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Firstly, beautiful lines 
With your husband, mine is similar. Each time I see lines I do the same as you - I say I will hold off, then I'm indecisive, then I tell him. And his reaction is similar in that I get a kind of neutral look, no excitement or anything. He says hopefully this time but I can't get excited. And although I understand why, it is disheartening and makes me think it's over before it's started. Which it has been for us, but that's a different story. Most of the time people go on to have a healthy baby after a mc, like you did with your daughter. It's far less likely to keep happening and I think you would have some idea if that was highly likely i.e. you would be aware of a problem already there, like I am with myself.
I don't see any reason why this won't be ok. But it's different for everyone and some find it easier to distance themselves, particularly men, because we can't distance ourselves in the same way since it's happening inside our body, not theirs.
I think he would probably want nothing more than to shout it from the rooftops but he doesn't want to allow himself to get attached to the idea of a new life because of what happened before. I'm sorry, I know at the moment what you need is for him to react with a little more positivity than he has, but given time I think he will
With your husband, mine is similar. Each time I see lines I do the same as you - I say I will hold off, then I'm indecisive, then I tell him. And his reaction is similar in that I get a kind of neutral look, no excitement or anything. He says hopefully this time but I can't get excited. And although I understand why, it is disheartening and makes me think it's over before it's started. Which it has been for us, but that's a different story. Most of the time people go on to have a healthy baby after a mc, like you did with your daughter. It's far less likely to keep happening and I think you would have some idea if that was highly likely i.e. you would be aware of a problem already there, like I am with myself.
I don't see any reason why this won't be ok. But it's different for everyone and some find it easier to distance themselves, particularly men, because we can't distance ourselves in the same way since it's happening inside our body, not theirs.
I think he would probably want nothing more than to shout it from the rooftops but he doesn't want to allow himself to get attached to the idea of a new life because of what happened before. I'm sorry, I know at the moment what you need is for him to react with a little more positivity than he has, but given time I think he will
