Judgmental people....

[shannonleigh]

I'm 18 and pregnant, I posted my scan picture on instagram but ended up taking it down 5 minutes later due to nasty comments from strangers who are adults and should know better, apparently I'm not educated and never have been due to being pregnant at 18, not to mention people saying I won't have a life blah blah blah..yes I appreciate the advice and I had long hard thoughts about this the first time I found out I was pregnant but sadly ended in a loss, that time wasn't planned but no way would I ever abort due to other people's nasty comments, It was hard to come to terms with yes but I'm far from uneducated, I'm studying the rest of my Health and Social care college course here at home now, my boyfriend works. I know we will and can support this baby with everything we have, I've been with him for 3 years and plan on staying with him despite people telling me 'young love' doesn't work. Really frustrates me how people think they're perfect and have never made a 'mistake' because this baby and my angel baby is far from a mistake to me, after the loss I wanted to personally try again because I never thought just thinking about having my own little one would make me this happy, I've gone through years of suffering from depression and personality disorder, eating disorders you name it..I went through the typical teenage stage when I was just 14, drinking and so on..but grew up and out of it, right now is the only time I've truly felt happy and content, I'd much rather have a family of my own and if I'm happy with doing this young maybe people should either be happy for me or keep their nasty thoughts in that mind of theirs only! sorry for the rant but I'm hormonal, it annoys me how so many people are quick to judge..

 

[missriddler]

Hiya I'm 18 and pregnant too how far gone are you? Im 11 weeks 1day, I havent encountered anyone being judgemental to me but I haven't told many people yet as I'm not 12 weeks yet and my other halfs family don't know yet (not looking forward to telling them!) Anyway good luck it'd be nice to stay in touch with similar situations x

 

[RaspberryK]

You will learn that people will judge no matter what.
Being 18 has nothing to do with it.
You sound like me, did everything early, together with dh at 16, nearly 10 years on and we are still together xx

 

[shannonleigh]

I know being 18 can have nothing to do with it but that's what a lot of people refer back to, how young you look etc. Still together 10 years on, that's exactly what I'm talking about things do work out if you put effort into what you want!

and hi MissRiddler, yes I'd like to make some friends around the same age as me. I'm 9 weeks 2 days, oh and good luck with telling them!! I'm sure it'll all work out fine x

 

[Petzy]

I got with DH when I turned 15 and 15 years later we are still together. Tell the, to mind their own business

Happy and healthy 9 months to you xx

 

[missriddler]

I hope so lol their well, of a more, affluent background then me, and look down on me, but me and my partner are happy and they will deal with it I'm sure lol me too, I don't really have friends so its nice speaking to people in similar situations, what are your symptoms like??? My sickness has faded and its just constant tiredness and hunger now lol x

 

[shannonleigh]

I know how you feel!! My sickness only lasted just over a week, started at six weeks stopped at 7 weeks 5 days, a day after my scan which freaked me out, but I had another scan yesterday due to cramping and a small bleed and all is fine, I have headaches right now, constantly exhausted and feel weak and just want to eat all the time. Do you have any gender instincts so far?

 

[RaspberryK]

I get dirty looks, I look young , have a tall toddler and often don't wear my wedding ring. Can't wait til I get a bump again, they really will have something to gawk at.
And then breastfeeding the baby uncovered in a cafe. *rubs hands with glee *
Pah ha ha.
I'm no different to 18 , only I'm more tired.
You get great young mums and bad older mums.
You'll be great and you know it, ignore and then prove them wrong.
I've got dreadfully swollwn and tender boobs. I had the runs for two days and now I think I'm getting constipated.
Trying to eat little and often, I haven't felt sick today, I did the past 3 days.
Hate being sick but eating as soon as you're awake helps and snack on healthy stuff so you avoid hunger.
Xx

 

[pandi77]

My mom was pregnant and with my father at 17 with no high school education. As she put it years later- yes she and my father divorced and yes it was a hard road along the way but she wouldn't have changed a thing. And guess what? My sister and I turned out pretty damn well if I don't say so myself. Hard work and family ethics don't always come out of a conventional background so people just need to let you make your own way come what may. Wishing you a h&h 9 months and a loving family for many years!

 

[aussiettc]

People are nasty no matter what. DH and I have been together for 14 years now. We met when we were 18 and I fell pregnant 3 months later after he had already proposed.
We are now in our 30's with four kids and expecting number 5 and we still get nasty comments about having such a large family. We are constantly being told we don't earn enough when DH earns a six figure salary.

