just found out im pregnant :-D

[emziebabiie]

Hi all,
im new here,seems like a nice place lol
Anyway i need a bit of advice :S
I found out 3days ago that i am pregnant and i am over the moon
basically i didnt plan to get pregnant but its happened, me and my boyfriend are over the moon about it.
So anyway i had a talk with my mum last night and told her and she is not happy atall,she wont even speak 2 me :'-(
i dont know what to do...im thinking of going to stay with my boyfriend until she calms and and i know when she tells my dad he is going to go mad...im really stuck and dont know what to do
could anyone give me some advice??
Thank u soo much xx

 

[miel]

your parents may need a little time to get adjust to your big news...wishing you the best
you will find great support here darling

 

[leeanne]

First of all, you have to remember that each parent wants only the best for the children and they wish to see their children go off to college or university, form a career, get married and then have babies.

So it is quite a shock to a parent when their child comes home and tells them she is pregnant.

However, if your parents are loving and supportive parents, they will come around.

If my daughter came home at your age and told me she was pregnant, I would be shocked and disappointed, but in time, she is my flesh and blood and I would support her with whatever decision she makes.

So, just give them time to get used to the idea and hopefully they will come around for you!

 

[Younglutonmum]

Hey hunni!!

First & formost, congratulations & welcome

Seeing as you've posted in the Teen section i'm assuming your a teenager lol!! Obviously this probably isn't what your mum wanted for you but it's happened now & pregnancy is a true gift!

I'm sure in time your mum will come round. She probably just needs to get her head round it. After all, you are her little girl!! Maybe it is a good idea to stay at your boyfs for a few days. Let her have space & time to think. I bet it won't be long till she's calling you to get you back home so she can take good care of ya!!! My mum wasn't massively happy when she found out about my pregnancy but she got used to it & now she's one very excited Nanny to be!!

As for your dad......It's the same. Yeh he'll be shocked but give him time & he'll be fine. I thought my dad would go mad but actually he's been great. Very supportive!!



xxx

 

[Abbys_Mummy]

i agree give them some time i dread the day if it happens my daughter comes home and tells me she is going to be a teenage mum, But been one my self i`m going to just treat her the way i would have liked to have been treated.
Do you mind me asking how old you are

 

[emziebabiie]

yh ive just turned 18.I am currently finishing my college then i will be a fully qualified hairdresser and my bf is a carpenter so money isnt a problem and i can still do hair from home.
Im so excited but scared lol.
I am adopted and dont know my real parents and a few years ago my adoptive mum said if i get preg then she will chuck me out so thats whats making me so scared
im gunna go stay with my bf until things cool off (fingers x)
Thanks for ur advice i feel a bit better now :-D xx

 

[Younglutonmum]

yh ive just turned 18.I am currently finishing my college then i will be a fully qualified hairdresser and my bf is a carpenter so money isnt a problem and i can still do hair from home.
Im so excited but scared lol.
I am adopted and dont know my real parents and a few years ago my adoptive mum said if i get preg then she will chuck me out so thats whats making me so scared
im gunna go stay with my bf until things cool off (fingers x)
Thanks for ur advice i feel a bit better now :-D xx

No wonder you're so scared if you've been threatened with homelessness in the past!!

Just remember there's loads of help out there for young parents

Concentrate on enjoying your pregnancy hunni

 

[emziebabiie]

yeah i know,atleast ive got my bf and his family that will support me if my family dont.
xx

 

[Younglutonmum]

yeah i know,atleast ive got my bf and his family that will support me if my family dont.
xx

Very true

Like I said, im sure in time your family will get used to it & support you all the way!!

Trust me, my mum is sooo interfering now

Love it tho

xxx

 

[leeanne]

When I wasn't being an angel at home, my mom used to say "I can't wait until you're 18 so I don't have to care about you anymore."

Well, honey, it's all just words. I moved out at 19 and she bawled her eyes out.

 

[emziebabiie]

yeah i think they just need time to come around it,im sure they will sooner or later.
haha i bet that must be nice :-D
Thanks for your help hun :-D
and gl with the rest of your pregnancy xx

 

[emziebabiie]

haha well thinking about it i left home before and she cried until i came back so i supose it is just words.
Just need 2 give her some time and space to get over the shock.
Thanks for all your advice i feel alot happier now :-D xx

 

[leeanne]

haha well thinking about it i left home before and she cried until i came back so i supose it is just words.
Just need 2 give her some time and space to get over the shock.
Thanks for all your advice i feel alot happier now :-D xx

Then, it sounds like they will come around.

 

[emziebabiie]

yeah i supose its just thinking about it make you more scared lol im trying to take my mind off of her now and just going to think about me and my baby xx

 

[Abbys_Mummy]

good on you for been brave i`m hope for yours and there sake they come around once they reliese how mature you are been about it.

 

[mBLACK]

I was in your position not too long ago! I wouldn't go stay with my boyfriend even if they're mad - that's like leaving them when they're distraught. Yes, your parents are mad, but they will get over it. In the end, they are the people you need most.

 

[Becky]

Firstly well done for telling your mum!! im 19 and it was one of the hardest things i had to do as i knew what her reaction would be!!

It will take time for her to come round but she will soon respect your honesty and maturity for telling her!!

i think you are right to give her some time and space to cool off!! maybe you could call her and ask for the both of you to have a chat alone so you can tell each other your feelings!!

I really hope it all works out for you and a huge congratulations!!

x

 

[gde78]

Congrats on your pregnancy honey. I'm sure your mum will come round. It's just a shock now. But if you're in a loving relationship and your both happy, you're just starting things a bit earlier than you might otherwise have done! Enjoy your pregnancy!

 

[polo_princess]

I agree with the others, your parents just need some time to come around.

good luck with your pregnancy!!

 

[Ell.Bishh]

Firstly congratulations on your pregnancy
Secondly your family need some time to come to terms with the massive news they've just heard, and im sure from what you said about you leaving home once before and her crying until you came back that they will come round in no time. My mum when I first told her was horrified, quite literally, she just sat and cred, however after afew days (it was probs only about 2 or 3 days but it seemed like a lifetime) she came round and was my rock



So dont worry about it xxx