Just found out I'm pregnant

[scuffer]

Hi All,

I'm at a total loss as to where to go or who to talk to about this as I'm reluctant to tell people I'm expecting again.

This morning I did a test and got a very faint positive (I assume this was because my period is only just due and I didn't test first thing?). I am really pleased as I really didn't think we'd manage it this month as we both had flu the week I was ovulating and only managed to have sex a couple of times!

Anyway, I had an early miscarriage last year and then I lost a baby at 13 weeks in about October due to a rare chromosomal disorder.

I'm really happy to be pregnant but am so nervous. I've always told people right away but I'm not even sure how I feel about it yet, I'm so worried it will fail. I don't think it will feel real until I have a scan.

I actually feel like crying rather than celebrating, which is insane! I'd really appreciate hearing how other people are feeling at this point.

 

[dextersmum]

scuffer congratulations on your BFP I know it is a really anxious time right now just take it each day at a time. There is a thread on her called pregnant after recurrent loss and we are a very support group of ladies who all understand what it is like to be pregnant after a loss (or more) so I suggest you come and join us and get support from people who understand and can answer questions, give advice or send a virtual hug

 

[scuffer]

Thank you so much, I will come over. I'm accepting I'm pregnant a bit more today but it doesn't feel real! x

 

[sammihanvey]

Hi there, I too just found out I'm pregnant this morning. This is my fourth pregnancy in 16 months and I'm terrified. I've had 3 miscarriages in a row and I'm so scared it's going to happed again. I had all the tests done after the last one and everything was fine and bascially they've put it down to egg quality because of my age - turned 43 2 weeks ago saying that my granny had my aunt at 45 so I'm hoping this time is my lucky time. I'm trying my best to put it out of my head until I get the first scan but I'm already picturing the scan and no heartbeat being found yet again. I have a 16 year old son from my first marriage but always desperately wanted more children. My friends all waited to have kids so it was a bit lonely raising him and I always wanted him to have someone when I'm gone. My best friend had a baby a few weeks back and she is 42 so it is possible !!!!!!!

 

[MamaTex]

First off, congratulations!! I am sorry for your losses but am glad you can say you are pregnant again. I know what you mean about crying instead of celebrating. At a little over 10 weeks I feel better than I did at the start of this pregnancy, but I am still anxious. I have a scan due for next Wednesday and so I am naturally nervous. The worry never leaves, but with each passing day your confidence grows. I wish I could just be out of this First Trimester. Time was flying but now it is crawling. It is not uncommon to be in a not-so-positive place when we are pregnant after a loss. I am hoping this pregnancy is it for you!!

 

[cozmos]

hi hope you dont mind me piping in, iv just found out im expecting again after 2 losses this will be my 3rd pregnancy in 12 months so im a little on edge myself.
we decided to tell friends and family basically because i cant hold my own water lol, im just trying to be optomistic, as its been said on this thread already the image of the empty scan and no heartbeat is always there haunting u but i suppose for your own sanity a little optomism will go along way.
my friend told me just to enjoy being pregnant and what will be will be so im just tryin to follow her advice and push the nasty wee thoughts to the back of my mind.
its still really exciting though isnt it?

 

[scuffer]

Hi there, I too just found out I'm pregnant this morning. This is my fourth pregnancy in 16 months and I'm terrified. I've had 3 miscarriages in a row and I'm so scared it's going to happed again. I had all the tests done after the last one and everything was fine and bascially they've put it down to egg quality because of my age - turned 43 2 weeks ago saying that my granny had my aunt at 45 so I'm hoping this time is my lucky time. I'm trying my best to put it out of my head until I get the first scan but I'm already picturing the scan and no heartbeat being found yet again. I have a 16 year old son from my first marriage but always desperately wanted more children. My friends all waited to have kids so it was a bit lonely raising him and I always wanted him to have someone when I'm gone. My best friend had a baby a few weeks back and she is 42 so it is possible !!!!!!!

Thank you so much for your reply, I really hope this pregnancy works out for you. My partner's mum was 45 when she had him so it's very possible!

First off, congratulations!! I am sorry for your losses but am glad you can say you are pregnant again. I know what you mean about crying instead of celebrating. At a little over 10 weeks I feel better than I did at the start of this pregnancy, but I am still anxious. I have a scan due for next Wednesday and so I am naturally nervous. The worry never leaves, but with each passing day your confidence grows. I wish I could just be out of this First Trimester. Time was flying but now it is crawling. It is not uncommon to be in a not-so-positive place when we are pregnant after a loss. I am hoping this pregnancy is it for you!!

Thank you!

Already I am starting to feel more positive and hopeful about this baby. I really hope your scan goes well.

hi hope you dont mind me piping in, iv just found out im expecting again after 2 losses this will be my 3rd pregnancy in 12 months so im a little on edge myself.
we decided to tell friends and family basically because i cant hold my own water lol, im just trying to be optomistic, as its been said on this thread already the image of the empty scan and no heartbeat is always there haunting u but i suppose for your own sanity a little optomism will go along way.
my friend told me just to enjoy being pregnant and what will be will be so im just tryin to follow her advice and push the nasty wee thoughts to the back of my mind.
its still really exciting though isnt it?

Thank you and I don't mind at all! I really hope this pregnancy works out for you, it is hard to relax after a loss but I don know it's the best thing. We have told people and feel much better for doing so because it feels more hopeful doing it.

It is exciting too, I would say I'm quietly excited!