LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[Han2015]

I totally get how you feel. We have been classed as unexained infertility. Been trying for 18 months. If one more person just uses the phrase just relax it will hAppen I will scream !

 

[Han2015]

Thanks for your reply, still trying to work out how to replies and forum works! It's hard from a phone! Good luck with this months iui. I bet it's felt like a lifetime to get to that stage. My thoughts will be with you. I really hope it all works out for you. Everyone I see a ltttc get a bfp it does mAke me feel positive that we are not completely out.

 

[KatO79]

I totally get how you feel. We have been classed as unexained infertility. Been trying for 18 months. If one more person just uses the phrase just relax it will hAppen I will scream !

I know that feeling as well I got DH to get his mother to stop saying it because I felt like if she said it one more time, I was gonna slap her in the face

Thanks for your reply, still trying to work out how to replies and forum works! It's hard from a phone! Good luck with this months iui. I bet it's felt like a lifetime to get to that stage. My thoughts will be with you. I really hope it all works out for you. Everyone I see a ltttc get a bfp it does mAke me feel positive that we are not completely out.

No problem! If you want to reply to someone's post, just push on the "Reply with quote" on the lower right side of the person's post and it should open the "Reply to thread" window and you should see the quote in the space where you write.

Thank you Han2015 It truely did, especially since the rule is you need to TTC for at least 12 months naturally in this country before you can get a referral, no matter your age. It's because the state pays for it if you wait for a referral. Then our GP delayed things by refusing to help us get the tests the clinic wanted and then Christmas got in the way so we were delayed by 2 months Anyway thank you so much for your support! I hope you soon get your BFP as well Will you be starting any fertility treatments?

 

[DBZ34]

My best friend told me to "relax and it will happen" and I had to say, Please don't ever say that to me again or I will throttle you. Then I launched into a 'Do you know how many times I've had to hear that phrase?' rant. Then I pointed out how I was very relaxed my first year of trying and that didn't seem to help. Only getting medical intervention helped, so obviously relaxing was not my problem. At all. I hate that phrase.

 

[KatO79]

My best friend told me to "relax and it will happen" and I had to say, Please don't ever say that to me again or I will throttle you. Then I launched into a 'Do you know how many times I've had to hear that phrase?' rant. Then I pointed out how I was very relaxed my first year of trying and that didn't seem to help. Only getting medical intervention helped, so obviously relaxing was not my problem. At all. I hate that phrase.

People are just deaf to anything we tell them

A good example: my big brother (½ brother, same mother but different fathers) started debating with me recently when I posted about how annoying it is to hear this saying (among others) on FB. He was so arrogant about it and when I could see he wasn't interested in hearing anything I had to say and no article would sway him the slightest, I told him that maybe we should drop it and discuss it at a later date (like when I have a baby and am not using my whole being into getting through IUI). But nope he just said I didn't want to discuss it further because the conversation wasn't going my way and that I should post on when I was "ready for an adult conversation" Surprising thing is him and his wife used 5 years on fertility treatments before they had their daughter (ther started when his wife was 41) but doesn't seem it made him more empathic to what I'm going through On a side note, I don't know why he constantly has this need to win any discussion and see me as childish and spoiled when I'm not at all, despite the fact my parents spoiled me in a materialistic sense (although I was emotionally abused by my mother for years).

So yeah, some people are just impossible to discuss TTCing with, especially if you haven't been able to conceive within 3-6 months

 

[Han2015]

I totally get how you feel. We have been classed as unexained infertility. Been trying for 18 months. If one more person just uses the phrase just relax it will hAppen I will scream !

I know that feeling as well I got DH to get his mother to stop saying it because I felt like if she said it one more time, I was gonna slap her in the face

Thanks for your reply, still trying to work out how to replies and forum works! It's hard from a phone! Good luck with this months iui. I bet it's felt like a lifetime to get to that stage. My thoughts will be with you. I really hope it all works out for you. Everyone I see a ltttc get a bfp it does mAke me feel positive that we are not completely out.

