Looking for TTC buddies after MC

[PeanutWhereRU]

Hi ladies. I'm joining you here again (i hope i will be anyway, but i wish i wasnt of course....)
I lost my precious baby 2 days ago at 7w3d.. early yes.. but heartbroken of course.
I am firm in my mind knowing i want to try again as soon as possible.. DH is not so sure.
I guess my question is did you wait until you got your first AF or did you try straight away? I realise we cant do it right away (obviously) but i don't know if i want to wait too long. Ive left the hospital with absolutely no information at all....

Sorry for your loss. We got our bfp together. I saw your post on the feb testers group xx

Drs will say wait until 1 full cycle so your body has healed and your uterus is fully ready to home another baby and you can also date your pregnancy more accurately but there is nothing to back this theory and many women have gotten pregnant straight away with healthy babies. I guess it's down to when you are emotionally ready. I'm ready to try again straight away still but that's my mind ready and wanting to catch the fertile period which I did last time. It took me 3 years to get to this stage so I will keep trying xx

 

[BabyBrain80]

mrsmummy2 I'm so sorry I hope you are doing ok, stupid thing to say but I hope you are coping xxx

W8tingforbaby, I'm so sorry for your loss, welcome


With my miscarriages I've always let myself get a full cycle before ttc again. Just to let things calm down, allow my body to reset. If I went straight for it I'd worry so much that maybe there wasn't something quite right, something left behind, lining too thin etc. My dates might be a bit off too and it could cause unnecessary worry if they scan and say baby is measuring small and all it's down to is wrong dates. It's tough because I know part of you wants to be pregnant ASAP, like it can take a little bit of the pain away, but I'm such a worrier and it's worth it for me to feel a little bit reassured having a cycle and proper af. My friend is the opposite and she just needed to be pregnant again ASAP and everything was fine.

I hope you guys recover quickly, it's such an awful thing to happen xxx

I'm guessing I'm about 5dpo. I'm really confused though. Here's the story....
So as you may remember I've had really slowly falling hcg, not had bloods but kept getting faint bfp's on 10miu/ml ic's . Before this af I still had faint shadows but I read that others were getting these too so thought maybe just a faulty batch, especially when it seems I'm getting af. I appeared to get a LH surge on OPK's for the first time last week so figured all might be ok. Then on Saturday at 3dpo I decided to test a new batch of ic's to make sure no shaddow and used a frer to compare (being sure 3dpo is too soon for any BFP)......only to get a bloody thin pink line on a frer. So since they are more sensitive (poss 6miu?) I reckon I still have hcg in my system from my mc in December....12 weeks ago !!! Totally bummed cos I don't know if I ovulated at all now and why is this taking sooooooo long!!
Doubt it's a new pregnancy.


Sorry rant over, just feeling pissed at this whole thing,

 

[mrsmummy2]

Its so awful isnt it peanut.. how everything is fine one minute then the next your world collapses. I think I would like to wait 1 cycle mainly for dating reasons. I have to convince DH too which i think will take some time..

 

[mrsmummy2]

Thankyou babybrain.
Sorry you've had such a hard time

 

[W8tingforbaby]

We are trying to wait for one cycle as well since I now have no clue as to when it will come but I do see my ob doctor tomorrow anyway. Was supposed to be my 7 week scan and check but now it’s my follow up for the miscarriage

 

[mrsmummy2]

Yes definitely not looking forward to the not knowing etc. Apparently i dont even get a follow up.. they just sent me on my way i think when i am feeling up to it i will call my gp and arrange an appointment just to discuss everything.
I hope your appointment will go as well as it can w8ting

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Yes definitely not looking forward to the not knowing etc. Apparently i dont even get a follow up.. they just sent me on my way i think when i am feeling up to it i will call my gp and arrange an appointment just to discuss everything.
I hope your appointment will go as well as it can w8ting

Wait what? No follow up? Did they check to see if everything left your system?? That's not right they should at least have one follow up appt...

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

@brain sorry you tests are still showing positive. I have read you can still ovulate so I would say keep trying every other day and see how you go.. have you ever felt ovulation pain?

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

We are trying to wait for one cycle as well since I now have no clue as to when it will come but I do see my ob doctor tomorrow anyway. Was supposed to be my 7 week scan and check but now it’s my follow up for the miscarriage

Me and you are in the same boat. Hope your appt goes well tomorrow. Hope everything has come away naturally x

 

[Poppiebug]

W8tingforbaby & mrsmummy2 - I'm so so sorry about your losses I'd never want to "welcome" anyone here, but you are very welcome.

