...katie...????????????????????

[Emerald87]

Poor Kaida though, having Tyler's monster-sized babies.

 

[ashiozz]

I bet their children would be SO gorgeous, they'd glow no matter where they are 0.o like radiated amazing starlooking children.

Hell yes.

 

[Emerald87]

GIANT gorgeous radiating model like children - with the longest legs ever.

 

[ashiozz]

HELLS YES.. Tylers legs are scary long -.- Kaidas are too. Theyd be so cute! lmao

Mr. Tyler is resisting sleep tonight.... >< I knew he would. he slept all afternoon.
s'okay, he let mommy have a nap earlier today.. apparently the need for sleep diminishes the longer you go without it 0.o

 

[Emerald87]

SLEEP TYLER! I wish I could come babysit him - you'd get sleep and I'd get extreme cute. Plus I'd meet my future son in law.

 

[Emerald87]

KATIE - when you come on, there has been an awful shortage of Patrick squee and I demand that is fixed in copious amounts immediately

 

[Emerald87]

And Lia. I want Kesslie squee too.

 

[ashiozz]

muahahaha, Im good and supply squee at least every few days

Yes, I wish someone was here to help me too, actually.

I kind of broke down earlier with mitch, I was promised a vegas trip during my labor, so i went looking for hotels thinking we could do it for my bday, he said no


I got upset because Ive spent 9+ months pregnant, not allowed to do anything fun, and now I spend all day and all night doing the mom thing, its rare that I get the chance to even brush my hair! I explained Id love a short break for my birthday because I cant just remain inside all the time doing nothing but taking care of Tyler. He asked if I was sure I wanted a kid 0.o? The fuck? Cuz I want a break when I Feel I deserve one at LEAST one short one esp after all I went through and how much work it took to get him into this world and hes asking if Im sure I wanted him. I nearly lost it but I explained how I felt, I Told him he doesn't get it, his life hasn;t been altered, Im the one living on 4 hours of sleep. Im the one that never sees sunlight. Im the one who carried him, my life's been altered since I saw the two lines on the stick and his has been the same. On the other side of that, Mitch told me he was jealous because he feels like he misses everything tyler does while hes at work. His example: Today I put tyler in his crib, he's got a wall mural I painted above the crib and he was staring and cooing at it today and making baby noises, it was really cute, I told mitch about it.. apparently his feelings got hurt because he wasn't here for it..

I know my life is completely different than it used to be, I can't just get breaks or do what I want whenever, and I'm cool with that, and I expected that, but if I could have just a short time to be normal again after all that I've been through, it would really give me something to look forward to =/

..It's not going to happen, so I just need to let it go =/ .. but I cried over it ... I Really hope that this all passes and Im not going to get a terrible case of postnatal depression, but I can see it happening.. guh


Most of the time Im happy, I love Tyler more than anything, but doing this on my own and realizing I don't have ANY Time ever for me, is whats scary...

I think once Im allowed to exercise it;ll get better, least I'll be able to work out and get my mind off of it all. 3 weeks and 2 days til then

 

[hoping4girl]

Oh ash, I know how you feel and thats totally normal, you do deservea break!!!

And I need to carch up, but while im sitting here pumping I have a couple of questions real quick... 1: when does the damn swelling go away in my feet??? They are so freakingchubby and they hurt!
And 2: ....shit I can't remember 2. I thunk it was about pumping....crap.

Lizzie is doing good, made some progress over the past couple days: no longer has the light in her (yippee!!) And working hard toward breathing on her own! Ok I think my boobies are done pumping nkw.... Be back at 5!!

 

[Emerald87]

Wanting some time out doesn't mean you don't love your son with everything. It is frustrating that Mitch doesn't exactly see the issue - yep, everything changed from those two lines. Not just activities but mitch hasn't had to change his eating, drinking and f-ing sleeping positions.
Yes, the fact is with him being out of the house and not carrying the baby for 9 months means he's going to miss out on things. But he's not missing out on functioning.
Just because you're a Mum doesn't mean you're not human. You need to brush you hair, shower etc. Yes, Tyler is now your priority but just because something is a priority doesn't make it a 24/7 chore. He's a commitment, not a chore and being a good Mum means you need a break. Hell, it's not like you're one of these women that says "ok, I'm bored" *leaves kid on floor, goes interstate for weeks*
If you do notice any of the post-natal depression symptoms, get help sooner rather than later. Some doctor prescribed time out might make Mitch think for a moment.


Sorry to go O/T but Kaida is giving me my first uncomfortable kicks. She's going for my intestines on my left and every single kick is making me jump.

 

[Emerald87]

SARAH! BEAUTIFUL LADY! Hope Lizzie is well. Glad to hear the light is off and thus the jaundice is resolving.

Get someone to massage your feets - maybe it'll help with the swelling

When do you get discharged from hospital?

 

[ashiozz]

Oh ash, I know how you feel and thats totally normal, you do deservea break!!!

And I need to carch up, but while im sitting here pumping I have a couple of questions real quick... 1: when does the damn swelling go away in my feet??? They are so freakingchubby and they hurt!
And 2: ....shit I can't remember 2. I thunk it was about pumping....crap.

Lizzie is doing good, made some progress over the past couple days: no longer has the light in her (yippee!!) And working hard toward breathing on her own! Ok I think my boobies are done pumping nkw.... Be back at 5!!

