June Bundles of Joy - 2016

[AngelofTroy]

Almost everyone who's seen our scan pictures has said girl, but I just checked an old thread from Micah's scan and they said girl there too.

 

[AngelofTroy]

We told my immediate family a while back, told our son and my grandparents last night and then put it on Facebook. Now my mum is texting me asking me to ring round the wider family before they read it on Facebook. :/

 

[vaniilla]

oh dear, are you able to do a simple group text?

 

[AngelofTroy]

My gran is telling my dad's side for us because she loves spreading good news. I guess I'll ring my mums siblings in a few minutes. Ahhh. I get kinda shy ringing with news!

My husband's middle sister doesn't know yet..
I mean I'm sure she does but she's avoiding us. His oldest sister is pregnant and the middle one was very unhappy about it as she's trying for her first (since her wedding in June) and said some nasty things when the older sister announced. We tried to be sensitive and messaged her that we has good news and she hasn't replied and isn't answering her phone since. :/ I hope she'll be happy for us eventually.

 

[vaniilla]

That's terrible, she should definitely be more graceful than this! I have been there, in the 4 years it's taken for this pregnancy I've known countless relatives and friends who've had 2-3 kids in that time and I still made an effort to be happy for them even if not super involved.

I'm not calling anyone my mum will be sharing with close family once we have the 20 week scan and dh is doing similar with his family, I find calling relatives too awkward.

 

[Lil_Pixie]

That's not very nice at all. We were ttc Xander for 3 years and have been ttc this one since he was born and sometimes it really sucks (my sister had 3 kids in the 3 years were were trying for Xander) but they didn't take the last baby on the shelf and there's no need to be unkind, even if some distance is needed.

I wouldn't even consider telling my aunties or wider family. I'll tell my Nana and brother and sister and dh will tell his grandparents and brothers, everyone else can find out when they find out. I hate sharing news, it makes me so u comfortable!

 

[Dory85]

I really feel for you Angel. When I fell pregnant with my first, my brother was undergoing his 8th round of ivf in 9 years. It was a bit frosty from his wife and then I was looking for his online blog one day after my daughter was born and found a forum where his wife had slagged me off constantly about some really personal things since finding out I was pregnant.
Things never really recovered and although we're civil I have very little to do with them now because the things she said were a personal attack on me as a person. Jealousy is horrible.

 

[Starlight32]

I'm so mad at my husband. He had raw chicken that he cooked. My stomach hurt a bit this morning and apparently he is now unsure how well he washed the utensils/kitchen surfaces/etc. I'm totally freaking out. I hope it's not listeria or something that will really hurt baby. I'm so angry at him.

 

[mommyxofxone]

Gaiagirl- Oh no that sounds awful! My DH was borrowing a new car from his work, luckily our normal car is older and doesn't do the immediate locking once the doors are shut.

Geralyn- Those sorts of things are always the most tiring aren't they? Hope you get a lot of time to relax now.

Karlilay- I'm always confused as to whether you have to hit exactly 13 or 14 weeks to be 2nd tri? I'd just count you as 2nd tri, I'm going to count myself as 2nd tri once I hit 13 weeks tbh!

Has anyone else had bleeding gums when brushing teeth? I've had it a few times now since finding out about the pregnancy and it's worrying me I am very vigilant about brushing my teeth but I've not been to the dentist in nearly 8 years (!) because I hate it, and even now with the free dental care in pregnancy I'm even more scared to go because I don't want to be told I've got gum disease or something. Going to stock up on some corsodol daily I think.

my bleeding gums just started at 10 weeks. I had it with dd. It's not as bad yet as it was with her but jeez it's annoying. kinda gross too lol. but totally normal

My gran is telling my dad's side for us because she loves spreading good news. I guess I'll ring my mums siblings in a few minutes. Ahhh. I get kinda shy ringing with news!

My husband's middle sister doesn't know yet..
I mean I'm sure she does but she's avoiding us. His oldest sister is pregnant and the middle one was very unhappy about it as she's trying for her first (since her wedding in June) and said some nasty things when the older sister announced. We tried to be sensitive and messaged her that we has good news and she hasn't replied and isn't answering her phone since. :/ I hope she'll be happy for us eventually.

i'm so sorry you're going through that. When i was pregnant with my first, i told a co-worker who had been trying for about 8 months. She pretended to be happy when i told her, but then was talking about me behind my back and definitely was pissed. She was angry that "some people just get pregnant no problem" and it took me 5 tries to get dd. It wasn't just done like that, but she never asked, and she didn't say it to me, so i couldn't just tell her that because i didn't witness her saying it. but she definitely treated me different. She had ivf 3 months later that worked first try but she NEVER treated me the same again. I hope it works out better for you since you're all family!!!!!!

