, and hang in there. The FAT lady hasn't sung for either of us yet. And even if she does, this is only your first IVF attempt, it doesn't always work at first attempt. It WILL happen.

 

[ababy4us]

Thats a very good count Hana, good luck!

ababy - I admire your courage. I'm too chicken to test it out, didn't even buy them tests...

Yes, you're right, you're prepared and you won't be as nuts and devastated as I will be on Thursday, despite the gut feeling that its over. I'm actually thinking maybe I should try testing tomorrow morning if I don't spot through the day today? Maybe...

Be positive hon, and hang in there. The FAT lady hasn't sung for either of us yet. And even if she does, this is only your first IVF attempt, it doesn't always work at first attempt. It WILL happen.

Thank you Megan

Unfortunately it was our only attempt. We cannot afford another and if we wait to save it may be too late with my cruddy eggs. I just don't know what to do.

 

[sekky]

Ababy you saw a line? (An indent line apart from the control line?) could it be that your level is still low? Just saying.

Prayerful any update? Did you test again?

Megan you are so lucky to have frosties. I haven't been that lucky with both trials. My headache just won't go away.ugh

 

[ababy4us]

Sekky- definitely BFN I don't see an indent or anything that I saw earlier. Nothing more I can do. The wine is calling my name, time to drown sorrows (not until the official beta though).

 

[TeeinAZ]

Well today I am 8dp2dt and I've just done a FRER and it is a BFN...no hint of a line. As of this morning the trigger was still in my system. Do you think I still have a chance or should I just admit this failed?

With a 2day transfer I think it might be too soon. I did a 5 day transfer and the test I took at 10dp was so light. I would wait a few more days. Don't give up!

 

[sekky]

Really still hoping tomorrow's beta says different for you. I know it might sound as wishful thinking but that's still how I feel.

Tested yesterday at 6dp5dt it was bfn too with frer. Just told myself its too early and I have late implanter(s). Only time will tell.

 

[TeeinAZ]

I tested a little over an hour ago, then chickened out and never checked it. But I finally got up the courage just now (well after the time limit for checking) and there are definitely 2 lines! Until I test again and actually check it like I'm supposed to I won't believe it but this definitely gets my hopes up!

If it is a cruel evap line I will be absolutely devastated...

That is very exciting!!! I am crossing my fingers for you!!!

 

[sekky]

Teein was it a frer?

 

[TeeinAZ]

OMG prayerful. Praying its real and you have a healthy pregnancy.

Buny have a nice boat ride and glad the grandma is better.

AFM am feeling depressed and almost certain it's over just as ababy is feeling. Woke up 4am today and the only thing I could do is cry for 2 straight hours. I didn't bother to poas will just wait till Friday which will be 10dp5dt and do a blood test to confirm my suspicion.

Aww hang in there Sekky. Have you POAS at all yet? You might have posted, but this thread is so hard to keep up with.

I had my beta on 10dp and I too didn't POAS. I was convinced I wasn't PG, I mean after my appointment I was at work just like, welp, I know what they're gonna say. I didn't feel ANYTHING and I could have sworn that AF was coming, it so felt like it everywhere.

But I was way wrong. Keep hope!!! XOXOXO

 

[TeeinAZ]

Lucie - Nice work! Thats a very good number of follies! Hope they mature good!

TeeinAZ - Wow that must be so exciting! A heartbeat! Congratulations!!!

Buny - Glad to hear grandma's doing better, have a safe trip back!

Prayerful - I hope thats a sticky bean you tested!! Do you plan to test again before OTD?

Sekky - I know what you mean about being unable to sleep, I'm up too since 3am, my migraine wouldn't let me sleep... Its 6:33am Eastern Time right now, and on a hunch I consulted my diary from the previous IVF cycle.. I found this was exactly what happened last month too.. A full blown migraine for two days, followed by spotting and AF the night before OTD... I'm so depressed, OTD is merely a formality at this point... 24 Eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, a total of seven blastocysts, 2 transferred and 5 frozen and its still failed... What can you do, huh?