No problem! If you want to reply to someone's post, just push on the "Reply with quote" on the lower right side of the person's post and it should open the "Reply to thread" window and you should see the quote in the space where you write.

Thank you Han2015 It truely did, especially since the rule is you need to TTC for at least 12 months naturally in this country before you can get a referral, no matter your age. It's because the state pays for it if you wait for a referral. Then our GP delayed things by refusing to help us get the tests the clinic wanted and then Christmas got in the way so we were delayed by 2 months Anyway thank you so much for your support! I hope you soon get your BFP as well Will you be starting any fertility treatments?

We were referred to fertility clinic by gp at 12months stage but until we have been trying for 2 years they won't discuss fertity treatment with us other then saying we will not qualify for free ivf due to not meeting the criteria. My dh has a daughter from a previous relationship so rules us out from any free treatment on NHs. we will be two years in April so hopefully they will give us advice on what to do next! They have done lots of tests but all come back clear.

 

[Han2015]

My best friend told me to "relax and it will happen" and I had to say, Please don't ever say that to me again or I will throttle you. Then I launched into a 'Do you know how many times I've had to hear that phrase?' rant. Then I pointed out how I was very relaxed my first year of trying and that didn't seem to help. Only getting medical intervention helped, so obviously relaxing was not my problem. At all. I hate that phrase.

People are just deaf to anything we tell them

A good example: my big brother (½ brother, same mother but different fathers) started debating with me recently when I posted about how annoying it is to hear this saying (among others) on FB. He was so arrogant about it and when I could see he wasn't interested in hearing anything I had to say and no article would sway him the slightest, I told him that maybe we should drop it and discuss it at a later date (like when I have a baby and am not using my whole being into getting through IUI). But nope he just said I didn't want to discuss it further because the conversation wasn't going my way and that I should post on when I was "ready for an adult conversation" Surprising thing is him and his wife used 5 years on fertility treatments before they had their daughter (ther started when his wife was 41) but doesn't seem it made him more empathic to what I'm going through On a side note, I don't know why he constantly has this need to win any discussion and see me as childish and spoiled when I'm not at all, despite the fact my parents spoiled me in a materialistic sense (although I was emotionally abused by my mother for years).

So yeah, some people are just impossible to discuss TTCing with, especially if you haven't been able to conceive within 3-6 months

family's huh! After my lap surgery to find out if I had endo my sister came around to see me and all she could talk about was having her tubes tied in a couple of weeks (she has 3 kids). I mean how insensitive can you get! I really think your right in that it is impossible to discuss trying with some people, even family!

 

[KatO79]

My best friend told me to "relax and it will happen" and I had to say, Please don't ever say that to me again or I will throttle you. Then I launched into a 'Do you know how many times I've had to hear that phrase?' rant. Then I pointed out how I was very relaxed my first year of trying and that didn't seem to help. Only getting medical intervention helped, so obviously relaxing was not my problem. At all. I hate that phrase.

People are just deaf to anything we tell them

A good example: my big brother (½ brother, same mother but different fathers) started debating with me recently when I posted about how annoying it is to hear this saying (among others) on FB. He was so arrogant about it and when I could see he wasn't interested in hearing anything I had to say and no article would sway him the slightest, I told him that maybe we should drop it and discuss it at a later date (like when I have a baby and am not using my whole being into getting through IUI). But nope he just said I didn't want to discuss it further because the conversation wasn't going my way and that I should post on when I was "ready for an adult conversation" Surprising thing is him and his wife used 5 years on fertility treatments before they had their daughter (ther started when his wife was 41) but doesn't seem it made him more empathic to what I'm going through On a side note, I don't know why he constantly has this need to win any discussion and see me as childish and spoiled when I'm not at all, despite the fact my parents spoiled me in a materialistic sense (although I was emotionally abused by my mother for years).