I'm so mad at my husband. He had raw chicken that he cooked. My stomach hurt a bit this morning and apparently he is now unsure how well he washed the utensils/kitchen surfaces/etc. I'm totally freaking out. I hope it's not listeria or something that will really hurt baby. I'm so angry at him.

Oh starlight don't worry i'tll be alright. It's very rare that there is really anything bad. Take some vinegar water (safe for you and baby and pets) and just spray everything down. Or just some dish soap. Whatever makes you feel more comfortable hun. try not to worry you'll be alright.





afm i've had one dream with gender, it was a boy. I woke up totally convinced baby is a boy- almost woke dh in th emiddle of the night lol.

 

[gaiagirl]

It took maybe 2-3 min to find, I found it hiding behind the placenta! So cool to hear both.

Starlight chicken would be salmonella not listeria. Salmonella can make you sick for sure but the only risk to baby IF you got sick (which chances are 99% that you will not!) is dehydration from vomiting and diarrhea. Salmonella does not cross the placenta. Baby will be fine!

 

[gaiagirl]

Just told DS about baby who he says will be "George" lol. He looked at scan pics and said..."but that baby is just a round circle." True, buddy. It'll get cuter

 

[AngelofTroy]

Just told DS about baby who he says will be "George" lol. He looked at scan pics and said..."but that baby is just a round circle." True, buddy. It'll get cuter

Aww that's lovely. Micah wants to name ours "Boy Trophy Girl" or "Tree Brother Girl"

 

[gaiagirl]

Lol unique!

 

[gaiagirl]

Starlight ---- I am saying this with love and empathy as I tend towards being a worrier and get anxious as well...but I have noticed how much you have been worrying about what you can and cannot be exposed to etc. I HIGHLY recommend this book: https://www.amazon.com/The-Panic-Free-Pregnancy-Separates-Medications/dp/0399529896

It's written by an OB/Gyn and is science based and really lays out the facts on all the mythical pregnancy worries. I think it might be perfect for you!

 

[mommyxofxone]

Also starlight worrying and panicking causes stress which isn't ideal for the pregnancy. In fact I bet that would be more harmful Hun. Try to take a breath its on you are gonna be OK. I know its scary the first time but you'll make it through! Just try not to stress out too much OK?

 

[Starlight32]

Yeah I've been really worried . I'm having some cramping now and I dont know if that's normal, I really pray baby is doing good.

 

[MiraclesHappn]

Just told DS about baby who he says will be "George" lol. He looked at scan pics and said..."but that baby is just a round circle." True, buddy. It'll get cuter

DD has also named this baby "George Ralph" from the Curious George cartoon and the movie Wreck It Ralph

Love the comment about baby just being a round circle!

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Angeloftroy your SIL sounds unreasonable, I can understand it may be a bit disheartening for her but to begrudge other people's baby news just because you've been ttc for a few months is strange!

I'm getting nervous about announcing now! It felt like we had loads of time of it being our little secret but the weeks are flying by. I'm mainly optimistic although there are a couple of people's reactions I'm not sure about, I've learnt pregnancy and baby news can always be a funny one and its not uncommon to have someone who isn't particularly thrilled for jealousy or whatever reasons, same as mentioned above I suppose!

 

[Starlight32]

I feel sympathy for those who have trouble conceiving (although they shouldn't hate someone who is pregnant). My husband and I conceived right after I stopped birth control; I most definitely count my blessings.

 

[Boo44]

We don't do Facebook announcements or really make a point of telling anyone really! I have my scan on Thursday this week and God willing if all is ok it will be a relief to be able to tell some people at work because work has been really tough especially this weekend with 12hr night shifts

Our parents know and we'll tell siblings after our scan and that's it. Everyone else will just find out as and when I see them or when they hear from others! Although I will text a few friends. I get so embarrassed posting it on Facebook I never have!