just the two of us - my malaysian wedding journal :)

[foquita]

we are going on holiday to malaysia at the end of august and decided last week that we are going to get married while we are there my OH then said that he was planning to propose while we there anyway and had been putting money away for an engagement ring so we're now skipping that all together and just getting married!

it would take us years to save for a 'proper' wedding and the this is more 'us'. we were in two minds about telling people but we decided to (i couldn't have held it in for 5 months ) and it has been an amazing experience, everyone is so happy for us and we haven't had a single negative comment about the fact that we are doing it abroad just the two of us.

we will be getting legally married in the registry office in kuah, langkawi and then having a ceremony in the evening here:

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and staying in this villa:

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we are going to malaysia for three weeks and just taking rucksacks as we are planning on going all over the country, we have a kind of rough plan of where we want to be and when but we have only booked a hostel in kuala lumpur for our arrival, and two nights at this place (the night before and the night of the wedding), after we leave bon ton resort we will be going back to cheap hostels and street food

wedding date is 5th September 2013 we went to the lawyer today and got our paperwork stamped and signed so i will be sending it to the wedding planner in malaysia tomorrow

 

[foquita]

when we get home we will be having a party to celebrate with our friends and family, my mum is going to get a marquee or a few small marquees (back garden is quite small so i like the idea of having two or three small marquees to better fit the space, like a kind of L shape maybe? we will discuss this at a later date) and we are going to decorate with fairy lights, lanterns, tealights, etc we'll have a buffet and music.

i wrote a guest list that totaled up to 113 people so i have to mega streamline it, so i've decided that we can't have our shared work friends (we used to work together), my new work friends, people i go to uni with or my dad's family (that sounds mean but i only half heartedly added them to my full list, i never see them and would actually prefer they weren't there but i'm not looking forward to breaking the news ) i have managed to get the list down to 70 odd which is still too many but i don't expect every single person who is invited to be able to come.

 

[xemmax]

Oh it all sounds beautiful! Congrats, can't wait to hear your plans come together

 

[foquita]

thank you!

now that it's the middle of the night i'm having worries and stresses, i don't know how i am going to fit up to 72 people in my mum's back garden even if we only invite family it'll be 40. i worry about EVERYTHING during the night though

 

[Mummy May]

Sounds beautiful congrats! Xx

 

[xemmax]

Don't worry hun, everything will turn out fine. If you are really worried about space you could always research marquee functions, a lot of people with land will rent it out for a marquee, I'm not sure how much it costs though. Everything always seems worse at night!

 

[katherinegrey]

Congratulations! It all sounds so beautiful x

 

[lozzy21]

If its numbers are going to cause you stress you can hire out halls for the cost of a few marquees. It only cost us £70 to hire a hall for 5 hours for my daughters christening.

 

[kmbabycrazy]

It does sound and look beautiful, congratulations. My sister wanted to get married in malta but my family kicked up a stink about it so she got married here instead, glad everyone is happy for you as it was horrible watching people make my sister cry her way out of the wedding she wanted xx

 

[Jo_Bean]

Sounds absolutely amazing!!!!

 

[aly888]

That sounds amazing. I'm so glad everyone is happy for you

 

[Natasha2605]

wow how beautiful!

 

[foquita]

Sounds beautiful congrats! Xx

Sounds absolutely amazing!!!!

That sounds amazing. I'm so glad everyone is happy for you

wow how beautiful!

thank you all!

Don't worry hun, everything will turn out fine. If you are really worried about space you could always research marquee functions, a lot of people with land will rent it out for a marquee, I'm not sure how much it costs though. Everything always seems worse at night!

i'll do that now, it'll give me something else to do to avoid studying

Congratulations! It all sounds so beautiful x

thanks! nice to bump into you again your baby boy is beautiful

If its numbers are going to cause you stress you can hire out halls for the cost of a few marquees. It only cost us £70 to hire a hall for 5 hours for my daughters christening.

i think i'm going to research halls, not sure which area to start looking in though because everyone is all spread around everywhere! £70 is really reasonable! i really like the idea of having the party in a garden or something, maybe i need to scope out everyone's back gardens and rope the family member with the biggest one into having a party for me

