June Bundles of Joy - 2016

[Boo44]

Thankyou so much everyone. Just hearing that I'm not the only one with anxieties images me feel 100% better. That's why I haven't posted so much in here because I don't feel too much of a bond yet because of the anxiety.

I didnt have a bad birth, I got to the hospital both times at 10cm, and pushed and had them with no pain relief, but I just hate the feeling of pushing, with Zach I was trying to push him back in
Both time were just so different to how I expected, I really wanted and epidural both times, and there just wasn't time. When Madi was born, I resented her for the pain. I couldn't beleive how much it hurt and it traumatised me I think. I wasn't so bad with Zach but I had SPD and I wanted to labour standing up because it was literally the only position my hips felt like they weren't crunching, but I was told I couldn't, and I was made to get on the bed, which I hated and I screamed all the way though.

I would take a section in a split second if they asked me. I see my midwife 3rd Nob for the first time, I'll be sure to tell her. I used to have councilling for my anxiety, so I might just asked to be referred back to him.

Aw karlilay sounds traumatic Hun sometimes quick deliveries can be just as traumatising as long drawn out ones. All I would say is perhaps ask for some counselling or CBT with a midwife counsellor or birthing team. You may find they give you great coping strategies that will help you enjoy (!) a natural birth.

I've had two sections and I would say please avoid one if you can - it may be more 'controlled' but it also really hurts and i found it so hard afterwards with the recovery and the babies. You might find that bit makes your anxiety/mood worse

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Thankyou so much everyone. Just hearing that I'm not the only one with anxieties images me feel 100% better. That's why I haven't posted so much in here because I don't feel too much of a bond yet because of the anxiety.

I didnt have a bad birth, I got to the hospital both times at 10cm, and pushed and had them with no pain relief, but I just hate the feeling of pushing, with Zach I was trying to push him back in
Both time were just so different to how I expected, I really wanted and epidural both times, and there just wasn't time. When Madi was born, I resented her for the pain. I couldn't beleive how much it hurt and it traumatised me I think. I wasn't so bad with Zach but I had SPD and I wanted to labour standing up because it was literally the only position my hips felt like they weren't crunching, but I was told I couldn't, and I was made to get on the bed, which I hated and I screamed all the way though.

I would take a section in a split second if they asked me. I see my midwife 3rd Nob for the first time, I'll be sure to tell her. I used to have councilling for my anxiety, so I might just asked to be referred back to him.

I spoke to a midwife a while ago and she said it would be very likely at my hospital to be offered a section on the grounds of trauma from last time, however I've since decided against this. How come you didn't get to hospital until so late? Maybe if you explained to your midwife they could try and ensure you will be admitted in early Labour and have an epidural? Xx

 

[karlilay]

That's exactly what I want to happen, if I could somehow put that in place, with an early labour, epidural I wouldn't worry! With Madi I just waited until my contractions are close together, and we live half hour from the hospital. With Zach I was terrified so I went in the night as soon as i got first contractions. I went in and cried and told the, I wanted an epidural and they said I was only 3cm dilated and to go home.

I don't really want to go down top he c section route but i feel like I need more control of everything.

 

[Lil_Pixie]

Hi ladies, mind if I jump in?

I'm Jac I'm 4+2 I think. Due around the 26th of June.

This is my fourth pregnancy. My first was my son, Xander, he's almost 4 now and since him I've had two mmcs.

I'm amazed to be here so soon. Out average time to get pregnant was around 2 years, but we started a drug trial to hopefully prevent another mc and only started ttc this cycle! These must be super pills Hopefully this will be our rainbow!

 

[ReadynWaiting]

So my spotting turned out to be not so good. I went for my scan yesterday to find out yet another mc was happening. Time to start testing to see what the problem is and give my body a break to recover.
Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and I hope the best for all of you and your lo's.

 

[vaniilla]

So my spotting turned out to be not so good. I went for my scan yesterday to find out yet another mc was happening. Time to start testing to see what the problem is and give my body a break to recover.
Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and I hope the best for all of you and your lo's.

I'm so sorry to hear that I wish you all the luck for the future

 

[karlilay]

Sorry to hear that... Sending hugs.

 

[vaniilla]

Lil_Pixie Welcome to the group

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Hi ladies, mind if I jump in?

I'm Jac I'm 4+2 I think. Due around the 26th of June.

This is my fourth pregnancy. My first was my son, Xander, he's almost 4 now and since him I've had two mmcs.

