Laparoscopy - Scared of the next steps

[Myshelsong]

So Hubby and I have been trying since June 2011.

I have had a HSG in December and one of my tubes are blocked but nothing else showed up. We took a few months off, but decided that this was our month and started really taking our vitamins, I bought softcups to use after we bd, some preseed, even got my hubby on board with his vitamins which is crazy because he a mans man and didn’t want to take anything this whole time but now he is finally on board. We are being really positive this month.

I went to the Dr on Wednesday for my follow up to talk about the next steps and he advised he would like me to get a Laparoscopy just to see what is going. He said it would take about three months to schedule, so In my head I am preparing to go under the knife in three months.

I got a call this morning asking if I am available for next Friday, March 22.... That is a lot closer than three months and now I don’t know what to do. I was really hoping to get one solid month in of trying to get pregnant naturally but now I don’t know what to do. I can take the March 22, 2013, but that means that we would be out this month as it would be like 9 DPO when it happens. Or I can just say no to March and book for April.

Am I being silly to want to push it one more month?
Is it crazy to think I can positive my way into getting pregnant before we take drastic measures?
I am so confused about it all right now, I think I am just really overwhelmed and upset about it all. I really just dont know what to do.

 

[Faith34]

Hi Hun had to post as u know exactally what ur going through, I don't want to seem like I'm rubbing it in as I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant however it took a long time to get here. Me and hubby had been ttc for 2 years before finally getting referred, I also had hsg test, after waiting 4 weeks for results I went to see my consultant( on my own, only app hubby has never been to) consultant told my both my tubes were blocked, I was devastated however had read that your tubes can spasm during the procedure, I asked if I could have it done again but consultant said she would prefer to do a laparoscopy, I could of threw up on the spot, never been in hospital in my life!! What freaked me out even more is that I was given a date there and then and filled in consent forms. My date was 2 weeks from then. I went home and was gutted, however after speaking to hubby and family ( and a big glass of wine) I started to feel positive about it, I finally had an answer and I wasn't going mad. I had my lap and consultant said after that both tubes had been blocked and had adhesions on them, they managed to partially unblock one tube but they didn't get time to start on other tube( operation took 3 hours) so that was last march, last may I finally got a bfp! Sadly I mc but I was just so pleased that my body was working!! I went back to see consultant in October and she advised I have another lap to try and unblock the other tube to give me the best chance of conceiving myself rather than meds or ivf. So I was all geared up for another lap however 5 says later I got a bfp!!! And here I am 6 months pregnant. I would ask how long u would have to wait for next app, if it's quite a while I would really consider having the lap next fri, the only thing you've fit to remember us that it will take you a little while to recover from the lap so you may not feel up to dtd the next month? It took me a good 10 says to feel and move around normally again, so unfortunately I missed the first month of ovulation. I hope I've helped and havnt just confused u, I truly believe if I hadn't had the lap I'd still be no further forward x good luck x

 

[Myshelsong]

Thank you so much for understanding.
Congratulations on you're bundle of joy after such a long journey. There is no rubbing in my face, just a hope that out could be Me if I go forward with the lap.

 

[Faith34]

Hi Hun, did you decide what to do about the lap? Just wanting to wish u luck x

 

[Myshelsong]

Yup, we are going forward with it April 26. Giving this cycle a good old fashion try first.
Thanks for the support!

 

[MollyNorwood]

Hi Myshelsong!
Im glad you went ahead and booked the lap. It was the best thing I have done in relation to helping my quest for a baby! I had mine done in Jan this year after TTC 13 months and already armed with the knowledge that I have PCOS. I was advised by my specialist to do this, so he could see first hand 'what we are dealing with'. There are some things that cannot be seen by an ultrasound after all. I was terrified because I hadn't been in for any kind of opp since i had my tonsils removed at age 5! But everyone at the hospital was so kind and efficient with their jobs that I just let them do it.
Now i have the peace of mind that the doc has seen what he needs to (he did the surgery) and was able to discuss our next move with confidence. I am glad that for a bit of discomfort, we are another step closer to achieving our dream

 

[sugarpuff]

I pleased you got a date that you're happy with I'm so glad I had a lap when I was last ttc as they had put me down as unknown infertility (hycosy showed both my tubes were fine) but the lap showed me to have severe endometriosis. After the surgery I got pregnant after two months !

I am due to have another lap on the 13th April (been ttc again for 30 months), and am terrified but glad at the same time - although I am now 5dpo on my last chance month and really hope it works and I don't need the lap !

Good luck xx

 

[Myshelsong]

Thank you ladies so much.
I have been really scared that they will find something when they do this, that I almost forgot that if they find something they may be able to fix it. My Aunt has a sever case of Endo and was never able to have children and I have been terrified that if I have this I will never ever be able to conceive, but that isn't true anymore is it. There are cases, lots of them, where Drs can operate and women can become pregnant after finding out they have endo.
I feel like I was so scared of the worst case scenario I forgot there could be any other kind of scenario.

Thank you all for your kind words.

 

[CCClomidQueen]

I just had my Lap on Thursday it wasn't so bad, just really sore, but much better today 4 days after and going back to work tomorrow .my doctor found scarring where I had my appendix out many yrs ago and my ovary stuck to bowel and surprisingly my left side opposite of appendix was worse, I had severe adhesions and hidden ovary! she was able to clean up everything 100% except the right ovary is still attached to bowel, but she seemed really happy with findings. I meet with her for my post op next week and can hardley wait since I was groggy when hearing the news.let me know if you have any questions. i was so....scared but am glad i did this. who knew I had all those adhesions.