LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[pipilotta]

Wow, no coffee? Really? Alcohol wouldn't be a problem for me but I really like my long black in the morning...
Ah well, as pbl_ge said, hot tubs and sushi, possibly some soft cheeses and crackers.

 

[Myshelsong]

No coffee ... That would be the one that gets me as well. But will be totally worth it!

5dpo of first cycle after lap. Trying not to get overtly positive this month since we still don't know all the lap results yet but so hard! Want this so bad. Ugh

 

[pbl_ge]

Myshel, I hope this works for you! Even if you don't know the answers, they likely fixed any problems. Sending you lots of dust!!!

I just found out this AM that I get to start injectables this cycle. I'm actually hopeful about our chances for the first time in a long time. FX!!!

and to all!

 

[pipilotta]

Wonderful Pbl_ge! I'm happy for you! I cross my fingers for you that this is the cycle!

Myshel, I keep my fingers crossed for you too!

 

[LornaMJ]

Yep the NO caffeine is slowly killing me I think but it will certainly all be worth it!

Pbl_ge great news all fingers crossed for you and lots of baby dust x

 

[Myshelsong]

Yeah Pebble!!!
Fingers crossed with the injectables! When do they start?

 

[DBZ34]

I think AF will show tomorrow...I'm starting to get nervous about this next cycle. I've got my Day 3 bloods and my HSG coming up (thanks again, ladies for the input). I feel prepared and I want answers, but at the same time, it does make me nervous.

If they don't find anything, what's the next step? The doc seemed to think we should go to IUI, but DH is really hesitant about assisted conception. I've been trying to talk him around to the idea, but he's been on this 'We should wait another 9 months to do IUI' kick. I'm not really interested in waiting almost another year to even have a chance at conceiving...and I think there are some new NHS rules in place that mean the doc isn't supposed to give Clomid only to unexplained fertility couples. So, who knows what we could do before DH is ready for IUI.*sigh*

 

[Serenyx]

Yep the NO caffeine is slowly killing me I think but it will certainly all be worth it!

How strict is the no caffeine rule - do you also have to cut out chocolate?

In the last 6 months I have cut down my caffeine intake significantly but still have the odd bar of chocolate now and then.

 

[pbl_ge]

DBZ, I'm no help at all about NHS regulations. If you're just doing all the testing now, it's possible you won't be "unexplained" for long. One possibility is that you could do a medicated IUI-type cycle, but use the "traditional" methods for insemination. Would that be acceptable for OH? A few things to tell him when talking about AC: First, I don't remember how old you are, but 9 months is an eternity in egg aging terms if you're 30 or older. Second, the chances of success in conceiving any given month is tiny for a couple who have been trying two years or more--something like 3% (try searching this website for more info if you'd like: https://www.advancedfertility.com/). He also shouldn't underestimate the strain this puts on you. For my OH, this is not nearly as difficult for him as it is for me. He's perfectly content to just have a lot of for a few days each month and see what happens. But for me it's a monthly rollercoaster of hormones, tears, and despair. It really wears on a person, and asking you to keep riding that rollercoaster every month with so little chance of success is asking a lot. Everyone has different opinions about what is and is not comfortable for AC, and that's fine, but I think your opinion should be worth more than 50% of the vote. Has he done a SA?

Sorry if that was a lot. Hope at least something was helpful. When is the HSG?

Myshel, tomorrow is the big day for me! Baseline scan, blood tests, and my first round of injections. FX I don't have too many side effects:
https://www.webmd.com/drugs/mono-50...ECTION.aspx?drugid=4730&drugname=Gonal-F+SubQ

When do you start testing?

 

[xxshellsxx]

DBZ - If you ovulate on your own you might have to fight for clomid!! I only got them to agree to it because he started quoting NHS NICE guidelines at me about IUI and IVF... our CCG doesn't let me have that option because DH has 2 kids from a previous relationship.... however the NICE guidelines state i can have it as that is not in their rules! So i quoted them right back at him and low and behold he 'can bend the rules' and let try 6 months of clomid after my lap and dye - i could have had it there and then but i don't want to waste it if they can fix anything during the lap! I'll get a good solid 6 months of effort then. I made him note it on my file as i see a different FS every time i go and he was the head honcho!