We waited until I got my first AF before trying again, even though I would have been keen to start straight away.

BabyBrain80 - I understand how you feel, so hard and frustrating not knowing what is going on.

 

[imready4it]

Welcome ladies. I’m sorry you are both going through this horrible time. I tried again right away but was unable to catch until my 2nd cycle post D&C. I hope you both the very best of luck.

Peanut, still thinking of you dear.

Babybrain, that is strange....that is an extremely long time to still be testing positive. I had read somewhere to have an appointment with provider if you were still testing positive so many weeks later. Have you considered calling your provider?

 

[mrsmummy2]

Yes definitely not looking forward to the not knowing etc. Apparently i dont even get a follow up.. they just sent me on my way i think when i am feeling up to it i will call my gp and arrange an appointment just to discuss everything.
I hope your appointment will go as well as it can w8ting

Wait what? No follow up? Did they check to see if everything left your system?? That's not right they should at least have one follow up appt...

*sorry if theres tmi in this*

When I went in I was bleeding but not awfully, then i had to give a sample and it poured out, then they took bloods and my levels were 470 which he said was very low for 7 weeks so they used a speculum and did swabs then used these large "scissors" but with a scrape on the end rather than blades. They got out a few clotty bits and a little poured out onto the bed. Then he said the tissue in the blood was consistent with that of a miscarriage, said he was sorry, gave me time to get dressed and said i could go home. Only info he really gave was to do a pregnancy test in 3 weeks and if its positive i have to call them to go back.

Thankyou I'mready4it and poppie. Not a place any of us want to be but I'm glad we all have support here

 

[BabyBrain80]

Thanks ladies x

Mrsmummy did they scan you to make sure everything was gone? I got 1 scan 2 weeks after i actually mc to check all was ok. I hope you are ok xx

Peanut, yeah I got all my usual signs that ovulation could be gearing up, and with the opks I figured it might well have done just that. That would have been last wed. Anyway guess we wait and see. xx

 

[mrsmummy2]

No didn't get a scan as all they said was you wont see anything with levels of 470 i have managed to get an appointment with my gp this afternoon so hoping she can answer some of my questions.

 

[W8tingforbaby]

Good luck mrs with your appointment today

 

[mrsmummy2]

Thanks w8ting. Will update you all later xx

 

[BabyBrain80]

Imready, hope you are doing ok
oh I know it's very slow! my hcg dropped slowly last time too and everything was ok, just slow. This time there were a few retained bits and they passed in a bleed 6weeks after the original mc, so it was mc part 2! My tests at that point at home were light pink and from that point they have been getting lighter and lighter. So I never went back as it seems to be going the right way, I've been here before and I really just can't bare anymore poking and prodding! So it's been like 12 weeks from the mc but half of that from the retained bits passing, which is quite within normal. Sucks though!

I was feeling that ovulation was at least trying to return, I had a normal af and hoped ovulation was ok (it really did feel like it happened last week) My 10miu ic's are now bfn I'm glad to say, but the slightly more sensitive frer picked up some faint hcg last week, so it's not gone entirely but it's under 10. Soooooooo just be patient I guess.


Good luck Mrsmummy & w8ting at your appointments

Poppie, Flou & ANL25 how are you all holding up? Testing is getting closer, any symptoms? Or trying not to SS?!

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Hi all I went for my scan and she could see most of the 'tissue' had been lost but there is still a small pocket of blood with some 'remains' left which she thinks I will naturally pass. I've taken bloods to check my hcg levels and have to go for another on Thursday. I've got another scan booked for next week so fingers crossed and pray this passes naturally. My cervix is still closed but where I am still bleeding I'm hopeful it will pass xx

 

[W8tingforbaby]

All went great with my appointment today, all is gone which is good so nothing needed (I am still showing a positive pregnancy test though so I have to have blood work Thursday to make sure it is down low enough before we get pregnant again) and she saw two good eggs so she said if we want to try right now we can and see what happens. As soon as I have a positive pregnancy test though I have to call because I guess my progesterone was too low with my pregnancy I just lost so that may be why it happened I guess. Fingers crossed we get lucky right away

 

[BabyBrain80]

Good luck w8ting glad things are looking positive for you.....and well, that you get that positive soon lol

Peanut, I hope the left over tissue passes quickly for you, I'm so very sorry