I'm now reading up on how FET cycles are done, since we'll probably do a couple of FETs from the 5 we froze this cycle. Trying to look ahead, cos this seems to pretty much be the beginning of the end...

Aww Megan, keep your chin up. A lot of women go through a few cycles. And I've actually heard that FET has a higher pregnancy rate than the ET. I will be praying for you!

 

[TeeinAZ]

Had my scan yday after 10 days of stimming, responded well to stimms -

Follicle count -
12 left ;
1 x 16
2 x 15
2 x 14
1 x 13
2 x 12
2 x 11
4 x less than 10

14 x right :
(1x 30mm cyst)
1x 19
3 x 17
2 x 16
3 x 14
2 x 12
3 x 11

Doing my trigger tonight at 8.30pm and and collection 8.30am Thursday!
They said they will drain cyst at the same time.

Getting nervous! Xxxx

That is fantastic!!! Good luck!!!!

 

[JessicaG121]

I'm now reading up on how FET cycles are done, since we'll probably do a couple of FETs from the 5 we froze this cycle. Trying to look ahead, cos this seems to pretty much be the beginning of the end...

It's upwards of 80% effective, depending on your clinic. Some docs prefer FET because all of the Stims are out of your system, no trigger shot to test out, your ovaries aren't all freaked out from the FET. It will work out!

 

[TeeinAZ]

I'm now reading up on how FET cycles are done, since we'll probably do a couple of FETs from the 5 we froze this cycle. Trying to look ahead, cos this seems to pretty much be the beginning of the end...

It's upwards of 80% effective, depending on your clinic. Some docs prefer FET because all of the Stims are out of your system, no trigger shot to test out, your ovaries aren't all freaked out from the FET. It will work out!

I wish I could thumbs up a post because I would to this one. I've heard the same about the FETs. You just said it better lol

 

[TeeinAZ]

Teein was it a frer?

No, it was a cheapie from the dollar store.

 

[MeganScott]

ababy - I know what you mean about the expenses, it IS crazy expensive! But you're just 28, so you can't be out of time hon, you do have a few fertile years ahead of you right?

I have insurance, and in New Jersey IVF is covered by insurance upto a max of four retrievals in my lifetime, which I've already used up two of. We can't afford a single cycle on our own without insurance, so I was looking up options of what to do with respect to :
a) Donor Eggs (If all my fresh and FET cycles fail)
At most clinics, the compensation paid to a donor is about 8k per cycle, plus matching costs and testing costs for another approx 2k.

Additionally you'd have the IVF cycle cost for her to go through stims (you pay for meds) and retrieval (you pay for that too) and subsequent fertilization with DH's sperm and transfer.

I rejected that idea as too expensive... the donor has to be a healthy female age 21-31 yrs and I don't know anyone I could ask to even save the 10k, let alone pay the remaining expenses from pocket.

b) Donor Sharing Cycle
Some clinics have a program where you can share a donor with another couple who has chosen the same donor, and therefore, reduce your expenses by about 40%-50%. What that also means is that the number of eggs she produces, you get half of them. If you're lucky, she makes 32 eggs, if you're unlucky she makes 4 and you're screwed... a lot of couples opt for it, but I decided it wasn't for me.

c) Self Egg Donation
Now from a donor's perspective, there are some clinics that let a donor go through IVF for free if she donates half of her eggs to another couple, she doesn't get compensation but she gets free IVF in return for sharing her eggs.

If you're making decent eggs and are in that age range (which I believe you are) you could easily donate your eggs - half of them, that is, and get IVF for free. Although the desired age range is 21-31, i saw some donors aged 38 too, looking for a free IVF cycle.

If out of options, this could be one to consider too, especially if you're keen on IVf using your eggs rather than a donor's, but have trouble with finances. I will probably opt for it if I am out of tries and nothing else has worked...

d) Experimental IVF : When some new fertility drugs are being tested, they offer IVF free in return for willingness to use their drugs. Not an exciting option, but one on the checklist if I'm desperate enough, I guess...

I just thought I would put this out for you to think of, and not think of it as a dead end...

