June Bundles of Joy - 2016

[AngelofTroy]

Becy we had counselling after Micah was born and it really helped us.

Is anyone else finding this pregnancy SO SLOW. Everyone keeps sayings it's flying by but I feel like it's never ending and every day seems SO LONG. I want baby to be here already! I want my body back and to meet my baby damnit!

 

[Squig34]

Congratulations on Dory!

Becy, sorry to hear things are so rough at the moment. As several other ladies have said, I recommend couples counselling - if you're going to be able to work through this, you will need to keep communicating, but that can be hard, especially when you don't feel like talking to your partner. Good luck. Also, if you really must sleep downstairs, try taking the cushions off the couch & sleeping on them on the floor, that might help a little.

 

[SecondNote]

My husband finally started talking names with me last night. He says he is still liking Jude for a boy, like last time. He said he likes Rose for a girl. I actually like that, but my sister has a 4 month old daughter named Daisy. I feel like we would be stepping on her toes if we went with a flower name. He agreed but said he didn't have any other suggestions right now and also didn't give me much of any feedback on my on other names.

 

[Becyboo__x]

We won't be going to counselling it is likly good for some but it's not even at a point of wanting it to work out.. I know things won't change and I don't feel the same about him anymore I couldn't carry on like this and being around him etc spark has totally gone with us.

I have 2 leather sofas so can't take them apart I can easily sleep in the spare room on double mattress (it's part way being decorated) but that will be another thing to do better then sofa I imagine

 

[Boo44]

My little boy bump is feeling very lonely over here!!

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Angel elodie is very pretty and exactly the sort of thing I like, I'll suggest it to dh although he's so fussy. How does everyone else choose a name with their OH.. I know a lot of women who get the final say in a name and just left to it but my DH has to agree to which makes it difficult.

boo there needs to be more blue bumps definitely! I'm really intrigued as to what the final totals will be once we've all given birth, whether it will even out or not!

 

[Squig34]

I think Rose is lovely SecondNote & while a flower name, yes, it doesn't sound remotely similarly to Daisy, so I don't think you'd be stepping on your sister's toes.

I think Elodie is beautiful too. But I dread to think how people in NI - especially the country, where my family are from - would pronounce it, so it's not on my list. A lot of French names are gorgeous!

Becy, sorry to hear that's where it's at, especially since you're pregnant & needing support. Also, the mattress does sound like a better bet than the sofa!

Interestingly, there were quite a few boys due last June among people I saw around on here (not a representative sample I'm sure!) & I was having a boy too, & now it's mostly girls this year!

 

[MiraclesHappn]

Congrats on yet another pink bump!

Secondnote, that actually happened to us. We had our daughter, who has a flower name and 8 months later my sil had a baby she gave a flower name as well. I will admit I was a little irritated but got over it. It did become more irritating after when I learned she decided to keep naming any future daughters with flower names. Luckily that was never the plan for us but if so it totally would have changed my mind about our future names. She never asked if that was our plan or if we minded, if she had it probably would have not bothered me as much. I would suggest just asking and see what they say. It seems like such a petty thing for me to be irritated about but like I said a little consideration would make a huge difference. Besides at the end of the day I like our name so much better so I feel like that's a definite plus

 

[Boo44]

Secondnote I love flower names

I have changed names each time I have had a son - but first was going to be Daisy, second would definitely have been Lily, and if this bump had been pink it would have been Ivy!

I think in no way would you be stepping on any toes using Rose - it's not remotely the same. Nobody has rights to any name never mind any 'type' of name!

When my first was born we used OH's grandfsther's name. My SIL had used the same name as the middle name for her first son who is a couple of years older. They didn't mind us using it at all.

I think you should go with the name you love!

 

[Teeny Weeny]

How about 'Rosie'? Secondnote. Xx

 

[Tinky_82]

Congratulations on being pink Dory.
Secondnote - the name rose is beautiful, it's on my list but hubby isn't sure.

 

[vaniilla]

Looks like a girl for us! The sonographer said it was a textbook shot so little doubt really!

I tried to attach photos but they're too big and really don't know a simple way of making them smaller on here.

Congrats on team pink!

Becy we had counselling after Micah was born and it really helped us.

Is anyone else finding this pregnancy SO SLOW. Everyone keeps sayings it's flying by but I feel like it's never ending and every day seems SO LONG. I want baby to be here already! I want my body back and to meet my baby damnit!

YES! I don't think it could be going any slower, I want to cry when I think that it's a month or so until our next scan and DH says no to a private one.

We won't be going to counselling it is likly good for some but it's not even at a point of wanting it to work out.. I know things won't change and I don't feel the same about him anymore I couldn't carry on like this and being around him etc spark has totally gone with us.

I have 2 leather sofas so can't take them apart I can easily sleep in the spare room on double mattress (it's part way being decorated) but that will be another thing to do better then sofa I imagine

I'm sorry to hear that things have reached this point, I hope you come to a solution you can be happy with, has he considered moving out for a bit to give you space?

How about 'Rosie'? Secondnote. Xx

I think Rosie is a lovely name too, it was on our list but DH said no

 

[GeralynB]

I feel like it's going both fast and slow lol I can't believe I'm 16 weeks already but also it feels like a long way to go. I'm also nervous about having 2 kids and how I'm going to manage since my son will only be 20 months old when this baby is born

 

[Tinky_82]

I share your worry about having two Geralyn but I know we'll manage just fine. Has anyone bought any books to help explain new baby to your existing child/children? If so what have you bought? And was it useful?

 

[Boo44]

Geralyn you'll be fine! My son was 18 months when his little brother arrived. I think I had it easier than my friends who had their second child when their first was older (they've all had them when second is 3) as my first didn't really notice or mind at all! We never actually told him I was having a baby as he was too young to get it! He was never jealous not one bit.
Your life will still just revolve around your 20 month old and their routine and your newborn will just fit in around it. I found it way easier than I expected

My oldest is now 3.5 and it's a bit different this time! We told him and he asked 'why do mummies just grow babies and not daddies?' So I said it was because mummies have the house inside their tummies for the baby to live in. And he said 'oh right....and daddies just have houses for food in their tummies?' how adorable

 

[GeralynB]

I hope so! Everyone is always saying how hard it is to go from 1 to 2 so I just get overwhelmed thinking about it sometimes

 

[Tinky_82]

Aww that's cute Boo

 

[mommyxofxone]

Ok hope I remember all I wanna comment on:

Dory congrats!!!! And I agree with rhi stop pinching all the girls lol I have such a strong feeling this one is a boy even though I've always longed for anther girl. It will be loved just as much just will be slightly sad my child will never get that sister bond I so wanted as a child!

Becyboo I'm so sorry you're having so much trouble but you can't live with a guy like that either. You need to be able to talk or you're going to create terrible tension for yourself and that's no good for you and the baby. I agree on the counseling. You should at least try. Is he the father of your other child? If so why would it only be now there are such issues?

As for the length of time the days seem long but at the same time I can't believe it's Thursday, when I swear it was just Monday. So time is speeding forward. I also am trying to stay busy so that's helping at least.

 

[mommyxofxone]

We also didn't do a book but my dd will be almost 5 when baby arrives so we just told her about it and she gets it. Also has tons of cousins that are babies so she's seen them all growing and gets the idea thankfully.

 

[vaniilla]

Some books which are brilliant and we looked at when we thought we'd have a smaller age gap!

There's a house inside my mummy
waiting for baby
The new baby