It does sound and look beautiful, congratulations. My sister wanted to get married in malta but my family kicked up a stink about it so she got married here instead, glad everyone is happy for you as it was horrible watching people make my sister cry her way out of the wedding she wanted xx

that's a shame my family are really laid back thankfully! my mum and stepdad got married in secret two years ago on a freezing cold beach in scotland in march it was just the four of us (those two and my sister and i) and the humanist celebrant and it was SO romantic and my dad got married last year with just my sister and i and both his and his wife's parents. so i think they both understand the reasons for just doing it on your own, and that's why everyone has been so accepting

 

[kmbabycrazy]

Well my parents were fine with it, it was my grandparents and aunties and uncles on my dad's side. The worst part was they were calling her selfish for not doing it with my mum and dad there but the first thing her and her husband did when they came up with the idea was to ask their parents if they were okay with it. She was even planning on having a reception when she came back anyway... xx

 

[Lauren25]

Wow it looks lovely!

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[foquita]

Well my parents were fine with it, it was my grandparents and aunties and uncles on my dad's side. The worst part was they were calling her selfish for not doing it with my mum and dad there but the first thing her and her husband did when they came up with the idea was to ask their parents if they were okay with it. She was even planning on having a reception when she came back anyway... xx

that's awful did she enjoy her wedding day anyway, even though it wasn't what she had originally planned?

Wow it looks lovely!

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thank you

 

[foquita]

i met up with my mum and stepdad today and we were talking about the party, my mum mentioned that when we had a party for my stepdad's 50th birthday a few years ago there were 40 people in the house alone never mind the garden so 70 odd will be fine! plus not everyone will come, and not everyone will stay the grans will probably just come for a bit in the afternoon for example. now i'm thinking i might get away with inviting a few uni people and our shared work friends

this is much better as well because it means if my mum doesn't feel well she can go for a lie down and she doesn't have to get my stepdad to take her home, she'll be much more comfortable she has cancer and will be just finished or still having chemo at that point.

 

[kmbabycrazy]

Yeah she did enjoy it xx

 

[foquita]

kind of forgot I am getting married what with other excitements I got confirmation from the wedding planner that he received our documents so it's full steam ahead

I saw a river island maxi dress on asos that I liked but I went and tried it on yesterday and it's horrible, not my thing at all and it's a really heavy material which is no use. it didn't suit me and it was dead formal looking I know weddings are supposed to be formal but it's not really what I'm looking for and if i'm getting a formal maxi dress then i might as well just get an actual wedding dress IYKWIM? I just want a lightweight cream/white maxi dress that doesn't look too fancy! I saw this in miss selfridge yesterday and this is the kind of thing I want, but full length...anyone know where I can find such a thing?

https://m.missselfridge.com/mt/www....d=208036&parent_categoryId=208035&pageSize=40

 

[Jo_Bean]

Here are a few.....


White/Cream maxi dresses

https://m.newlook.com/mcs/publish/4923/76718?prodid=275373512&cat=cat10002&name=Womens

https://m.newlook.com/mcs/publish/4923/76718?prodid=284587510&cat=cat10002&name=Womens

https://m.newlook.com/mcs/publish/4923/76718?prodid=284587513&cat=cat10002&name=Womens

https://m.dorothyperkins.com/mt/www...finements=Colour{1}~[cream]&noOfRefinements=1

https://m.topshop.com/mt/www.topsho...nts=Colour{1}~[cream|white]&noOfRefinements=2

https://www.riverisland.com/women/dresses/maxi-dresses/Cream-lattice-top-maxi-dress-633546

https://www.next.co.uk/g3868s2#133440g38

https://www.next.co.uk/g384166s1#789073g38

https://www.next.co.uk/g383164s4#132877g38

https://m.missselfridge.com/mt/www....ents=Colour{1}~[nude|white]&noOfRefinements=2

https://m.missselfridge.com/mt/www....ents=Colour{1}~[nude|white]&noOfRefinements=2

https://m.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_008010855085_-1

Weird, some of the links don't work....edited so they should do now

This is my fav.. https://m.topshop.com/mt/www.topsho...yId=203984&pageSize=200&refinements=category~[209719|208523]