So yeah, some people are just impossible to discuss TTCing with, especially if you haven't been able to conceive within 3-6 months

family's huh! After my lap surgery to find out if I had endo my sister came around to see me and all she could talk about was having her tubes tied in a couple of weeks (she has 3 kids). I mean how insensitive can you get! I really think your right in that it is impossible to discuss trying with some people, even family!

Wow what's up with that I don't get why people are so insensitive these days. I'm sorry you're also dealing with insensitive and frustrating siblings.

 

[deafgal01]

Uh that's exactly why I avoid discussing the topic with family. I don't want to hear them say to me "oh you need to relax" or "I'm praying for you". Shut the fuck up and leave me alone unless you can give me a baby to raise as my own. That's what I feel like saying when people say either phrase. Wow...

Yeah, some of them are just incapable of having a discussion about this.

 

[Myshelsong]

Oh my gosh deafgal that is hilarious! I hope you do say that, will teach them right.
I normally dramatically roll my eyes and say loudly and with recognizable rage twitching through my eyes that No relaxing will not help, it didn't help the first two years and that the Dr has promised me no amount of meditation or vitamins will sold our issues. Then I punch them in theface. Or I want to.

Anyways we are doing IUI again this month!
Trip for work got cancelled so we are a go. Third night of femera done and done, going to get follicles checked on Monday hoping to have this all done by the weekend! Doubtful but one can hope I think.

 

[Stine]

New to this group. Hope it's ok if join. Long story short, was married & tried for 4 years, no results. New husband been trying for 3 years, still nothing. Finally got into an RE who can't understand why I'm not pregnant yet either. I hate the term "unexplained" and hearing from my friends "stop trying, it will happen"! Currently in the tww and I'm going out of my mind. 4dpo I want it hurry and get my BFP or have AF show so I can start the process of IUI. They never waned to try it on me for some silly reason but now due to my age they suddenly want to try. Rants over. Thanks for reading. Sticky baby dust to everyone!!!

 

[Myshelsong]

Hi Stine, welcome to the group. Sorry you are having the issues.

Had my IUI yesterdat and not really optomistic. SA came in again low but at least motility was better I guess. Oh well, we booked our Cuba trip so excited for Feb 7 to come! Need a break from all this

 

[deafgal01]

My- your trip to Cuba sounds fun! I bet you're looking forward to that!

Stine- welcome. Hope you get your bfp soon. Sucks that you have "unexplained" fertility issues.

 

[KatO79]

New to this group. Hope it's ok if join. Long story short, was married & tried for 4 years, no results. New husband been trying for 3 years, still nothing. Finally got into an RE who can't understand why I'm not pregnant yet either. I hate the term "unexplained" and hearing from my friends "stop trying, it will happen"! Currently in the tww and I'm going out of my mind. 4dpo I want it hurry and get my BFP or have AF show so I can start the process of IUI. They never waned to try it on me for some silly reason but now due to my age they suddenly want to try. Rants over. Thanks for reading. Sticky baby dust to everyone!!!

Hi Stine :wave:

Yes I'm in the unexplained category myself and am also tired of hearing the Whole "stop trying and it'll happen" from family members. It's just so annoying when you're in the unexplained category because then people assume you're "trying too hard" and just need to relax and take a vacation I'd rather of hade some issue with me or DH so people would be more understanding.

Totally get the want to either see a BFP or AF soon so you can start IUI. I felt like that myself a couple of weeks ago. It was AF so I'm currently in my 2WW of my 1st IUI.

Looking forward to hearing if it's a BFP or you will start IUI

Hi Stine, welcome to the group. Sorry you are having the issues.

Had my IUI yesterdat and not really optomistic. SA came in again low but at least motility was better I guess. Oh well, we booked our Cuba trip so excited for Feb 7 to come! Need a break from all this

Awww sorry Myshelsong Here's hoping it gives you a BFP

If it doesn't though, will you be moving on to IVF or will you be trying injectables + IUI?

 

[wannabemummyb]

Hi Stine, welcome to the group. Sorry you are having the issues.

Had my IUI yesterdat and not really optomistic. SA came in again low but at least motility was better I guess. Oh well, we booked our Cuba trip so excited for Feb 7 to come! Need a break from all this

Got everything crossed for you!

