I think to imply that people have been hurtful and harmful with their words is harsh and extremely unfair.
I sincerely doubt that anyone decided to post in this thread because they had a disregard for others or their experiences - far from it! The fact that this thread is featured in the section 'long term trying to conceive' suggests that we have all (unfortunately) had to experience the emotional roller coaster of ttc over a long period of time and we know all to well the heartache and frustration of that journey and the cruel glimmers of hope during the long 2ww. I don't think for a second people would want to add to that pain but rather they have posted their true experiences in an attempt to offer support or a different perspective based on real experiences. Many of us are surrounded by people who have (thankfully for them) managed to get pregnant easily and so we have no one to talk to who truely understands the process. We are left feeling very isolated and this is why these forums are so important.
Of course there are reasons we are not getting pregnant and I would never disregard medical opinion- I'm desperate to find answers hence why I have put myself through endless tests- but I also want to know how accurate those tests are and if there is anything I can as a result. I think it's important for people to realise that spermatozoa analysis results can and do change within a three month period- that is a fact. By explaining that, I never intended on giving them false hope nor am I implying that results will change for everyone but rather I wanted to make people aware of the information I was given at a time when were emotionally exhausted and were given the impression that one set of sperm analysis results were 100% accurate. We are taught from a very young age how 'not to get pregnant' and how to use contraception but there is very little accessible information about temporary/ permanent infertility, what the processes are, what the potential problems might be, how to improve our chances of getting pregnant, age restrictions, iui, Ivf etc. we are all learning the hard way, as we stumble along this road.
I apologise if my post appeared arrogant. None of us have the luxury of having "years and years and/or even decades to wait around hoping and praying they'll eventually be able to overcome a morphology issue"- we have all posted in a long term ttc forum! I am in my mid 30's and am very aware of time ticking. This is why it's important for people to hear and learn about the whole picture and this is why 'responsible' threads and forums are important.
I sincerely doubt that anyone decided to post in this thread because they had a disregard for others or their experiences - far from it! The fact that this thread is featured in the section 'long term trying to conceive' suggests that we have all (unfortunately) had to experience the emotional roller coaster of ttc over a long period of time and we know all to well the heartache and frustration of that journey and the cruel glimmers of hope during the long 2ww. I don't think for a second people would want to add to that pain but rather they have posted their true experiences in an attempt to offer support or a different perspective based on real experiences. Many of us are surrounded by people who have (thankfully for them) managed to get pregnant easily and so we have no one to talk to who truely understands the process. We are left feeling very isolated and this is why these forums are so important.
Of course there are reasons we are not getting pregnant and I would never disregard medical opinion- I'm desperate to find answers hence why I have put myself through endless tests- but I also want to know how accurate those tests are and if there is anything I can as a result. I think it's important for people to realise that spermatozoa analysis results can and do change within a three month period- that is a fact. By explaining that, I never intended on giving them false hope nor am I implying that results will change for everyone but rather I wanted to make people aware of the information I was given at a time when were emotionally exhausted and were given the impression that one set of sperm analysis results were 100% accurate. We are taught from a very young age how 'not to get pregnant' and how to use contraception but there is very little accessible information about temporary/ permanent infertility, what the processes are, what the potential problems might be, how to improve our chances of getting pregnant, age restrictions, iui, Ivf etc. we are all learning the hard way, as we stumble along this road.
I apologise if my post appeared arrogant. None of us have the luxury of having "years and years and/or even decades to wait around hoping and praying they'll eventually be able to overcome a morphology issue"- we have all posted in a long term ttc forum! I am in my mid 30's and am very aware of time ticking. This is why it's important for people to hear and learn about the whole picture and this is why 'responsible' threads and forums are important.
I was especially nervous since my 1st pregnancy last year ended up not being viable and it had taken me 10-11 months to conceive. This time it took me 5 months. I started using Clearblue Fertility Monitor to give me the best days possible for conception.
Who knows if the Fertilaid did actually improve things enough?!? My DH is currently on the 7 a day Fertilaid (normal, count boost & motility boost) so I am definitely hoping for a miracle! I hope all works out and you have a H&H 9 months 