You had a csection right? And Im assuming they pumped you full of fluids which is similar to myself : It took my feet a week to get back to normal after I left the hospital.. so uh, the only tip i have is drink a lot of water, the more you drink the less you retain. It really works

 

[Emerald87]

At least she's stopped kicking my cervix (which she was going to town on earlier this arvo)

 

[ashiozz]

haha your jumping bean seems way more violent than mine ever was.. this is hopefully a good sign , shes going to be a handful though i bet


Yeah, I just want like 3 days, out of town, just me and him having fun.. and he brought up money, I said Id go back to work? He said hed rather me be home with Tyler..

So basically, Im in a rough position, I get to hear about our lack of money, but I can't contribute because he won't let me go back and if I do we have nowhere to put tyler but daycare with strangers, neither one of us is okay with that... but if I dont go back I basically am stuck at home having zero fun until he's old enough for me to go back -.-

Rock.and.a.hard.place.

I don't know if it's depression or if I have valid reasons to be upset to the point of crying, Im more frustrated because I can't make mitch understand.. to top it off he kind of lacks empathy, or he can't show it anyways.. sometimes communicating with him is difficult.. hes an aspie and I am not.. so I've learned how to communicate over the years and he's gotten better at it too, but sometimes I cannot make him see it eye to eye.

He knows I love Tyler, because when he asked if I was sure I wanted a kid and I got pissed he told me he knows I love him and that wasn't his concern.. he's just asking questions.

=/ guh. I just want our relationship back to how it was when I could tell him anything, but lately when it comes to my feelings Im afraid to say anything, and he's really all I have in AZ.. everyone else I love is in Ohio =/ which makes it even harder.

Im sorry for being a downer, I want to be happy now.. Tylers kind of falling asleep.. he keeps moving in his sleep... but he sleeps like me with his elbows out it makes me smile.

 

[Emerald87]

Hey! It's ok to feel down; we're here for you so vent away.

Your relationship will never be the same - there's a 3rd party now and things will change. However you should still be able to share your feelings with him - but I know how you feel (sort of); with all my paranoia I've overwhelmed Colin and I've had to start holding back with him which I've never done before. It's really hard.
I think once you get some good sleep and some time out things will at least feel a little better if not be much, much better.
Mitch needs some perspective but I'm not sure how to give him some. Can you just book a couple of day away and he can like it or lump it? I'm sure you can get somewhere heavily discounted motels somewhere even if it's close. Do you have voucher websites or the like? Have you tried the wotif website?
Mitch may temporarily have a spack but he'll get over it and will love the time with his wife. I never usually suggest such things (I'm like you and always come to agreements rather than just going behind each other's back) but maybe this is one of those times you need to think about you. It's been 10 months since you've had you time. I think it's time to get a couple of days back. Eat soft cheeses, drink wine. Find and eat the dirtiest kebab or hotdog you can find.

 

[ashiozz]

lmao @ the hot dog comment, He offered to fly me to FL to see my mom, I told him he didnt get it, I did see cheap deals for vegas, but he wasnt willing, I have some money his mom gave to get the back yard taken care of (but Im determined to finish the back yard myself because spending money on that thing is ridiculous, its a small space) .. she said if I do it to spend it on whatever I want, his gramma also sent me 100 bucks, so I have a little money, We'll see when my bday is closer what happens, its not til September. Thats exactly how I explained it to him too, that I spent 10 months pregnant and now the whole time Tylers been out and the whole time all my focus has been on Tyler, I wanna let go and think about ME for once, I Dont do that often, even pre-prego. I'm normally thinking about everyone else. I know the relationship will be different due to a baby, but being able to communicate should NEVER be different, and that's dangerous. I don't want us to stop loving each other because we can't talk to each other, or because I resent him because his life hasnt changed, or because we're sleeping separated for a while -.-.. or because of lack of money, it's more strain than we have ever experienced.. we're strong but I don't know HOW strong and finding out scares me.

Blah, I just don't know.

Im glad Sarah informed me this is normal, or I'd feel crazy right now.


..HES ASLEEP! HOLY HELL! Imma catch some Z's while I have a shot.

 

[Menelly]

LOL, happy page 666!! My dad is in town from oregon so I've been busy, I still you all.

 

[Emerald87]

Demonic page!!!

You're right Ash, it gets scary when communication changes and having a baby shouldn't do that. Hopefully it's just hormones on both your parts (it's been proven new dads get fluctuations) and things will resolve. I'm holding out for that to happen here too.

 

[gigglebox]

hello my lovliest of ladies!

em--your wildly active little girl makes me wonder how she's going to be when born! i bet she's going to be a flailing little ball of cute

which reminds me, Des has a new nickname: Mr. Flails. also Kick Stand. also Chubby Cheeks, but I think I might have to pass that one off to Tyler.

Ashley & Emerald, i know you both want to withdrawl to save your husbands, but now is the time to be open and brutally honest if you want to save yourself some stress. Em--voicing your concerns is going to help you get them out, and sometimes it's best to have the person we love most tell us it'll be OK. Same to you Ashley, you have got to let him know exactly how you feel, and don't hold back. Don't be an uber bitch, but forget about how it'll make him feel for one moment and let yourself vent to him. Tell him that though you know it's irrational, you are resenting him and his life style at present. Tell him you're frustrated that he doesn't get it. But before you do that, you are going to have to ask yourself what it is exactly you want out of the conversation. If you want him to let you go to Vegas, tell him exactly that. Or tell him you just need him to assure you it will all be OK...men need things spelled out for them and I think you're going to have to do just that. Especially the aspie men and even then, sometimes they need a reminder again in the future.

 

[gigglebox]

sarah i'm excited for you! give us some photo updates when you can!