I've had my pre op assessment and just waiting for the lap date now.... i'd love to cancel it when it comes in but i really don't see that happening x

 

[xxshellsxx]

Good luck to all you ladies starting IVF!! such exciting times for you xx

 

[dovkav123]

Hey girls!
I am very excited about all of you! You all have new goals and plans for July, one step torwards the VICTORY towards little miracle!
myshelsong you start a new fresh cycle after Lap and you are 6 DpO, Go girl!

pbl_ge blood tests, injectables, it is a big day for you! Good luck!

pipillota, anytime your temp will shoot up to the sky! Big O is coming! IVF is around the corner!
LornaMJ, prepare for sleepless nights in 2014, your fussy little one will need your boop!

DB234 I am in the same boat! I'd love to do IVF in August, but my DH is scared about the mistakes can happen in medicine. He wants me to wait another 6 months and try natural. But his father is 92 and he'would love still to meet the baby. I am heading towards 35, the age when chromosomal abnormalities are more common.The time is running out for me and for his dad. WE need to take chances and grab an apportunity! Pbl_g you are right. I wish you could talk to my dh. He kind of agrees with a natural IvF.

Personally, I wouldn't take clomid, if I O on my own. Meds can cause cysts and other side effects. If you do IUI, do it natural cycle first.
Check your tubes and then go from there.

I am very pleased with my smooth and painless period and I know I did a lot to reach this goal. With a help of Dr. Google and strong will. I am very proud of myself!
I am emotional today, my eyes were full of tears in the dr. office. First time ever I have cried in front of the stranger. Dr. (naturopath specialist) told me I do everything right, I am on the right path towards my goal and yes she told me to stress less. Why the hell I can't get pregnant if I do everything right? She suggested to take flaxseed oil ( I eat raw seeds everyday ), Omega3, take vitamins only made of food source(fruit and veggies). She adviced me to take thrombofilia genetic test (blood clot disorder) my uncle died from heart thrombus and I have high cholesterol. Also she could do procaine injections to reduce scarring around the tubes. She is giving me 6 months. First of all I need to find out if my tubes are open. I am doing hysteroscopy on Friday(please pray for me that my period will be finished by 12pm). I need to ask my dr. tomorrow, if he can look at my tubes with a scope. I know they poor saline solution in the uterus, maybe he can use ultrasound to see if the fluid goes through my tubes?
Did Dr. checked your tubes too with a scope?
Time to have my desert: yogurt with rasberries and cinammon
Enjoy your evening!

 

[flou]

Hi ladies mind if i join you. Let me tell you a little about my journey.

Me and my DH started ttc April 2011 and we are both in our early 30s. After about 14 months ttc we went to the doc to get some tests. I did cd21 bloods which confirmed i was Oving and DH had an SA which showed he was all ok. So the doc referred us to the fertility specialist. A couple of months later we got a bfp but unfortunately i mc at 6 weeks. The day after i mc we get an appt for last december with the fertility specialist. We decide to wait a month before ttc again and our first month ttc was in jan this year. We had postponed our fertility appt and got a new appt in march where the specialist turned us away and told us to give it a year. As you can imagine this left me very frustrated as we had nearly been ttc for 2 years and it was as if the 19 months before we got our bfp didnt count and we would have been better off having not conceived. So i am still waiting to conceive again after my mc. I so desperately want another bfp but at the same time im scared of mc again and having to wait even longer for a specialist to see us.

I really hoped i would have conceived by my would have been due date which is this monday. Which also happens to be my 32nd birthday. Me and my DH are planning a couple of nights away and we are going to have a spa day to give us something to look forward to. So in one way im dreading monday and im also looking forward to it. Just trying to make it as positive as possible. Anyway thats mt story. Im currently on 2dpo so maybe this will be my month. Good luck ladies i hope we all get our little ones soon!

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Hi flou!

I'm just going through an m/c/chemical or whatever you want to call it. SHoudl be 5 weeks and 3 days but HCG not rising... I know what you mean about it having been better not to concieve - if they're gonna make you wait another year that's just so unfair! Due dates are always difficult too...

 

[LornaMJ]

Yep the NO caffeine is slowly killing me I think but it will certainly all be worth it!

How strict is the no caffeine rule - do you also have to cut out chocolate?