I'm amazed to be here so soon. Out average time to get pregnant was around 2 years, but we started a drug trial to hopefully prevent another mc and only started ttc this cycle! These must be super pills Hopefully this will be our rainbow!

Welcome and congratulations!

That's exactly what I want to happen, if I could somehow put that in place, with an early labour, epidural I wouldn't worry! With Madi I just waited until my contractions are close together, and we live half hour from the hospital. With Zach I was terrified so I went in the night as soon as i got first contractions. I went in and cried and told the, I wanted an epidural and they said I was only 3cm dilated and to go home.

I don't really want to go down top he c section route but i feel like I need more control of everything.

I would explain all this to the midwife, it's likely they would much rather try and sort out you getting there early and being allowed to stay if it means you not going down the route of a planned section to avoid repeating your last experiences x

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Readynwaiting oh no so so sorry for your loss hun x

 

[cscbeth8421]

So my spotting turned out to be not so good. I went for my scan yesterday to find out yet another mc was happening. Time to start testing to see what the problem is and give my body a break to recover.
Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and I hope the best for all of you and your lo's.

Im so sorry. I hope you are able to get your answers.

 

[joo]

Readynwaiting I'm so sorry Take good care of yourself through this sad time. Xx

 

[mommyxofxone]

I have been sent a group appointment? For Friday when I'll be 7+2. I didn't have one last time, does anyone know what it's about? Then my booking appointment is a week tomorrow at exactly 8 weeks.

i have been sent to a 'teaching appt'. they're doing these now apparently very frequently. i didn't have anything like that with my dd. Times are apparently changing. they said they don't care how many kids i've had, i have to have it. Basically they get history in my appt on previous births, pregnancy, family history, etc. they also schedule bloodwork so that at the first real appt you have all that out of the way. mine said they also give me a packet of all kinds of stuff and free prenatals. which i already bought. lol

So my spotting turned out to be not so good. I went for my scan yesterday to find out yet another mc was happening. Time to start testing to see what the problem is and give my body a break to recover.
Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and I hope the best for all of you and your lo's.

i'm so sorry hun thinking of you

 

[joo]

Can I ask if anyone suffers anxiety? I really suffer with anxiety around anything health wise or any variations of normal for me. I am absolutley petrified of giving birth again, like I can't even get excited about being pregnant because everytime I feel excitement, within a split second I feel anxiety rise up and realise I have to give birth.

I am also insanely terrified I will get depression, either during or after birth. I think of all these stupid what if scenarios, like what if I dnt love my kids anymore, what if I want to kill myself, what if I feel like I can't cope and have a mental breakdown...

It's so overwhelming at times.

Hello, I have an anxiety disorder and also suffer low mood (through my cycles, can't be classed as depression because it doesn't last long enough). I have had it since childhood, but it is so, so common especially amongst women and mothers. By some miracle I avoided PND with my DD, but I think it was in part due to me already being "in the system". Tell the midwife everything, you will be referred to the team within weeks (rather than months if you weren't pregnant) and they should look after you after the birth as well. We have a great perinatal team where I am and they look after you for up to two years after birth, again being seen straight away instead of months on a waiting list. They specialise in pregnancy/postnatal so the help is more fine tuned to what you need, they can see you in your home etc. Google perinatal team in [your city], but midwife should refer you to them anyway if you give your consent xx

 

[Boo44]

So my spotting turned out to be not so good. I went for my scan yesterday to find out yet another mc was happening. Time to start testing to see what the problem is and give my body a break to recover.
Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and I hope the best for all of you and your lo's.

I'm so so sorry x

 

[GeralynB]

Welcome Lil_Pixie!

So sorry for your loss ReadynWaiting

 

[MiraclesHappn]

So very sorry for your loss readyn waiting prayers your way that you get an answer and are blessed with a sticky bean in the future!

 

[GeralynB]

I am totally exhausted today. I took a nap with my son this afternoon and now at 7pm I'm ready for bed

 

[MiraclesHappn]

I am totally exhausted today. I took a nap with my son this afternoon and now at 7pm I'm ready for bed

Napping with my daughter is basically an every day thing for me now which stinks because that was always my time to get stuff done. Hopefully the need to nap passes quickly! I know there is still so much time but I just look around and see how much I have to do before this baby gets here and it's overwhelming because I know how quickly the time passes. I need to find motivation for so many things!! Ugh.

 

[mommyxofxone]

Ha! I wish my kid napped! I can't nap