Just ignore the haters and enjoy this time

 

[Mummafrog]

There are pros and cons to having a baby at any age! Ignore the people who judge, be more mature than them and quietly smile as you prove them wrong. I'm 19 and this baby was planned, it was well thought out and me and my OH are walking on air now We've been together over 3 years too, live together independantly and both studying at Uni, I'll be having a year out to be a full time mummy, can't wait
I can't wait to breastfeed wherever I please either
You'll be great and your baby will be proud of you and your partner, so nothing else matters xx

 

[tddunn]

You are going to have people who judge you left and right your entire life. It isn't really a fair thing, but it happens. My husbands family has always been judgemental of everything even though we are the only people that don't need assistance and have jobs and educations. He is the only one of his siblings to actually have a steady job and be finishing his education. I graduate college in a month. Our pregnancy was planned, and we met in our mid and early twenties, but I understand the being upset at peoples comments. You are the one who has to raise this child, not them so don't let them get you too down. Everybody has opinions, you have to find the ones that really matter though. Understand that at your age things usually turn out negative more often than positive so that is why people assume the worst. At your age I met a guy I adored and it didn't work out(thank God lol), but my sister met her now husband at 15, and at 18 had a kid and married at 19. They are still together and their son turns 2 in 3 weeks. I wish you the best of luck and encourage you to look into marriage of you are sure this is the man for you.

 

[Paperhearts]

I'm sorry people are being so mean to you. That's not nice at all

Just focus on baby and prove to them all what an amazing mama you can be!

 

[18AnExpecting]

I'm also 18 and expecting! I've had more support than what it sounds like you have dealt with. Screw them though! Young love DOES work. I know it's hard with people putting you down but you know yourself better than anyone knows you, don't let ANYONE tell you what you can or cannot do!
Happy and Healthy 9 Months to you

 

[ChristiansMum]

I was 18 when I had my son and now I'm 23 and pregnant with baby number 3 (but 4th pregnancy) I met my now DH when I was 16 and married when I was 21. I was a wild teenager but having my son calmed me down and now both family's agreed that having him was the best thing that has happened to me.

Sod what other people think as long as you and your OH are happy forget what other people think xx

 

[ricschick]

sod em I say!! I still get looks and people are shocked by us but I don't care anymore we meet when I was 18 dh 21 and we have been together 11 & a half years married for 8months and we are expecting our 5th baby. I get looks and people are astonished that we have 4 children let alone gonna have 5 but im lucky I have the man of my dreams and 4 beautiful very well behaved children and am able to have a 5th we're 30 and 33 now and will be fit and young enough to have fun with them for years to come.
congrats and enjoy your pregnancy!!

 

[Bex84]

Im sorry people are being horrid, ignore them. When I had my first LO I was 26 and I still got the your so young comments, mostly from the friends I made at university and people I worked with. Apparently I shouldn't have had children until 30s-40s for my career, why people have to judge on what they want from life I don't know. I also got asked if my little girl was an accident, which she was very much planned and was going to fertility specialist at the time. With this lo I don't think I will get as many comments as am sahm any way and have more mum friends. People do judge everything. The amount of comments I had over breast feeding and co sleeping is stupid. Just ignore them, age doesn't matter and children certainly don't ruin your life. I am the happiest I have ever been

 

[shannonleigh]

Thank you all so much.
I don't tend to care what people say but I'm so hormonal and everything is getting to me, can't stand it when people think age is the biggest concern. I do understand you get young mums who aren't fit to be a parent but you do get ones that are and do a great job at it. I wouldn't of put myself in this position if I myself didn't believe I could do it. Just shows it doesn't matter what age you are or what background you come from there's always those certain people that have to throw their nasty opinions in, if there's one thing people hate it's proving you can do it.

 

[missriddler]

I'm pretty sure I'm carrying a boy nearly wrote baby then lol x

 

[Unexpected212]

I got filthy looks constantly when I was pregnant and I was 22. People used to be quite rude over the fact I wasn't married at the time as well.

Some people just take pleasure in judging others and making them miserable.

Everyone seems to have an opinion once your pregnant or have children! Don't let it get to you.

My friend was 19 when her baby was born and she's an amazing mum. It's nothing to do with age or situation. As long as the baby is loved and looked after that is all that matters.