Meli_H
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Angel,
We have had these conversations before .where he complains that I dont cook, clean, have sex, etc etc Yes, I get it. And I try to make changes and they last for a while and then I go back to my old ways (of wanting to sleep!).
Ive said this before to him on a Saturday or Sunday2 different times If you want to watch X for a while sometime today==at your convenience==please let me know and I will vacuum and mop the whole house. CRICKETS. He has never taken me up on these offers.
The last time we had this conversation (3 weeks ago), a couple of days later, the following happened. I saw Raul get the vacuum cleaner out and he said he was going to vacuum the living room area rug. I thought, heres my opportunity to do something he wants me to do, AND help him at the same time. So I said, here, let me vacuum for you, and if you are willing to watch X, I will vacuum the whole house He looked hesitant and then said Sure. So there I go, vacuuming like a madwoman, it didnt take me more than 30-40 minutes because our house is not huge.
Well, later on that day, he bitched at me for doing that!!!!
Raul: I was just going to do the little rug. I wasnt going to do the whole house.
Me: BUT the whole house needed to be done! And I was trying to offload from you, at that moment, AND fulfill one of your requests that I clean more often!
Raul: But took you FOREVER.
Me: WTF is wrong with you??? I AM DOING WHAT YOU ASKED ME TO DO!!! And I only took 40 minutes max!!
Raul: But you need to plan these things, not just do it at your convenience.
Me: !%&&%#$%*()(???
So, apparently, not only does he want me to clean more often, he wants me to do it while caring for X at the same time. I mean, why else would he get all crazy on me?
That night:
Raul: Im hungry
Me: ok, I bought some fish I can cook, if you can watch X?
Him: How long will it take?
Me: 30-45 minutes
Him: ok
Well, it took me almost an hour to get dinner ready. Here comes the attitude and bitching again:
Raul: I am starving!! What is wrong? You said 30-45 minutes??!
Me: I am sorry! I didnt know it would take so long! U see that I have not left this stove or kitchen all this time (he gets mad because I will say Can u watch X for 5 minutes? and that will turn into 15 minutes ..because sometimes, when I get the opportunity, I WILL sneak another task in, like run and load the laundry or something). I am here COOKING. I am sorry that I misquoted the time frame!!
Raul: whatever
Me:OMG I CANNOT DO ANYTHING RIGHT!!! WHY DO I EVEN TRY? YOU TELL ME WHAT U WANT ME TO DO..I DO IT AND THEN YOU STILL BITCH AT ME!!
Shit like this makes me feel like I was living in an alternate universe .in whose world is that ok??? Talk about mixed signals!! Talk about turning things around on me!
Those 2 scenarios above are where he rants about Where are your time management skills? blah blah blah.
You make good points and I really need to figure out what to do with X during times that I need to get stuff done. We really need to set aside a babyproofed place for him, plus I am afraid to leave him because he is starting to pull himself up on things, stuff like that
As far as the therapist, she definitely told him that he needs to set some boundaries with her, and he definitely agreed (we had this conversation previously about setting boundaries, not about the bed situation but aboiut everything else) and Raul had already agreed he would do it, but I suggested and he agreed, to wait at least another week, so she is not as emotionally fragile.
Our therapist also said that the bed situation was not okay that the bed and bedroom is MY safe haven and next time, he needs to kick her out. He agreed with her..,.he was just being stubborn with me, I suppose .
Oh, and thanks for this And I would not have given her my damn tacos roflmao
As for you, how does an IUD come out with your tampon? Perhaps it wasnt inserted right to begin with?
We have had these conversations before .where he complains that I dont cook, clean, have sex, etc etc Yes, I get it. And I try to make changes and they last for a while and then I go back to my old ways (of wanting to sleep!).
Ive said this before to him on a Saturday or Sunday2 different times If you want to watch X for a while sometime today==at your convenience==please let me know and I will vacuum and mop the whole house. CRICKETS. He has never taken me up on these offers.
The last time we had this conversation (3 weeks ago), a couple of days later, the following happened. I saw Raul get the vacuum cleaner out and he said he was going to vacuum the living room area rug. I thought, heres my opportunity to do something he wants me to do, AND help him at the same time. So I said, here, let me vacuum for you, and if you are willing to watch X, I will vacuum the whole house He looked hesitant and then said Sure. So there I go, vacuuming like a madwoman, it didnt take me more than 30-40 minutes because our house is not huge.
Well, later on that day, he bitched at me for doing that!!!!
Raul: I was just going to do the little rug. I wasnt going to do the whole house.
Me: BUT the whole house needed to be done! And I was trying to offload from you, at that moment, AND fulfill one of your requests that I clean more often!
Raul: But took you FOREVER.
Me: WTF is wrong with you??? I AM DOING WHAT YOU ASKED ME TO DO!!! And I only took 40 minutes max!!
Raul: But you need to plan these things, not just do it at your convenience.
Me: !%&&%#$%*()(???
So, apparently, not only does he want me to clean more often, he wants me to do it while caring for X at the same time. I mean, why else would he get all crazy on me?
That night:
Raul: Im hungry
Me: ok, I bought some fish I can cook, if you can watch X?
Him: How long will it take?
Me: 30-45 minutes
Him: ok
Well, it took me almost an hour to get dinner ready. Here comes the attitude and bitching again:
Raul: I am starving!! What is wrong? You said 30-45 minutes??!
Me: I am sorry! I didnt know it would take so long! U see that I have not left this stove or kitchen all this time (he gets mad because I will say Can u watch X for 5 minutes? and that will turn into 15 minutes ..because sometimes, when I get the opportunity, I WILL sneak another task in, like run and load the laundry or something). I am here COOKING. I am sorry that I misquoted the time frame!!
Raul: whatever
Me:OMG I CANNOT DO ANYTHING RIGHT!!! WHY DO I EVEN TRY? YOU TELL ME WHAT U WANT ME TO DO..I DO IT AND THEN YOU STILL BITCH AT ME!!
Shit like this makes me feel like I was living in an alternate universe .in whose world is that ok??? Talk about mixed signals!! Talk about turning things around on me!
Those 2 scenarios above are where he rants about Where are your time management skills? blah blah blah.
You make good points and I really need to figure out what to do with X during times that I need to get stuff done. We really need to set aside a babyproofed place for him, plus I am afraid to leave him because he is starting to pull himself up on things, stuff like that
As far as the therapist, she definitely told him that he needs to set some boundaries with her, and he definitely agreed (we had this conversation previously about setting boundaries, not about the bed situation but aboiut everything else) and Raul had already agreed he would do it, but I suggested and he agreed, to wait at least another week, so she is not as emotionally fragile.
Our therapist also said that the bed situation was not okay that the bed and bedroom is MY safe haven and next time, he needs to kick her out. He agreed with her..,.he was just being stubborn with me, I suppose .
Oh, and thanks for this And I would not have given her my damn tacos roflmao
As for you, how does an IUD come out with your tampon? Perhaps it wasnt inserted right to begin with?