Mama Bears TTC a rainbow - join us :)-- (69 ladies so far)-(29 BFP's!)

[mommyof2peas]

Hello ladies, sorry to interrupt!! I'm new to the thread, and the TTC internet community, in general... I'm hoping some of you may have experienced what is going on with me right now and can provide some reassurance, or give some insight as to what may be going on here. I had a MMC in November at 11 weeks (Dr told me it was a threatened MC at 8 wk appt, baby had stopped growing at 6wks, heart stopped beating at 11 wks), and I chose the D&C procedure, because all of the waiting until that point had been excruciating. I didn't want to wait to see how long it would take my body to pass the baby naturally, as I hadn't bled at all. After the procedure, I bled for about 3-4 days. Dr had said it would take about 4-6 weeks for period to return, maybe up to 8. It's now 1/30 and no sign of her. Not even a spot. I haven't been tracking my BBT regularly. I have a history of whacked periods due to PCOS - but historically they are irregularly frequent and very heavy, not few and far between. I have periodic cramping and am concerned about possible Asherman's Syndrome, but also feel sort of like a hypochondriac worrying about that. My husband and I have an appointment with a fertility specialist on 2/6, but I feel more impatient with each passing day, since we would like to TTC again - but CAN'T without a cycle. And no, I'm definitely not pregnant. :/ Anyone else wait this long after a D&C for their period? Or did you take Provera? A cycle of birth control? Did it/they work? Thanks!!

sorry for your loss. I had to take pro era after both my d&cs. I waited abou 5 weeks after. I would speak to your ob for sure. Good luck

 

[GingerPanda]

Littlebaby, I had to take Provera after my D&C too. It is HIGHLY unlikely you would have Asherman's after one D&C, so please try not to worry about that.

Spearmint tea is actually really great for PCOS. We have a thread about it here if you'd like to check it out:
https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/ttc-groups/2273879-spearmint-cysters-science.html

 

[littlebaby05]

A miracle... coincidence... whatever - I'll take it! Aunt flow came this morning!! I have NEVER been so happy to see her. And so ironic that we're trying to get pregnant, and that I WANTED a period, lol. Whew!

All of this waiting... waiting to see if the fetus would grow.... waiting for the heart to stop.... waiting for a period to come - and now we'll wait for a rainbow. I have never felt so impatient in my life. Like I can't wait another day - I was supposed to have a baby in my arms in June and now any sort of further delay feels unbearable. I know that's not the mindset to have. I'm working on it with a therapist, exercising, spending time with good friends, trying not to dwell - but it creeps in, you know?

Anyway, this is a step in the right direction. Thanks ladies. And, I will definitely give the spearmint tea another try - I was drinking it for awhile in college, because I read it helped with hirsutism associated w/ PCOS! Thanks for the tip!

 

[CelticNiamh]

littlebaby that is great news a fresh start good luck your not alone in feeling impatient and upset as baby dd approaches perfectly normal in the grieving process after a MC but roll on your rainbow baby

 

[ajarvis]

Happy for you littleone! Now you can get on with the better waiting

 

[mommyof2peas]

Oh Im so glad to hear she finally showed.

I understand the waiting! I should of had my angel in October of last year. The second angel should have been born in April. Still no rainbow. It's hard.

 

[Renaendel]

Due dates are the hardest littleone. You miss the loss of that future with them so much. Luckily some of the ladies here have caught again really soon after their MC with a healthy pregnany. I truly hope that you get to be one of them and we can celebrate your next pregnancy.

 

[littlebaby05]

I cross my fingers that all is going well with those of you who are ovulating/possibly implanting/in between ultrasounds, etc.!

 

[GingerPanda]

And, I will definitely give the spearmint tea another try - I was drinking it for awhile in college, because I read it helped with hirsutism associated w/ PCOS! Thanks for the tip!

Congrats on AF!

And it will help with the hirsutism! It helps with PCOS by lowering androgen (testosterone) levels. Elevated testosterone will cause your cycles to go haywire, hirsutism, difficulty losing weight, and most of the other symptoms of PCOS. My testosterone levels dropped by 20 in one month of tea.

