June Bundles of Joy - 2016

[joo]

With DD we conceived straight away after coming off the pill but this time it's taken us a year and a mmc to get pregnant with this one, so I can definitely understand both sides. I still feel guilt being pregnant now even though it took a while! I can understand why people who are having fertility troubles want to hide away when someone close is expecting, but i think you can manage this without being rude! For some.reason though infertility seems like such a taboo sometimes, i know i didn't feel.like I could.talk to my family about it. I felt like some blame was placed on me too when I had a mc. When we told MIL last weekend we are.expecting again, the first thing she said to me whide giving me a congratulatory hug was, "Don't over do it this time"!! Not the reaction I was hoping for.

 

[AngelofTroy]

The thing is, it took us 6 months this time, which is less that she's been trying. I do understand her not being over the moon, but to ignore us completely seems a bit harsh. Although we half expected it after her reaction to their sister's pregnancy.

 

[Starlight32]

Yeah we don't have social media, so no Facebook announcement for us.

I had a bowel movement earlier; I'm hoping that was why I was cramping.

Joo, that was so rude of your MIL

 

[GeralynB]

All of our family and a few close friends know now. I'll hold off until 12 weeks to announce on FB

 

[Starlight32]

My tummy hurts I'm not sure why. It doesn't feel like morning sickness. Is a tummy ache normal?

Can't wait until Friday when I'll officially be in the second trimester. Then another 3 weeks until doctor appt.

 

[Becyboo__x]

I keep getting stomach ache if that's any help can't say if it's normal or not but I know there is a lot of bugs going round atm as well which is never great.

 

[Starlight32]

I'm burping a ton, it seems to temporarily help my stomach, not sure if I caught something or just super gassy? It's been like this since yesterday though.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Starlight I can be the same sometimes since being pregnant, DH certainly isn't impressed

Joo that's so rude of your MIL I'd be fuming if someone said that, I guess some people just don't think?

Angeloftroy I agree. Ttc for a few months is definitely not long term ttc so it's not like she's struggling with infertility. She just sounds a bit horrible and bitter, tbh I think with someone like that even if she was pregnant she would still have reacted in the same way and not been happy about sharing pregnancies.

 

[vaniilla]

joo - I agree, what a horrible thing of your MIL to say! people really don't think before they open their mouths sometimes.

We've tentatively made our shopping list/budget for baby things today, we have 0 storage so have only kept a few small boxes worth of things from lo - mainly toys and some bedding, anyone else? or just us being overkeen


stomach ache here too, I've had diarrhea (tmi sorry!) the past two days

the nausea is starting to go for me but the exhaustion is getting worse, I napped for two hours this morning and by 4pm I was forcing my eyes open- I could feel myself drifting off

 

[tinkerbelle93]

We've made a list too Vanilla (which I posted on here a few days back) but it's going to be a while before we can start to buy stuff- need to get Christmas and our house move out the way first. I can't wait to start shopping though, I think I might get a couple of little things after our scan like a baby grow or something just because.

I can't wait to see little baby, it still feels so surreal that I'm pregnant. I keep feeling anxious about caring for a baby again, because it's been so long since DS I feel like I'm doing it for the 1st time all over again.

 

[gaiagirl]

Annnnnnd DS is starting another cold. Sigh. He went to strong start which is a free preschool program at local schools, and I swear 2.5 days afterwards he gets sick every time. It's like he has no immune system at all...


Ahhhh I'm panicking about the sleepless nights ahead now and if I will get this one!

 

[GeralynB]

I'm not looking forward to the sleepless nights with a newborn again but DS was sleeping 6-8 hour stretches by 6 weeks so hopefully this little one will do the same

 

[gaiagirl]

Lol I meant this WEEK with my sick 3yo. He doesn't sleep well when sick at all

 

[AngelofTroy]

Aw yay we finally had a message from SIL and it was happy for us so I guess she just needed time to process.

 

[Teeny Weeny]

^^^ That's lovely Angel. Xx

I am absolutely dreading telling people. I might just wait for people to start asking! I have never told until after my NT scan anyway which gives me a few weeks yet.
I find bringing it up really awkward. Xx

 

[joeybrooks]

Wooow, I've missed so much as I dont tend to be on much over the weekend.

Squig, just wondering, what hospital are you booked into. I'm in the Royal, same as last time, wish I had another option as I didnt have a great experience last time, but hey, the others are too far away.

Re DH taking DS out, he is absolutely great. He takes him to Funky Monkeys, Museums, Zoo, Swimming, Park, Motorbike shops, Pet shops - they are really great together and have so much fun. I'd actually say DH is more independent when out with DS than I am.

My parents and in-laws know, my sister and her partner, a few work colleagues and a few friends. My mum can't wait to tell her sisters etc but we have agreed to wait until after the scan on 8 December to tell anyone else.

I have a GP this afternoon to have a chat about how I'm coping with the sickness/tiredness/low mood - maybe a few days off work will help but we will see what the Dr says.

My son knows that there is a baby in mummy's belly and he wanted to pet it last night before bed, he also wanted me to pet the baby in his belly, so I'm not really too sure how much he understands it lol. He does know that I can't carry him anymore because the baby might fall out!!!

I think that is all from me for the time being. I put my Christmas tree up at the weekend and my son was beside himself with excitement, it was so lovely to see.

 

[Starlight32]

I'm still so burp-y this morning! I feel like I might even have heartburn before even eating. Is this normal for almost second trimester? I think I prefered the nausea.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Gaiagirl fingers crossed your LO isn't too bad and you don't catch the cold, I've already had 2 illnesses this trimester and its such a crap combination!

I know what people mean by it being awkward bringing it up and announcing it. I'm going to tell my best friend on Wednesday when I meet her for lunch, I'm just hoping she won't be annoyed I've waited this long as I told her straight away with my son and she told me straight away when pregnant with her daughter.

Tbh I don't think my son is going to overly understand either until it actually happens. I feel strange that it's his last Christmas as an only child!

 

[Starlight32]

I'm thinking about taking the "let them find out approach" for my coworkers (manager already knows). It will be weird to tell them....

 

[gaiagirl]

Well it's 4 30am here and I've been awake with an on and off hysterical child since 130. I could cry I'm so frustrated and tired. He is never going to a public play place again, ever! I'm going to just secluded him in a bubble.