Hello,
This is my first child, and I think I know how I would like to give birth, I have a beautiful vision of me on all fours in a birthing pool leaning over the edge holding onto my hubby. I'm very good with pain usually, and for both my miscarriages I had contractions that I could sleep through. I am fully aware though that it will be much more painful to go through labour.
Im just wondering what real labour is like? I'm going to try and have a completely natural labour, without medicated pain relief just a birthing pool. has anyone done this?
Keep that vision in mind! I think it really helps - even if your experience doesn't quite turn out that way.
I was very relaxed about labour with my first child, and thought I could cope well with pain- but for me it was much more intense than I had expected. It's very difficult to describe but I think 'pain' isn't quite the right description. It's something much more powerful than pain...and the trick is to try not to think of it as pain but as something else...(hypnobirthing is one way to approach this!).
I got to 3cms with just what I would describe as strong period cramps. Then it sped up and I went from 3-fully dilated in 2 hours - so that's partly why I found it so intense I think. I didn't have an epidural, just gas and air and the pool, but I did ask sort of ask for an epidural and declare that I couldn't do it during transition (so was already fully dilated). It does get intense enough that if you know there is something that will take away the pain it becomes too tempting! But I soon forgot about it with the next contraction.
Once I was pushing I found it somewhat easier, having something to do with the contractions rather than just having them happen to do you!
You have to do whatever feels right for you - assuming there are no problems with the baby, a natural birth should be achievable without pain relief, but that doesn't mean you HAVE to do it without. They don't give out medals! I've had people describe calm and wonderful experiences using an epidural, compared to their first where they were distressed and upset by the experience.
These are experiences that will stick with you forever, so it is best to keep as open a mind as possible, and know that you can't always predict what will happen on the day.
This time, I'm going to be having the baby in a midwife led unit, and I'm hoping for a calmer experience, knowing what to expect and that I CAN do it and the pain really doesn't last forever.
Good luck!