In the last 6 months I have cut down my caffeine intake significantly but still have the odd bar of chocolate now and then.

They are pretty strict on the caffeine rule but not sure about chocolate as I know it only has a small amount of caffeine and for now I am acting ignorant

 

[flou]

Hi flou!

I'm just going through an m/c/chemical or whatever you want to call it. SHoudl be 5 weeks and 3 days but HCG not rising... I know what you mean about it having been better not to concieve - if they're gonna make you wait another year that's just so unfair! Due dates are always difficult too...

Hi Ella im sorry for your losses.

Going through a mc i found really hard. After my mc i felt really depressed for a few months and i felt the specialist just added insult to injury. But i dont have so many bad days now. I just feel really frustrated by the whole experience. I try to take some positive that i can conceive, even if it does take us sometime. Surely if we have conceived before we can so again just got to hope it sticks. I hope you get your sticky bean soon!

 

[TLB1986]

I feel your pain!! It is so hard sometimes. I thought after having the lap everything would be good... that was in January and still nothing. Hope your surgery goes well.

Did they find anything on your lap? How was recovery, date is getting closer and starting to get nervous ...

I have three fur babies as well! Two cats Lelu and Corbin, and our newest addition our dog Calla who we adopted when she was 9 months.

The lap went ok. They found some endometriosis and scar tissue in my right tube. It was removed and the doc told me that we should be good to go. Recovery wasn't great. The first two weeks were awful. But you just need to take time to heal. Get lot's of movies (we have Netflix) you will be spending some time on the sofa. I have no scars so i'm happy about that. The out side healed really quickly. I think the heating pad and the pain killers were the only thing getting me through the first week.

We have two cat's and a dog as well. I have a brown tabby name Gemini, a siameses name mouse and our dog's a red healer named rosie. there all rescue animals.

I am sorry about your tough recovery. Have you had any pain on the right side before a Lap? Did you have any endo symptoms before?
I have pain in my ovaries during period (new symptom)and I have cramping urinating after O and during my period( started few years ago). My RE wants to do a Lap.
Thanks! and hope you have a great weekend!

Yes I had been having a lot of pain during my period and when we BD. I would do the Lap. It took me a little longer to heal then most because I had a infection. But it does sound like your having a lot of the same symptoms that I had. Hope all goes well for you. Sending

 

[Myshelsong]

I am doing hysteroscopy on Friday(please pray for me that my period will be finished by 12pm). I need to ask my dr. tomorrow, if he can look at my tubes with a scope. I know they poor saline solution in the uterus, maybe he can use ultrasound to see if the fluid goes through my tubes?
Did Dr. checked your tubes too with a scope?
Enjoy your evening!

Hi, just wanted to wish you a painless hysteroscopy.
I was reading up on wikipedia and they say they do this right after your menstration when your lining is the thinnest. But I am not sure they can go right up into the tubes .... never had this done.

I have only had 2 HSG's and a lap, this one sounds way less painful. I wonder if you get to see the pictures while it is happening or will you be asleep?

 

[pbl_ge]

Flou, sorry your journey has been so hard. I hit my would-have-been-due date in April, and it was really hard. I'm about to hit the one year with no bfp mark sometime in August. Honestly, the long months of repeated failure have been worse than the m/c was. Never thought I'd say that. For me the actual anniversary was worse that the anticipation of it, and the realization of what the milestone meant. So I hope that Monday isn't too bad for you, and that your trip and the spa help you to enjoy your birthday!

Lorna, if you're not allowed coffee or alcohol, I think you can pretty much have unlimited chocolate. At some point this becomes a human rights issue. Do you have an appt date set yet, or is that cycle dependent?

TLB, good luck to you. Do you know when you'll start Femara?

Myshel, when will you see the doc to discuss your lap? You probably already said, but I don't remember. Next week sometime? And will you be testing before then?

As for me, bad news today: gotta take two weeks of birth control to shrink a cyst before I can start the injectables. Oh well. Just more waiting....

 

[pipilotta]

Dovkav, I hope af finishes in time! Fingers crossed and hopfully it wont be painful.

I'm sorry pbl_ge, hope the two weeks will pass fast!

I'm having a later ovulation again, my cycle seems to have shifted.