Im so cross 
and I dont think the crazy horomones help that much either!
Very briefly: I basically look after ds 24/7 and get up in the night every time about 5 or 6 times a night, Ive had about 2 lay ins till 8am, one of which was on my birthday and I had to beg for it! Oh goes to work and helps do the cleaning, I generally do the washing, childcare, shopping, cooking.
I have been out once in 18 months for 2 hours of an evening whilst my mum babysat (ds is 18 months and doesnt settle well for others at night, and oh looses all patience so I dont trust him to look after him at night whilst Im out) my oh goes out every couple of weeks for an evening and quite often pops to his dads for a couple of hours every weekend on his own ...... so gets a lot of time on his own and not much time with ds.
Anyway he has already had his works do but they finnished today and were all going for a drink after work. I said fine but make it one and then soft drinks so you can drive home and be back for dinner at 5 - he agree's.
Then I ring him at 2pm and he says hes already had 2 pints and will get a lift home and should be back by 5pm. He actually comes in at 4pm but is obviously pissed, and falls asleep on sofa so I make him go up to bed.
Im just so cross as he knew I wanted him to come home, I am on hols. and have been stuck in with ds for 3 days and could have done with some company - I dont get a break so why should he get so many?
Ive calmed down now but have burst into tears a couple of times which I NEVER do ..... just feeling like I always get the raw deal. God knows how I will cope with a 2 yr old who is a Mummies boy, an oh who thinks his needs are most important and a newborn!
Just needed a moan ..... I know there is no solution or answers ...... just feels better to let it out - think Id cancel xmas this year if it wasnt for my ds
and I dont think the crazy horomones help that much either!Very briefly: I basically look after ds 24/7 and get up in the night every time about 5 or 6 times a night, Ive had about 2 lay ins till 8am, one of which was on my birthday and I had to beg for it! Oh goes to work and helps do the cleaning, I generally do the washing, childcare, shopping, cooking.
I have been out once in 18 months for 2 hours of an evening whilst my mum babysat (ds is 18 months and doesnt settle well for others at night, and oh looses all patience so I dont trust him to look after him at night whilst Im out) my oh goes out every couple of weeks for an evening and quite often pops to his dads for a couple of hours every weekend on his own ...... so gets a lot of time on his own and not much time with ds.
Anyway he has already had his works do but they finnished today and were all going for a drink after work. I said fine but make it one and then soft drinks so you can drive home and be back for dinner at 5 - he agree's.
Then I ring him at 2pm and he says hes already had 2 pints and will get a lift home and should be back by 5pm. He actually comes in at 4pm but is obviously pissed, and falls asleep on sofa so I make him go up to bed.
Im just so cross as he knew I wanted him to come home, I am on hols. and have been stuck in with ds for 3 days and could have done with some company - I dont get a break so why should he get so many?
Ive calmed down now but have burst into tears a couple of times which I NEVER do ..... just feeling like I always get the raw deal. God knows how I will cope with a 2 yr old who is a Mummies boy, an oh who thinks his needs are most important and a newborn!
Just needed a moan ..... I know there is no solution or answers ...... just feels better to let it out - think Id cancel xmas this year if it wasnt for my ds
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