Looking for Buddies

[cutestuff]

Hello ladies. I am looking for people who are going into November still TTC #1. A little about me, I am 30 and my husband is 32. I believe we are healthy (he is a little over weight, but no way to check anything else). We met when I was 18 and he was 20. I was on birth control until 24 when I decided to stop as there were more negative side effects than positive and we knew we were going to get married. We decided to start trying to conceive this last June. Granted, it was too late in my cycle to stick, but since then, no luck. I think a majority of the time, we missed our marks, with the exception of 2 months. August, and that ended in a 9 day long period, and October. Let me just say, I thought I nailed it this month, but then af showed up and it sucks. It seems a bit heavier than usual, so IDk. I used to be that person who would ask people I knew who were married when they were going to have kids, and have even had people ask me when I was planning to have kids. We wanted to wait until I was done with school and things were better for us financially, done with school, no change on the financial front, but I am so scared if I wait it won't happen. Its been 5 months of actively TTC without results, granted at least 3 of those months had no chance of resulting in baby, but with so many people constantly getting pregnant seemingly without trying, it is getting overwhelming. It seems like whenever I think I could be pregnant, someone else gets a visit from the stork. Anyone want to join me for this rollercoster ride????

 

[bluebird44]

Hello! I'm there with you! Are you temping & charting? I find that it helps me to feel like I have a little bit of control, or at least some good information.

 

[fluffet521]

I'll join the roller coaster, too!

cutestuff, don't forget that it can take up to a year to conceive the first time, so definitely don't lose hope!

I agree with bluebird, temping and charting gives me some sense of control and makes me feel better about the journey and knowing where I stand (if and when I ovulated, etc.).

Good luck, hun!

 

[cutestuff]

Thanks ladies. I do have a phone app that tracks my cycle, not fertility friend, but the temping and charting is a bit much for me when I don't have a lot of time to myself to make sure it happens... I have a furry baby who really likes to wake me up and get me moving, so long story short, I watch for my cm changes- which are pretty predictable and figure I range from 27-30 day long cycles so if I start TTC between 5-6 days before my predicted ovulation and extending it 1-2 days after, it works. The problem is we have been together for so long it can be hard to have sex that much.. It sucks, but both of us would rather be happy and at peace than constantly forcing ourselves to have sex to try for a baby.

 

[fluffet521]

Sounds like a good plan, cutestuff. DH and I have been together for a long time, too (almost 15 years!) so I totally understand what you mean about having sex so much. We are trying SMEP this month and I've already found it to be a bit stressful and puts pressure on us both. Planned sex just isn't as much fun as spontaneous sex!