Sekky - Same here with the migraine, I can't even stand, movement makes it worse.. Ugh!! If that bitch AF is on her way, why doesn't she come already! I'm already in surrender and defeat...

Teein AZ, Jessica - Thank you ladies for the encouragement! If this one fails, I do hope the FETs work and I don't use up my remaining retrieval attempts!! I still have the bruises on my belly from the stim shots!!

 

[MeganScott]

Thats a very good count Hana, good luck!

ababy - I admire your courage. I'm too chicken to test it out, didn't even buy them tests...

Yes, you're right, you're prepared and you won't be as nuts and devastated as I will be on Thursday, despite the gut feeling that its over. I'm actually thinking maybe I should try testing tomorrow morning if I don't spot through the day today? Maybe...

Be positive hon, and hang in there. The FAT lady hasn't sung for either of us yet. And even if she does, this is only your first IVF attempt, it doesn't always work at first attempt. It WILL happen.

Thank you Megan

Unfortunately it was our only attempt. We cannot afford another and if we wait to save it may be too late with my cruddy eggs. I just don't know what to do.

ababy - There's lot of options..(I just typed out a loooong reply, hit submit and dunno where it went??) I've done extensive research on what to do if my insurance coverage is out, because it is VERY expensive for IVF without insurance and I can't afford it at all.

I can't find my post anywhere, I'll just hold off and wait for your BETA test results, but suffice it to say, from Donor Sharing, to sharing your own eggs with another couple, there ARE other options to help you with finances. They also have loans with a refundable program if you don't achieve a successful pregnancy after 4 or 6 attempts with fresh and frozen cycles, and a lumpsum payment of 30k in total for everything.

Stay positive and hang in there!!

sekky - My migraine won't go away either, and movement makes it worse, sensitive to sound, light, touch... Ugh!

TeeinAZ, Jessica - Thank you for the encouragement ladies! I hope the frozen one takes if this fresh one fails!!! Half the day is gone, and one more day to get through. Thursday is OTD !!!

 

[Izabela]

Is still early so keep positive. I have everything cross for you. With my ectopic pregnancy I had a negative test 12 days post 5 transfer and at 7 weeks blood test showed high beta as in normal pregnancy.

Thinking of you. X

 

[MeganScott]

Is still early so keep positive. I have everything cross for you. With my ectopic pregnancy I had a negative test 12 days post 5 transfer and at 7 weeks blood test showed high beta as in normal pregnancy.

Thinking of you. X

Did it show negative in blood test?

 

[dovkav123]

I got BFN on my blood test. Only today I could think what we could do next. It takes 2 weeks to see my RE and talk about failed IVF. I am willing to do mini IVF little stimulation, retrieve 3 eggs. But my hubby doesn't like that idea. He wants me to repeat natural IVF again only one egg per cycle. He is choosing slower but healthier way of treatment.
2 things could be the reason of our BFN:
My hubby had a low motility, so they did ICSI.
My ET went really bad. My hubby saw how dr. forced that embryo in, he is doubt if an embryo really got in where it supposed to....
First try without an embryo she went in smoothly:l(

Did you girls have any bad experience with a ET?

 

[TeeinAZ]

I got BFN on my blood test. Only today I could think what we could do next. It takes 2 weeks to see my RE and talk about failed IVF. I am willing to do mini IVF little stimulation, retrieve 3 eggs. But my hubby doesn't like that idea. He wants me to repeat natural IVF again only one egg per cycle. He is choosing slower but healthier way of treatment.
2 things could be the reason of our BFN:
My hubby had a low motility, so they did ICSI.
My ET went really bad. My hubby saw how dr. forced that embryo in, he is doubt if an embryo really got in where it supposed to....
First try without an embryo she went in smoothly:l(

Did you girls have any bad experience with a ET?

Oh man, that is a terrible feeling to have a bad experience with such an important time in your life. Have you thought about changing RE?

I got lucky and had a friend refer me to my RE after she had a bad experience with her first RE. She then found a great one and that's the one I went to. My last appointment with them was yesterday and I cried. I am going to miss them.