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[mapha2]

Hello ladies, so tomorrow is hubby's birthday. Any ideas on what to do? I need something special. I'm not sure whether to cook or take him out.

 

[Mrs_chris_36]

We'll that would depend on what your cooking is like

 

[Mrs_chris_36]

So quick question you ladies are all a lot smarter when it comes to ovulation questions than me, this month I got my flashing smiley on weds 22nd and a solid on the Thursday 23rd when do you think I might have actually ovulated?

 

[bridget021182]

Hi ladies....So everything has given me BFN. I had an appt for a weight check at the OB and they always ask how Im feeling. So I ran down the list of symptoms and told them I have been off my med for a few weeks. Doc wanted to talk to me so he said that he wanted to do a blood draw and see what we got. Im now waiting on that to come back. I am currently 7dpo.

 

[mapha2]

We'll that would depend on what your cooking is like

Hahaha, I think I'm not too bad

 

[confuzion]

So quick question you ladies are all a lot smarter when it comes to ovulation questions than me, this month I got my flashing smiley on weds 22nd and a solid on the Thursday 23rd when do you think I might have actually ovulated?

From what I understand, ovulation is the day after the solid smiley. So Friday the 24th I'm guessing.

 

[confuzion]

Hello ladies, so tomorrow is hubby's birthday. Any ideas on what to do? I need something special. I'm not sure whether to cook or take him out.

My husband's birthday is coming up too (feb 2nd). I always cook so that wouldn't make anything special lol. But think I will make him all his favorite desserts.

Edit: and maybe a little sexual favor action .

 

[Mrs_chris_36]

So af is due on tues but today my back is really killing me...total af pain if I'm not mistaken really think I'm out this cycle

 

[kazine]

Just had someone jump down my throat on another forum because I said that miscarrying is "the hardest thing when you don't have a living baby". This person instantly assumed I meant that miscarrying when you already have a child "isn't as bad" and tried to guilt me about how hurtful I was being. I wasn't even having a conversation with her, I'd started a new thread for women TTC their first after a loss . She approached me and decided to be offended by what I'd said and accusing me of trying to compete over who is in the most pain or some bull****.

Ugh.

 

[confuzion]

Back pain is also a pregnancy symptom Andrea! Don't count yourself out yet!

 

[confuzion]

That's terrible kazine. I don't know why women have to be so hard on each other. Loss is hard no matter when it happens but I think there's an added fear when you don't have living children that it may never happen. Not that it takes anything away from the pain of losing a pregnancy no matter what, but that added element definitely makes the journey even more difficult.

It's not a competition. I hate that some women have to take everything personally instead of offering support. Which is what these forums were made for.

 

[kazine]

That's terrible kazine. I don't know why women have to be so hard on each other. Loss is hard no matter when it happens but I think there's an added fear when you don't have living children that it may never happen. Not that it takes anything away from the pain of losing a pregnancy no matter what, but that added element definitely makes the journey even more difficult.

It's not a competition. I hate that some women have to take everything personally instead of offering support. Which is what these forums were made for.

I started the thread recently and have had 3 women decide they're offended by that single comment so I've just thought fuck the thread now, I'm clearly not allowed to post my feelings anywhere without being jumped on.

There was a reason I started a thread for those who didn't have any living children and that was the reason. Maybe I would say things that offended people who already did have chidlren. And I didn't mean to do that so that's why I started the thread but clearly it was in vain.

I only want one baby.

One.

And I don't have any.

And I know there are people out there who share my pain. But apparently expressing it is just too offensive to people who just have to lay the guilt on thick.

 

[confuzion]

I hear you. I'm in the same situation. No living kids. And I want one so bad. Our house is so lonely. Sorry you had a bad experience with that thread. You have nothing to feel guilty for. Forget anyone who says otherwise.

 

[kazine]

I'm just so angry I could cry.

I'm being accused of "isolating" people from that thread by saying it's for women without any living children. And then they complain about the things that women without any living children might say.

 

[confuzion]

Well sometimes threads are geared towards certain people.

There's Christian threads, secular threads, TTC #1, 2, or 3 threads, TTCAL threads. The whole point of it all is to bring people who are experiencing something similar together. I do find that the ladies on BnB are much nicer than ladies on other forums though lol.

 

[kazine]

Well sometimes threads are geared towards certain people.

There's Christian threads, secular threads, TTC #1, 2, or 3 threads, TTCAL threads. The whole point of it all is to bring people who are experiencing something similar together. I do find that the ladies on BnB are much nicer than ladies on other forums though lol.

I know right :/ It's annoying, I mean, imagine pregnant women who had never had a loss coming to the miscarriage forum and getting annoyed that they're being isolated from the support threads!

 

[confuzion]

Lol. True. Don't let it get you down

 

[kazine]

Thanks.

Obviously I don't mean to offend people. I lost my baby 2 days ago, making people feel bad about losing their babies is the last thing on my mind!

 

[LeahLou]

I'm so sorry Kazine. People need to be more sensitive. Everyone's experience is different. For ME, it's harder to have a loss with a living child because 1) I know what I'm missing out on 2) explaining to my 2 year old that her sibling isn't in mommy's belly anymore 3) you have to keep going because you are a mommy 24/7 (at least for me cause I stay at home). Some days I would love to just not care and sit in my room with a big thing of brownies and Ice cream for days watching movies, but I can't cause I have someone I take care of.
BUT, that doesn't mean your losses mean any less or mine are worse than yours. A loss is a loss no matter what situation you're in.

Did y'all see my tests this morning?? Bottom of pg 86!

 

[Mrs_chris_36]

Back pain is also a pregnancy symptom Andrea! Don't count yourself out yet!

you're always so positive Sarah it's so lovely

I'm still getting lots off cm and for the last 2 days I've had sore nipples I never get sore boobs, I've been peeing constantly and up 4-5 Times during the night for the last 2 nights...but I think it's probably totally in my head