BenedettaMama
Prego 11w, Mama to 1yo DD
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Ok, so I am still fairly new to this forum and am not sure if something like this has been posted before or not, but I need to know if anyone is in the same boat, or has sailed this boat to the great beyond and back in one piece... or even multiple pieces... either way, I'm pretty nervous...
My daughter is nearly a year old. It took us a loooooong time to conceive her. I had a lot of medical issues and the docs basically told me I COULD get pregnant, it would just be really difficult. Lo and behold we finally were blessed with Izzy, and overjoyed. After she was born we decided to wait until she was about 18-24 months before we even STARTED to try again. For us, trying means sex every other day, temp taking, cm testing... you know, that old chestnut.
We had had unprotected sex for years without even so much as a real pregnancy scare before Izzy came along... and my periods are super irregular bla bla bla. So I thought nothing about having random unprotected sex with my hubby. I figured the chances of us getting pregnant without *trying* were next to nothing. Yeah. Lesson learned on that one!
Long story longer, I am now nearly 12 weeks pregnant... It was only a whim that had me take a test... Mostly because I felt some weird stretching type pain. Every other symptom I had simply explained away in my own head. Now I realize that my daughter will BE 18 months when the new baby is here... I am TERRIFIED. I have a million questions and fears...
In my mind 18 months is still a very important developmental time (not to say that every year of every child's life isn't but... you know what I mean) and I don't know the best way to properly divide/share my time amongst my daughter and the new baby, who will basically be attached to me for the first two months, when sleep and breastfeeding will be my primary levels of existence... Will my daughter start to resent me and feel like I have abandoned her in a way? How can I prevent/help that?
Please PLEASE don't get me wrong... We are both VERY excited about this new baby... I guess I am just really nervous about them being so close in age.
If you are or were ina similar circumstance I would LOVE to hear from you! If you've done it, tell me how you did it, what the hardest parts were/are... Anything you think I might need to know that you're willing to share...
If youre in the same boat as me, I'd love to hear I'm not alone in Scaredy-cat-ville.
Thanks in advance, and sorry for the rambles...
My daughter is nearly a year old. It took us a loooooong time to conceive her. I had a lot of medical issues and the docs basically told me I COULD get pregnant, it would just be really difficult. Lo and behold we finally were blessed with Izzy, and overjoyed. After she was born we decided to wait until she was about 18-24 months before we even STARTED to try again. For us, trying means sex every other day, temp taking, cm testing... you know, that old chestnut.
We had had unprotected sex for years without even so much as a real pregnancy scare before Izzy came along... and my periods are super irregular bla bla bla. So I thought nothing about having random unprotected sex with my hubby. I figured the chances of us getting pregnant without *trying* were next to nothing. Yeah. Lesson learned on that one!
Long story longer, I am now nearly 12 weeks pregnant... It was only a whim that had me take a test... Mostly because I felt some weird stretching type pain. Every other symptom I had simply explained away in my own head. Now I realize that my daughter will BE 18 months when the new baby is here... I am TERRIFIED. I have a million questions and fears...
In my mind 18 months is still a very important developmental time (not to say that every year of every child's life isn't but... you know what I mean) and I don't know the best way to properly divide/share my time amongst my daughter and the new baby, who will basically be attached to me for the first two months, when sleep and breastfeeding will be my primary levels of existence... Will my daughter start to resent me and feel like I have abandoned her in a way? How can I prevent/help that?
Please PLEASE don't get me wrong... We are both VERY excited about this new baby... I guess I am just really nervous about them being so close in age.
If you are or were ina similar circumstance I would LOVE to hear from you! If you've done it, tell me how you did it, what the hardest parts were/are... Anything you think I might need to know that you're willing to share...
If youre in the same boat as me, I'd love to hear I'm not alone in Scaredy-cat-ville.
Thanks in advance, and sorry for the rambles...