born2bamama
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Hey Girls,
So today I found out IVF#2 was not successful. I am 10dp5dt (last cycle we got a positive on 10dp5dt and then a bfn 12dp5dt followed by an hcg of 7 indicating a chemical pregnancy) which is why I wanted to test again on this day in order to catch another chemical if it happened (to try to find the most info out about why we cannot get pregnant as we are "unexplained"). My clinic tells you to go for your beta on day 16 (16dp5dt); but last time the day of my bfn I went in and they told me yes, you had a chemical so you can stop your drugs, etc. Well today I decided to go in for bloodwork for 1) to make sure there wasn't any hcg to indicate a chemical 2)so I could stop the drugs and save them for an fet or something (they are bloody expensive!) and 3) because I want it to be over since it's obviously over.
The reason I feel I need to talk to you girls is so you can make me feel like I'm not crazy... here's what happened today:
I called the clinic to tell them I was going for bloodwork so they could call me with results. The nurse called me and gave me shit for going early but said I could go if I want but if it's low I'd have to repeat it next week - to which I completely agreed and said fine but if it's zero at least I'll know now.
Anyway, I get the results back and they are under 1 (so virtually 0) and they said it's negative but they want me to keep taking drugs and redo this next week on day 16. I ask them why if I'm obviously not pregnant I would need to keep taking medication and all they can come up with is that it's their policy, oh and that it's "too early" and that they don't even know what an hcg should be at this day because they don't test pple this early.
Well, in my opinion and from what I've learned on here and from experience is that by 10dp5dt you should have a level that's detectable on a hpt and at the VERY minimum there should be something detected in your blood! They kept making me feel like I was being extremely unreasonable and argumentative!
And to make things worse when I tried to get her to understand my position (the fact that a nurse from that clinic was the one who told me it would be accurate by this date, and the reason why I was doing it - because it was the only way we would have known that we were pregnant at all last cycle) she had the nerve to tell me that the chemical pregnancy might has well been a negative, that it wasn't a realy pregnancy, and that it meant nothing!!! You have to understand that that chemical pregnancy id the ONLY positive thing we've had to hold onto this entire 3 year journey!!!
She didn't even once say she was sorry it was negative! No compassion! You'd think 25000 dollars would buy you some fing compassion and understanding instead of treating me like I'm bloody crazy for not wanting to continue taking drugs when I'm obviously not pregnant and also ripping away the only thing I've had to feel positive about..
Please tell me you agree with me - i know many of you even have betas on day10 right??
Sorry for rambling, I'm beyond defeated and this was just insult to injury today.. if there was another clinic i'd leave them but unfortunately they are the only option..
So today I found out IVF#2 was not successful. I am 10dp5dt (last cycle we got a positive on 10dp5dt and then a bfn 12dp5dt followed by an hcg of 7 indicating a chemical pregnancy) which is why I wanted to test again on this day in order to catch another chemical if it happened (to try to find the most info out about why we cannot get pregnant as we are "unexplained"). My clinic tells you to go for your beta on day 16 (16dp5dt); but last time the day of my bfn I went in and they told me yes, you had a chemical so you can stop your drugs, etc. Well today I decided to go in for bloodwork for 1) to make sure there wasn't any hcg to indicate a chemical 2)so I could stop the drugs and save them for an fet or something (they are bloody expensive!) and 3) because I want it to be over since it's obviously over.
The reason I feel I need to talk to you girls is so you can make me feel like I'm not crazy... here's what happened today:
I called the clinic to tell them I was going for bloodwork so they could call me with results. The nurse called me and gave me shit for going early but said I could go if I want but if it's low I'd have to repeat it next week - to which I completely agreed and said fine but if it's zero at least I'll know now.
Anyway, I get the results back and they are under 1 (so virtually 0) and they said it's negative but they want me to keep taking drugs and redo this next week on day 16. I ask them why if I'm obviously not pregnant I would need to keep taking medication and all they can come up with is that it's their policy, oh and that it's "too early" and that they don't even know what an hcg should be at this day because they don't test pple this early.
Well, in my opinion and from what I've learned on here and from experience is that by 10dp5dt you should have a level that's detectable on a hpt and at the VERY minimum there should be something detected in your blood! They kept making me feel like I was being extremely unreasonable and argumentative!
And to make things worse when I tried to get her to understand my position (the fact that a nurse from that clinic was the one who told me it would be accurate by this date, and the reason why I was doing it - because it was the only way we would have known that we were pregnant at all last cycle) she had the nerve to tell me that the chemical pregnancy might has well been a negative, that it wasn't a realy pregnancy, and that it meant nothing!!! You have to understand that that chemical pregnancy id the ONLY positive thing we've had to hold onto this entire 3 year journey!!!
She didn't even once say she was sorry it was negative! No compassion! You'd think 25000 dollars would buy you some fing compassion and understanding instead of treating me like I'm bloody crazy for not wanting to continue taking drugs when I'm obviously not pregnant and also ripping away the only thing I've had to feel positive about..
Please tell me you agree with me - i know many of you even have betas on day10 right??
Sorry for rambling, I'm beyond defeated and this was just insult to injury today.. if there was another clinic i'd leave them but unfortunately they are the only option..