Hi girls thank you one and all , from the bottom of my slightly sore heart. A few hours later the realization that this month hasn't worked , tears are done and i need to pick myself up a bit and stop feeling sorry for myself , for us.
I'd never ever want to cause a divide between ttc for a first or tenth for that matter . If anything I now have a new found a deep respect for you girls going through it to get your first baby. I feel like I should apologize to the world because only now do I get it. However , were a lot luckier than some . I just want this for my two imps as much as for us. I think I've placed this crazy pressure on myself because I hoped to crack it before 37 . This will be our last and I keep feeling like were running out of time. Which is stupid and doesn't help. I don't smoke am fit etc but yes the facts are fertility is an issue at our age. Not impossible though given all the lovely bfp here.
Hubby and I had a talk and we've decided enough enough of trying in the dark , time for intervention , and the whole range of tests. Then well go from there.
Thankyou again , feel a bit daft , but better perhaps just a wee bit bruised rather than broken.

Counting my blessings . Especially as hubby ( only just ) avoided a lorry that
lost it's load , they drive like loonies here ....blind loonies. Not going to get anywhere with this ttc nuttiness without him about that's for sure !
Thanks for putting up with me , seems your stuck with me for now. Bring on the July merry go round