 

[Fezzle]

littlebaby- so glad your AF showed up! I was in that position last week, also waiting post-mc, so I know how frustrating it is to just want to start trying again but being at the mercy of AF! GL- I hope you have success before your due date!

 

[nugget80]

Had my erpc done yesterday. Not bleeding much but in a bit of pain and lots of antibiotics to munch through in next 5 days. By that point everything should have settled and we'll be ready to try again. I have been taking vitex and a prenatal plus extra folic acid to prepare and have started dh on a multivitamin to help conception also. I don't have time or patience or organisation enough to do opk and temping so as ever I will just go off my app on phone which tracks periods and gives a fertile period and guesstimation for ovulation. (This was based on info I inputted when I did track o but am guessing post mc it will no longer be accurate. ) at tge moment I will just be happy when I stop hurting so much...

 

[laurac1988]

Sorry hun xxx

 

[KatieSweet]

littlebaby - I'm so happy to hear AF finally showed up for you! That is excellent!
I have The Would Be Due Date coming up in 3 weeks. It's hard. I told DH we're going to skip going out on Valentine's day, and instead go out on Due Date Day to our favorite restaurant and turn it into something positive.. so I'll have something to look forward to as well. I just hope I can keep it together.

 

[Squig34]

Sorry you're in so much pain, Nugget

Littlebaby, glad AF arrived for you and you can move on to TTC again. Sorry to hear of your loss.

Katie - I think that sounds lovely, I always think it's a good idea to do something nice to treat yourselves on a due date, and take it easy

 

[laurac1988]

Our would have been due date is next weekend

Unfortunately we have to go to a family thing.

 

[CelticNiamh]

Had my erpc done yesterday. Not bleeding much but in a bit of pain and lots of antibiotics to munch through in next 5 days. By that point everything should have settled and we'll be ready to try again. I have been taking vitex and a prenatal plus extra folic acid to prepare and have started dh on a multivitamin to help conception also. I don't have time or patience or organisation enough to do opk and temping so as ever I will just go off my app on phone which tracks periods and gives a fertile period and guesstimation for ovulation. (This was based on info I inputted when I did track o but am guessing post mc it will no longer be accurate. ) at tge moment I will just be happy when I stop hurting so much...

hoping the physical and emotional pain eases quickly so you can get back to ttc
I am taking maca vitamin b complex Q10 and folic acid and omega 3 hoping its sorting out my hormones and sorting out the lining and the q10 improves egg quality

 

[littlebaby05]

Had my erpc done yesterday. Not bleeding much but in a bit of pain and lots of antibiotics to munch through in next 5 days. By that point everything should have settled and we'll be ready to try again. I have been taking vitex and a prenatal plus extra folic acid to prepare and have started dh on a multivitamin to help conception also. I don't have time or patience or organisation enough to do opk and temping so as ever I will just go off my app on phone which tracks periods and gives a fertile period and guesstimation for ovulation. (This was based on info I inputted when I did track o but am guessing post mc it will no longer be accurate. ) at tge moment I will just be happy when I stop hurting so much...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Nugget. Such a tough time. Take care of yourself with lots of movies, take out, and presents to yourself this week!

 

[Renaendel]

Take care of your self nugget. So sorry it is fully over. Your tracking for the next few months sounds good. You need to do what is right for you, not for others.

Laura, I know I have said this before but my heart goes out to you and Amy next week.

 

[youngmamttc]

So sorry nugget. Your plan sounds fab.

Laura & Katie due dates are always really hard when they come around. Thinking of you both

AFM- I got my BFP yesterday and im terrified. Its all i worry about all day now Cant wait to be in second tri already

 

[littlebaby05]

KatieSweet - I think that's a great idea for your due date. I dread crossing that bridge, but making it a celebration rather than a day of mourning is certainly better for your spirit. I think it'll be a good thing to honor your angel, and then go on and celebrate yourselves - eat, drink, and be merry - you certainly deserve it!

Laura C - I hope your family surrounds you with love, and that you both have the opportunity to take care of yourselves at some point during the day, too