Hi Stine

 

[Stine]

Thank you for the warm welcome ladies!

MY- Hope you have fun in Cuba. Can't wait to hear all about it. Ill keep my fingers crossed for your IUI. Only takes one my Dr keeps telling me so hopefully that one was in that batch

KAT- Thank you so much for totally understanding my issues. OMG you sound exactly like how I feel daily.

I really don't want to look into anything to close but I have had mild cramping since 2DPO and had the worst headache and nausea all day. I tend to get the last 2 symptoms closer to 10DPO so IDK. After trying for so long ya kinda have a hard time getting your hopes up at anything, or at least I do. Is anyone testing soon??

 

[Myshelsong]

Hi Kat, we have the go-ahead to do two more IUi this time with injectables. Gonal-F and hopefully we will get more than one follicle when we do that. How was your IU I!? My IUI this time around was actually quite painful after. I had some heavy duty cramping and even dark brown spotting. I am still tender but feeling better. Super tired but I blame the prometrium.

Deafgal, I am definitely looking forward to Cuba and hanging out on the beach. Good thing is that we will know for sure by the time we leave so I won't know to either a) avoid all alcohol or b) drink the entire resort dry!

Thanks wannabe how are you doing?

Right now I feel like this is going to be the longest two week wait of my life. It is our nine year dating anniversary this weekend so we are going to Toronto to see an orchestra and have a nice night at a hotel. Trying to feel optimistic and hopeful for this month and at the same time trying to enjoy life. This is hard.

 

[KatO79]

Hi Kat, we have the go-ahead to do two more IUi this time with injectables. Gonal-F and hopefully we will get more than one follicle when we do that. How was your IU I!? My IUI this time around was actually quite painful after. I had some heavy duty cramping and even dark brown spotting. I am still tender but feeling better. Super tired but I blame the prometrium.

OK sounds good More follicles also give a slightly better chance I had 2 follicles ready to pop on IUI day which was on the 19th. Mine was ok but it hurt when she put the tube in through my cervix I got to lie there for like 30 seconds before she got me up and threw me out with an HPT in my hand. To be fair I think they were pretty busy that day as my IUI started about 15 minutes after it was supposed to because there were so many people. I only had very minor cramping the day after but otherwise was just exhausted the day after. I also had to deliver DH's sperm sample on IUI day as his back went out shortly after he made it so I had to last second get up and dressed If it doesn't work, they'll up my Puregon dose a bit from the 50 IU I was taking.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Hi Kat, we have the go-ahead to do two more IUi this time with injectables. Gonal-F and hopefully we will get more than one follicle when we do that. How was your IU I!? My IUI this time around was actually quite painful after. I had some heavy duty cramping and even dark brown spotting. I am still tender but feeling better. Super tired but I blame the prometrium.

Deafgal, I am definitely looking forward to Cuba and hanging out on the beach. Good thing is that we will know for sure by the time we leave so I won't know to either a) avoid all alcohol or b) drink the entire resort dry!

Thanks wannabe how are you doing?

Right now I feel like this is going to be the longest two week wait of my life. It is our nine year dating anniversary this weekend so we are going to Toronto to see an orchestra and have a nice night at a hotel. Trying to feel optimistic and hopeful for this month and at the same time trying to enjoy life. This is hard.

I'm ok Hun. Been a bit MIA because AF went awol for four months and we had some faint lines to begin with, but all blood tests came back negative

Pushed the GP to try to find out what was going on, because my cycles had been regular for three years. He did some investigation are diagnosed me with an under active thyroid. Apparently my levels had been indicative of under active thyroid for some time but my previous GP centre didn't do anything about it

Now back on meds for PCOS/iR and on thyroxine. He seems to think it may help us get preggers

 

[deafgal01]

good luck wanna- finally some progress so hopefully you get your bfp soon.

myshel- I hope you get a bfp and then you can enjoy Cuba knowing you can celebrate your bfp.