Losing all hope :(

[Ashlee86]

Hi ladies, I am new here but need some positive wishes and support. My husband and I have been basically TTC'ing for almost 6 years. 6 years ago I had an ectopic pregnancy and had to have surgery. It ruptured and I lost one tube. I had the test 3 months later (ink/dye test) to make sure my remaining ovary and tube were open and useful. LOL. That came back very well (although I'll give everybody some advice, they tell you take a Tylenol a couple hours before, my suggestion, take lots, it hurts soooo bad I actually screamed.)
Anyways, 6 years later, still have not gotten pregnant, not even a miscarriage, nada! We were not officially trying (not preventing but not tracking) until about a year ago. We got married this past Valentines Day and thought that it would happen during our honeymoon but nope. So I've been tracking days ritually, our BDing, AF's and using OPK's. I have an extremely short cycle. 23 days and it's like clockwork. AF and O comes on time every single month. We BD exactly when we are suppose to and it hasent happened. We are so prepared to have a little bundle of joy in our lives but I'm losing hope. Month after month I symptom spot and track and for some reason I have hope every month but deep down inside I feel like it will never happen for us. I've cried, I've prayed I've researched I don't know what else to do. I went to the doctor 4 months ago and they referred me to a fertility specialist. I have my first appointment in 1 month tomorrow. I'm sorry to vent so much but I'm lost. Every month gets harder. 6 years since I got pregnant, I just don't get it. I'm 28 years old my DH is turning 31 next week, it should take under a year for us.

 

[jjbubbles28]

Unfortunately, there is no timeline to get pregnant. We were TTC for 19 months. I am a control freak and had calendars, preseed, supplements, opks, everything. After a year of that we got checked and all was normal, but still nothing. So we did 3 rounds of clomid and IUI and nothing. Then finally went to a fertility specialist where I took clomid, gonal, ovidrel, and iui. Happy to say it worked first try and we are 6 1/2 weeks. Still nervous, but farther than we have ever gotten. I was scared of the specialist too, but it did get me this far

 

[joeybrooks]

Are your short cycles causing any issues. I really really really don't know much about this at all, but it just stood out to me in your post as the only thing that isnt potentially "normal". Have you researched the affect of short cycles on TTC?

 

[krissie328]

Has you dh been checked? My husband has low motility which combined with my pcos took us 8 years to conceive.

 

[stephjay]

Don't get down, I'm on yr 2 of ttc and at least a yr of not trying to try before that. I have just started using opk because I have such an irregular AF but haven't had any luck yet. Just keep trying and know there are others going through it too, our times will come ��

 

[lisap2008]

Its been a long journey of trying for my DH and I too going on 7 years now. we had him tested after a year of trying and found out his count is a little low thats why its so long between BFP's for us. trying IUI this year and if it fails we will move on to IVF in 2016.

Sounds like your on the right track now going to see a fertility specialist is the best you can do , the doctor will order testing on both of you to see what may be delaying conception and come up with a plan.