I thought some of us might find it helpful to talk to others who have gone/are going through this. We may be able to help each other with unique situations. A little background for me: I have a 19 year age gap between my first two daughters. I admit, when the first one got to be over 8-10 years old, I figured that was going to be it for me. Then nearly five and a half years ago I met my OH and things just really clicked between us from that moment. Even though he is seven years younger and at the time lived on the other side of the United States (not to mention a few other complications), we were close with each other and happy. My older daughter was graduating from high school and moving out on her own for college and was encouraging me to go ahead and move. She also wanted a baby brother. I guess a certain amount of it was meant to be as I was only here six weeks and two days before I conceived our little darling. Not having any friends/family with small children around here and feeling that the toddler needs more interaction with her age group, we decided on having another. I am fully expecting (and planning as best as one can) that this current one will be our last. I told my oldest that if it is another sister, she is on her own for wanting a boy in the family. That is our story in a (largish) nutshell. Where are you coming from?