Bride2b
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Hi all
I cant believe I am posting on here. I lost my baby on Monday. I cant help but feel its all my fault. Infact I know it is. It was my first pregnancy and was 19 weeks 2 days. On sunday night I felt a bit of a tummy ache but nothing that I didnt think were growing pains. All day monday at work I had pains which came & went accompanied by spurts of back pain. I finished work early monday (thank god) and went home to go straight to bed but was so uncomfortable. I was getting major pains which were so unbareable. I tried to call my midwife but no answer, so I tried to phone the hospital, as I did I felt a pop and my waters broke. My fiance rushed home to take me in to hospital. I had lost so much fluid that there was nothing they could do, and just had to wait & see if labour started / infection / warned I may need to terminate.
Anyway later that evening the pains returned as I had my baby. I had no idea to expect this & everything seemed like I had to keep making decisions that I would regret, like to I want to see him, hold him, have a photo etc. I did hold him but felt that the midwife might think I was strange for wanting to. I didnt hold him as long as I really wanted. I touched and stroked him.
I have just felt so lost. I went back yesterday to take moulds of his hands and feet and fingers to have made into silver jewellery so I can have something that is his.
I have now done alot of reading and know for sure what caused it. I had the Leep procedure done on my cervix 2 years ago. They said I would have a 10% increased chance of early labour. I didnt realise what they would mean by early labour (i thought maybe 37 weeks) and at the time didnt ask questions as I was not thinking of starting a family then. I know this is what caused my labor.
I feel so stupid for going to work & not realising that they were contractions. I didnt want to take more time off work than I needed (as I always feel so guilty as I am a teacher and it puts pressure on my colleagues) I just wish I had got help, and maybe they could have stitched my cervix before it caused my waters to break & maybe given me something to stop the contractions.
I just feel all this could be avoided, and that my baby would still be growing inside me if I hadnt been so stupid. He should have been born healthy & I dont know how I can live with myself.
I just feel like I dont want to return to work as it was me going to work what caused this. I am scared that my doctor wont sign me off & that I will have to go back. I just cant cope with it.
Has anyone else felt like this? Will I ever feel better?
Sorry its so long but I need to explain & get some support .x
I cant believe I am posting on here. I lost my baby on Monday. I cant help but feel its all my fault. Infact I know it is. It was my first pregnancy and was 19 weeks 2 days. On sunday night I felt a bit of a tummy ache but nothing that I didnt think were growing pains. All day monday at work I had pains which came & went accompanied by spurts of back pain. I finished work early monday (thank god) and went home to go straight to bed but was so uncomfortable. I was getting major pains which were so unbareable. I tried to call my midwife but no answer, so I tried to phone the hospital, as I did I felt a pop and my waters broke. My fiance rushed home to take me in to hospital. I had lost so much fluid that there was nothing they could do, and just had to wait & see if labour started / infection / warned I may need to terminate.
Anyway later that evening the pains returned as I had my baby. I had no idea to expect this & everything seemed like I had to keep making decisions that I would regret, like to I want to see him, hold him, have a photo etc. I did hold him but felt that the midwife might think I was strange for wanting to. I didnt hold him as long as I really wanted. I touched and stroked him.
I have just felt so lost. I went back yesterday to take moulds of his hands and feet and fingers to have made into silver jewellery so I can have something that is his.
I have now done alot of reading and know for sure what caused it. I had the Leep procedure done on my cervix 2 years ago. They said I would have a 10% increased chance of early labour. I didnt realise what they would mean by early labour (i thought maybe 37 weeks) and at the time didnt ask questions as I was not thinking of starting a family then. I know this is what caused my labor.
I feel so stupid for going to work & not realising that they were contractions. I didnt want to take more time off work than I needed (as I always feel so guilty as I am a teacher and it puts pressure on my colleagues) I just wish I had got help, and maybe they could have stitched my cervix before it caused my waters to break & maybe given me something to stop the contractions.
I just feel all this could be avoided, and that my baby would still be growing inside me if I hadnt been so stupid. He should have been born healthy & I dont know how I can live with myself.
I just feel like I dont want to return to work as it was me going to work what caused this. I am scared that my doctor wont sign me off & that I will have to go back. I just cant cope with it.
Has anyone else felt like this? Will I ever feel better?
Sorry its so long but I need to explain & get some support .x