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Sorry to hear you have cholestasis Js! I've heard of it before and I just can't imagine the itching. I am glad there is medicine to help you. I am sure baby will do great at 36 weeks - you've done very well to make it this far if you've been contracting for two weeks - and if his heartrate sounds good then that's also a really promising sign! Wishing you best of luck for Sunday X


Long story Pink......but together with Andy for few years (including the TTC for 30 months and fetility investigations!) when he walked out on the day of my BFP. Haven't seen him since. I've since found out he's been married for over 10 years, 3 children with his wife and was living a double life. He 'worked away a lot' which I believe because of the nature of his job, he just didn't need to work away so much - that was when he was back and forth to his wife. He got scared that I was getting too close, and then with the baby just upped and left and said he couldn't do it anymore. Safe to say - he's not a very nice person.
 
Thanks Sue!

Sue, I'm so sorry about you situation. That was very wrong of him. You sound like a strong woman though. That happened to one of my friends also. It was very hard to deal with. At least you found out about his double life when you got your bfp, but what a shock, I feel for you! My friend didn't find out until after the child & she signed up for aide & the wife of her boyfriend got the paperwork in the mail for her husband. My friend was devastated to find out he was married with kids & the wife was shocked to find out her husband was cheating for years, so sad.
 
Yeah Js, that is the saving grace I took from the situation was that I found out when I did. I couldn't imagine sharing this amazing journey of growing my child with him now, and I glad I haven't because finding out at this stage or after she's born would have crushed me more than it did.

I do consider myself to be so lucky that I've got a fabulous family, very well paid job & my savings so I know we'll be fine. And Millie will have influence from my two favourite men in the world....my father and my grandfather! She/We dont need that waste of space as he clearly couldn't give two hoots anyway!
 
sue_88 said:
I received a letter today from my ex - OH.

In it contained a cheque for Millie for quite a substantial amount but he told me that's it. No contact at all. He wants to 'tick off this mistake'.

God I want to rip his head off. We were together for years, it wasn't a f**king mistake. He was the one who decided to live a double life! So rid of that asshole, his wife & other kids are welcome to him. My daughter doesn't need him or his dirty shame money.

So angry, what a way to ruin my day!
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Wow sue can't believe he would refer to your precious girl as a mistake. No woman needs a man and you and Millie will be just fine :hugs:
 
Jsmom5 said:
Well I've been in the hospital since Tuesday. I was given the steroid shots to help my baby's lungs develop quicker since my doc is scheduling my c-section for this Sunday when I will be 36 weeks. I have the sorta rare pregnancy condition, cholestasis. My liver count is very high with sever itching! My doc has been in touch with a specialist & they both agree for the safety of the baby, he has to come out Sunday. Of course I'm scared because I thought I would make it to 39 weeks, but I have accepted this is the way it has to be. They have estimated he is 5.5 lbs give or take. I've been on procardia for two weeks now & they have stopped my contractions for the last two weeks (which started two weeks ago and they were 5 mins apart) as they really want me to make it to 36 weeks. So we are almost there. My nurses have been amazing! I'm on the monitor 24/7 so I only get to get up to pee. It's been hard. They did let me shower last nigh :). I also take meds for my liver that help with the itching tremendously! Our baby is doing GREAT!! They are very pleased with his heartrate & monitoring! So that makes me happy! Laying here listening to his heartbeat for the last 4 days 24/7 is reassuring. Thanks for listening ladies. I hope all is going well for the most part!
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That sounds terrible but glad you and baby are being well taken care of!
 
sue_88 said:
Sorry to hear you have cholestasis Js! I've heard of it before and I just can't imagine the itching. I am glad there is medicine to help you. I am sure baby will do great at 36 weeks - you've done very well to make it this far if you've been contracting for two weeks - and if his heartrate sounds good then that's also a really promising sign! Wishing you best of luck for Sunday X


Long story Pink......but together with Andy for few years (including the TTC for 30 months and fetility investigations!) when he walked out on the day of my BFP. Haven't seen him since. I've since found out he's been married for over 10 years, 3 children with his wife and was living a double life. He 'worked away a lot' which I believe because of the nature of his job, he just didn't need to work away so much - that was when he was back and forth to his wife. He got scared that I was getting too close, and then with the baby just upped and left and said he couldn't do it anymore. Safe to say - he's not a very nice person.
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What!!! :shock: what a scum bag! Married for over ten years and ttc with you for over 2 years?!! I think you dodge a bullet when he walked out! So sorry you had to go through that. Positive side though you got Millie out of the whole crappy situation :)
 
Omg sue! Poor you. What are you going to do with the money?
You did have a lucky escape and now have little Millie all to yourself! I hope you feel a bit better now after the initial anger. I would want to kill him too! Argh men!! :hugs::hugs:
 
Yeah Im ok now, don't know what to do with the cheque.

He just thinks its acceptable throw a few grand at her and be done with it. Part of me thinks stuff you, she SHOULD have a great start and even though I can more than afford everything for her, it would be nice to cash it and then use it to take the whole year maternity leave.

The other part of me says just burn the damn thing & forget he ever existed.

Don't know what to do really. Sister says cash it, mum says wait a while. :shrug:
 
Js, so glad you and baby are being well taken care of! Will be thinking of you :hugs:

Sue...no words! Millie is lucky to have such a strong momma :)

Still feeling pretty rough today. Six more hours till I can go home and lie down. Nope, I'm not counting lol. Normally I'm very warm but today I've been chilly. Please please please don't be getting sick with something!
 
You are a far better person than me! I would take the check and with a letter mail it to his wife! Poor thing probably has no clue what she's married to!

That's probably the hormonal side of me though :haha:

I would agree with your mom take some time to decide what to do with it. That's a big decision to make. You could maybe put it into an account that grows interest until she's 18 and then let her have the money? Hmm not really sure
 
Thanks ladies!

Sue, I think you should cash it & place it in a savings for Millie & let it grow.

His wife probably has no idea. How sad for both of you. You deserve so much better. I don't understand how men can do such things. What a scum bag. Thank goodness you have a great family!
 
Here is the first picture of our little girl when she was 67 minutes old!

Baby Eleanor was clearly in a hurry to get here and took us completely by surprise by arriving 17 days early and also turned out to be a breech baby!

I hadn't realised I was in labour till the last minute. By the time I got to the hospital, her bum was on my perineum and she was born in about 10 minutes! As it was a natural breech birth, I think the entire hospital staff also came to see the show! I feel pretty lucky though, if I had realised earlier, I would have ended up with a c-section. Full story is in my pregnancy journal for anyone interested.

Anon is over the moon that he got his wish for a little princess after all :cloud9:

Feeling a little tired and sore but overall pretty good. Eleanor is doing well too, although she is naturally quite sleepy for most of the time.

Hope everyone else is doing well and hope to catch up on some of the posts later.

Thanks to everyone for your good wishes :) :cloud9::happydance:
 

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wow she is lovely mrs bellum! congratulations again! I bet her being breech was a shock x
 
congrats miss bellum!!

sue-id cash the check and put in savings for her!!

as for me- finally got the crib put together yay!!!
 
Dh and I dtd now I'm bouncing bouncing bouncing... On my ball that is :haha: have had some period type cramping and a looser bowel movement (tmi sorry) but not feeling like anything is gonna happen. I feel like a little kid waiting for Christmas morning :haha:
 
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