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Mama Bears TTC a rainbow - join us :)-- (69 ladies so far)-(29 BFP's!)

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FX it happens soon mrs. Pat.

The other girl in the family who was due around the same time as me (husband's cousin's wife) just announced they're having a girl and invited us to the shower.

I was feeling so good today until then. I should be happy for them but it reminds me of what I lost, makes me feel like crap, and I'm dreading that shower.
 
I hear you confuzion. The day after my mc was our family Christmas. My cousin brought her 5 day old baby. She has a handful of kids, no mc's. I felt very similarly. For some reason the only reason I could get even remotely through it all is thinking that someday I will have a baby at Christmas and I will have a shower and there will likely be someone around me who going through what I did. I'm not saying I wish that on someone, or I want there to be sad people when I have a baby someday, but it makes me feel less alone in what I'm going through, because in womanhood it's inevitable to happen to 1 in 4 women. Sorry, that thought just ran on!
 
Also!

Today's a good day!! If I count my mc as cd1 I am cd17 today. I usually get my positive OPK on cd16. I know with the mc I may see a positive at any date if at all this cycle. I think I'm getting close though! These look like they are headed to positive... furthest two are from tonight. Small victories people :)
 

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You're absolutely right mrs pat.

I guess for me, it because we were due within days of each other. And I was also pregnant with a girl. Now her pregnancy is what mine "could have been". But i have to get over it and look forward to the future.

And FX seems like your ovulation is within reach. Hope you're BDing!
 
I know exactly how you feel confuzion. One of my old coworkers and I found out within a day of each other and we were so excited to walk through it together. She now knows she's having a girl and they have named her Layla. It's heart breaking sometimes but in other ways I don't know if my baby would have coped well on earth like if there was something wrong with the DNA or something. I don't want my child to struggle. That's how I have picked up and moved on so many times and also what my doctor told me. It's helped me a lot.
 
LeahLou said:
I know exactly how you feel confuzion. One of my old coworkers and I found out within a day of each other and we were so excited to walk through it together. She now knows she's having a girl and they have named her Layla. It's heart breaking sometimes but in other ways I don't know if my baby would have coped well on earth like if there was something wrong with the DNA or something. I don't want my child to struggle. That's how I have picked up and moved on so many times and also what my doctor told me. It's helped me a lot.
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I have the advantage of knowing for sure that my baby girl wouldn't have survived. Which should make me feel better. And it did at first. But as I notice that everyone has forgotten her except me. They're all excited about the healthy baby and not my "sick" baby. It makes me feel like I need to grieve for her more.

But trying to do it in a healthy way. And trying to focus on the future instead of the past. But sometimes my jealousy gets the better of me :haha:
 
Confuzion I understand where you are coming from. With my loss in 2012 it was a similar story for me. Me and my best friend was suppose to have our babies three weeks apart and it hurt everytime I see her beautiful baby girl. The thing that made it more worse for me is that she then totally ignored me for the remainder of her pregnancy. She is doing the same now again after my loss except that she is not pregnant this time around. :-(

I am still waiting for the lab results to find out if anything was wrong with my baby and what the gender was of baby.
 
Hello Mama Bears, how are you all doing. I ovulated the 3rd and hubby was away, he only came back yeterday. I'm just waiting for my next Ov now
 
Aw mapha hopefully you catch that next egg!!!

2 DPO eeeeek. Can't wait til this wait is over. Lol. I either want my BFP or my chance to try again.
 
Confuzion ...I have also been struggling with jealousy so I know how you feel.

One of my old co-workers gave birth to a baby girl today, another one of the ladies in my team is due a month after I would have been due and her belly is showing quite nicely and I have to look at her everyday and I have at least 2 friends from school who have announced pregnancies on Facebook but as my DH keeps on telling me our turn will come and getting all upset and emotional about it is just stressing me out which isn't healthy for me and I need to be healthy for a healthy baby so deep breaths!!!

shoo that was a lot but I'm glad to hear I am not the only one who is struggling with the big green monster! I should be ovulating today so some BD'ing is on the cards!!

I would also just like to thank everyone in this group...I have found so much support and good vibes that has gotten me through this awful time... thanks ladies!!!!
 
ckm said:
Confuzion ...I have also been struggling with jealousy so I know how you feel.

One of my old co-workers gave birth to a baby girl today, another one of the ladies in my team is due a month after I would have been due and her belly is showing quite nicely and I have to look at her everyday and I have at least 2 friends from school who have announced pregnancies on Facebook but as my DH keeps on telling me our turn will come and getting all upset and emotional about it is just stressing me out which isn't healthy for me and I need to be healthy for a healthy baby so deep breaths!!!

shoo that was a lot but I'm glad to hear I am not the only one who is struggling with the big green monster! I should be ovulating today so some BD'ing is on the cards!!

I would also just like to thank everyone in this group...I have found so much support and good vibes that has gotten me through this awful time... thanks ladies!!!!
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:hugs:

Yeah me and Facebook never got along too well. I deleted mine about a year ago and never looked back lol.

I agree with your DH and I certainly need to heed that kind of advice. These forums definitely help sooooo much. To know I'm not the only one in the world feeling the way I feel.

I love the BnB ladies.

Have fun BDing ckm!! Guess you'll be joining me in the two week wait soon :happydance:
 
Hi Ladies! Do you mind if I join? I had an early loss at 4w5d in October. Then another in December at 5w4d. Prior to my #2, I had a MMC at 9w2d.

I'm now waiting to test. 1dpo today however I'm having problems with my luteal phase.

I'm sorry for all of your losses. :hugs:

And I get a kick out of your signature. TED is so funny!
 
Leinzlove said:
Hi Ladies! Do you mind if I join? I had an early loss at 4w5d in October. Then another in December at 5w4d. Prior to my #2, I had a MMC at 9w2d.

I'm now waiting to test. 1dpo today however I'm having problems with my luteal phase.

I'm sorry for all of your losses. :hugs:

And I get a kick out of your signature. TED is so funny!
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Hi leinz!! Welcome aboard :) sorry for your losses as well :hugs:. I'm 2 DPO so we're really close in our cycles! We were both due in January maybe we'll both be due end of September together with sticky beans this time!

What's the issue with the luteal phase can I ask?
 
Please do. Ask me anything. My Luteal Phase has been short. The last 4 cycles I've either fallen pregnant or had an 8 day LP. Prior to that I had a 10 and an 11, but didn't fall pregnant.

I surely hope this is sticky BFP month. However, I have yet to fall on the cycle after MC. Staying positive though.
 
I hope this breaks the pattern for you! And for me too. We never get pregnant our first try :(

Have you spoken to your OB or midwife about being put on progesterone for a short luteal phase?
 
I have not as they don't do anything unless you've had 3 recurrent losses. I am doing vitex though. I hope it helps. It surely better break the pattern for us.
 
Hey Leinz! So sorry for your losses :hugs:

AF arrived yesterday so CD2 for me!
 
Hey Leinzlove, sory for ur loss and welcome. Hope u will enjoy ur stay

Hello mama Bears
 
Sorry Leah. :hugs:. This new cycle will be the one!!
 
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