Just need a little boost!

[annabell_54]

HI guys. I just need a little boost here. Have lost 5 babies now! But have two kids! Completely unexplained - all tests negative. But losses have been at 18 weeks, 15 weeks, 10 weeks and two at 5 weeks. Trying to decide if we should keep going or give up? Any of you out there who can give me any hope that it can happen again? And how to get through the awful fear and pain of it all? Thanks!

 

[Cattia]

Hiya,

I am so sorry for your losses. It's a tough one as if all the tests have come back negative then I am guessing there is no medial reason for this happening. What's your age, if you don't mind me asking? Could that be a factor? I have a friend who had her first healthy pregnancy at age 40 and then went on to have seven losses. She was determined to have a second child and her eight pregnancy was healthy and she now has a baby. When you have two children already a lot of people think you should just be content with that but I have two and am desperate for a third. I had a loss in feb and we are now trying again, but because of my age (37) I know that another loss is possible. I have also asked myself how many more times I could go through that to get my third. I sort of thought three but then I don't know that I could call it a day even then, so I totally understand where you're coming from. What does your OH think?

 

[annabell_54]

Hi. I am 30 so hoping age is not a factor. I too keep saying that is the last one,but then a few months go by and I want to try again. However, I am really really getting done. My oh is also done but will do whatever I decide to a point I think. We have seriously considered adoption and are still debating that topic. But the cost is so insane it's a tough call to make. I'm really back and forth and don't know when is the right time to pack it in, Just have two, try again and again, or pursue adoption. I don't know right now. If the doctors could guarantee me success I'd go for it but from I hear, no. After I do. It's a dice roll. And your right. So many people say you have two be happy, but we really wanted a family of four kids....but we'll settle for three. Two just seems like such a small family lol.

 

[Pixiedust22]

I guess it depends on how much more pain you can take. If there's no medical reason you should have the same chances as anyone else to have a healthy baby but that might not make it easier. If you're 30 age isn't a factor...

 

[dan-o]

I am in a similar position. I've had 8 losses between 4-12 weeks and have two children. Spanning 6 years ttc. Just had three mc in a row, all this year, and am flip flopping between wanting to keep going and not. I'm 37 tho, so I have the added pressure of feeling like it's now or never. I really want another baby, in fact I would like another two, but I'm not sure how many more mc I can go through, it's been a tough six months on me and my family. What to do!?