Just wish that OH would come to terms with things...I'm bloody due tomorrow

[Elle Number 4]

I just wanted to add a little bit of advice (if that's ok).
I have a fantastic DH, BUT he has admitted that for the first wee while after our babies were born that he finds it very hard. Although he feels absolute love for the baby (and me!) he finds that for the first few weeks it can be very hard for the father to feel involved because I am kind of in a daze with the baby as we get into an 'eating, sleeping, pooping routine'.
I am just mentioning this because I don't want you to put pressure on your OH, or look for signs that he isn't happy, when it may just be a case of you and your OH adjusting to becoming a family.
My DH has said he really starts enjoying being a dad when the baby is more interactive (smiling, gurgling etc.) and he feels more confident holding them.
I hope this helps in some way....and all the best for a wonderful delivery!

 

[Shinning_Star]

I know this reply is probably a bit late, but i think this is all a common thing with men and some women.
I am just gonna reiterate what others have said, it's all time, and don't rush things after baby is here cos my DF is the most hands on dad and supportive partner in pregnancy (well last time not this time) I have ever known and even he didn't do much with new baby in the beginning.
I think it's very over bearing and out of their belief these things can happen, but thwy come rouns slowly. And if they don't then you'll work through it!

 

[FitzBaby]

hang in there. i had a girlfriend in a similar situation and as soon as her OH saw bubs he just melted...

 

[rwhite]

hang in there. i had a girlfriend in a similar situation and as soon as her OH saw bubs he just melted...

I like the sound of that x Thanks hun. Glad it worked out for your friend, it must definitely make things easier!

 

[saturn73]

I just wanted to add a little bit of advice (if that's ok).
I have a fantastic DH, BUT he has admitted that for the first wee while after our babies were born that he finds it very hard. Although he feels absolute love for the baby (and me!) he finds that for the first few weeks it can be very hard for the father to feel involved because I am kind of in a daze with the baby as we get into an 'eating, sleeping, pooping routine'.
I am just mentioning this because I don't want you to put pressure on your OH, or look for signs that he isn't happy, when it may just be a case of you and your OH adjusting to becoming a family.
My DH has said he really starts enjoying being a dad when the baby is more interactive (smiling, gurgling etc.) and he feels more confident holding them.
I hope this helps in some way....and all the best for a wonderful delivery!

Very good advice, this is so true! It's a good thing to remember if he doesn't seem too interested at first. Don't assume he's totally uninterested, it can just take some time for these guys to warm up! ;-)

Anyway.... I hope you go into labour soon!!!! Good luck and keep us posted!

 

[Mrs A]

Wow i just read through your post and its harsh to say the least, have no advice except have a