Tested anyway since the clinic wants me to and it was negative
Kat xx
I phoned for an appointment with the Dr and the next available one is in a fortnight (right when af should be here if the positive opk is anything to go by), so I've been advised to call back when af is gone and get one booked then.
I told her AF arrived today and my HPT confirmed everything since it was negative (at what would've been 13 dpiui). She then started asking me how much I was bleeding and when I was supposed to test with the HPT As if that matters when AF is clearly here She didn't know what to do so she told me she needed to put me on hold and ask a more experienced nurse. So I was on hold for 1-2 minutes and then she came back and said that I needed to come in CD2 or 3 (duh
) and made the appointment for tomorrow which will be CD2. Hope she has learned the ropes next time I call or that I don't have to deal with her again
Hey everyone
I've posted once before in here, but bottled hanging around, not really sure why, maybe a deep wishing not to be in this boat, but I am and given how I feel at the moment I really need to put myself around people who can understand how I'm feeling and not make me feel like a huge green eyed monster
We've been trying on and off for about 5 years now. I have crazy cycles, which were settling down with agnus castus. The Dr has been amazing and very supportive. She wants me to work on the weight loss for now as she doesn't want to refer me to a fs just yet as they will turn me away to lose weight. Which I totally understand and am trying to work on.
My last two cycles have been weird in the sense that I bled (old browny/pink blood) roughly a week before I got a positive opk. Of course I've googled and come to the worst conclusion and totally freaked myself out
Add to that my "friend" is pregnant with her 11th (yep you read it right - 11th )and going for yet another scan tomorrow to try and determine the sex of her baby. I say "friend" like that because I'm not too sure if she's even that anymore. She knows our situation and is constantly telling me to just relax and it will happen. Constantly talking about her baby (which is due around my hubby's birthday). Constantly moaning about this pregnancy. And constantly asking me for advice, when I have no clue whatsoever, nothing to compare it to, and at the moment no hope that it will ever happen. She was even telling the other day about the baby's reduced movements yet wouldn't call the midwife when I told her to because she assumed it was down to the fact that she'd been on her feet cleaning all day.
I'm at a loss, no idea where to turn and worrying myself sick about what will happen when I can eventually get an appointment with my Dr
I hope you soon can make that appointment with the RE and get that ball rolling. Your GP is probably right that an RE would prefer your BMI to be around a certain amount before helping you since being overweight can make the meds not work as well. I'd probably tell her that you find her comments hurtful and that infertility is a real thing, that it's a myth to say that if you just relax, it'll happen. Relaxing has nothing to do with it! Many women get pregnant during rape or when they were in concentration camps and I seriously doubt that these were very relaxing experiences. Her saying that to you is as insensitive as telling someone with cancer that if they just relax, the cancer will go away
I don't know if you can make her understand since very fertile women for the most part seem to not want to understand since it was so easy for them. But I'd tell her you don't want to hear her complain since you want a child so badly and many women around the world would be thankful to be in her shoes. Tell her you might be ok with having short updates here and there about her pregnancy and you're happy for her but it's too hurtful for you to hear about it constantly when you suffer from infertility and it upsets you, especially when she complains (for that and concerning any advice maybe she should talk to one of her fertile friends). I hope you get her to understand but you may only be able to get her to stop talking about it so much. If she feels you're being selfish then that's her problem, you aren't responsible for her feelings Then she wasn't a friend anyway. I hope you soon get an appointment with your GP. Maybe you can call him/her and tell him/her of your worries and that you'd like to discuss things with him/her to put your mind a bit more at ease?
please don't apologise Kat, you've got so much going on, and it was more than likely a case of me posting while you were typing your reply
I've tried dropping hints to her, have even just come out with it plain and simple that I'm struggling with things and she still goes on. I understand that she's excited, but I feel like I have to constantly put my feelings aside so that she can be happy, which I'm starting to realise is no friendship.
I think for now, my main focus needs to be getting the weight down. What I'll do with regards to seeing my gp is phone on the day that af starts and book the first available appointment after that. I've got some projects coming up over the next week or so that should see me through the 2ww and should hopefully alleviate some of the worry.
Thanks for the warm welcome, it really does mean a lot xx
Plus she must realize you can't offer much "sage" advice. I don't know, maybe I'm seeing something that isn't there
Could also be she's just dense and thinks her needs come first because she's pregnant
Yes lets do that
I had 2 IUI buddies but one got her BFP on the first try (although I hear from her fairly regularly still) and the other one hasn't written me back on a thread I created for a while now so don't know what's up with that I've seen her write on another thread and have now gathered her 2nd IUI failed. Strange she never wrote me back but oh well
As if I'm looking forward to sticking myself with more needles and getting that probe up my vag 3-4 times I hope it goes well with your injections, if it's with a pen I know a bit about that. Although I think our pens will be a bit different. Hopefully yours include instructions like mine did, they were useful the first couple of times.
