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[confuzion]

Wow.. That's got to be heart breaking. I wish we could've gotten results.

I'm so sorry kazine. It's so hard to have to start over.

9/10 dpo
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Confused. Top one is obvious, bottom is nada both with FMU!

Sorry I missed this Leah. You're right. But for a lot of women fmu actually isn't as good as smu!

 

[Mrs_chris_36]

Just had someone jump down my throat on another forum because I said that miscarrying is "the hardest thing when you don't have a living baby". This person instantly assumed I meant that miscarrying when you already have a child "isn't as bad" and tried to guilt me about how hurtful I was being. I wasn't even having a conversation with her, I'd started a new thread for women TTC their first after a loss . She approached me and decided to be offended by what I'd said and accusing me of trying to compete over who is in the most pain or some bull****.

Ugh.

Alas kazine there are people out there that decide to have a look at something that isn't necessarily geared towards their circumstances and so end up feeling annoyed or taking something personally or the wrong way because they don't understand...screw em...Sorry if it sounds harsh but if they get offended by something that's in them not you you are not responsible for how they react to something, what you expressed was your opinion, which is you are entitled to, there was no malice intended so it's their problem. I too have no children, I've had 1 mc and 2 chemicals, I totally understand where you are coming from....because oooh guess what that thread was geared towards me who is in the same situation and has been through the same things x

 

[confuzion]

Back pain is also a pregnancy symptom Andrea! Don't count yourself out yet!

you're always so positive Sarah it's so lovely

I'm still getting lots off cm and for the last 2 days I've had sore nipples I never get sore boobs, I've been peeing constantly and up 4-5 Times during the night for the last 2 nights...but I think it's probably totally in my head

Lol but I wasn't just trying to be positive! It's true !

I don't think it's in your head. I see a BFP in your near future!

 

[Leinzlove]

I don't know what MC is like without having a baby! I don't agree that they should jump down your throat. But I think the person is thinking you are considering your MC harder than others because you don't have children. But its all hard... Miscarriage is a pain that never goes away for anyone whom experiences it. We can't classify who's pain is worse. It's all loss and we all grieve differently. It's a very evil, hard thing.

And the fear... that fear that you will never have a baby. That's the same fear experienced with each Mom who wants another. You think you will never get it. BUT YOU WILL! WE ALL WILL! WE WILL ALL HAVE RAINBOWS!

I've been here before with a MMC between my 2 children. I was with a lot of Ladies on these threads like we all are now. THEY ALL HAVE RAINBOWS!!! Some are carrying #2 or #4 NOW! I agree with Confuzion, there is no competition. We will all reach the same destination. A beautiful rainbow to take home!

Bridget: Even if the blood test says BFN, which it might you could definitely be pregnant. 7dpo is so early, if implantation hasn't occurred, even the blood test would be negative. (The most common time for implantation to take place is 8dpo.) Eeeek! Bring on that BFP!

Leah: You need to put yourself out of testing misery. I clearly do see lines on them all. And if these tests are positive FRER will be too. I'm so ready to say CONGRATULATIONS!

 

[kazine]

Still arguing on this stupid thread grrrrrrrr

I know I should just ignore it but people are being assholes and trying to tell me that women who have MCd and dont have any living children DON'T have different feelings from those who do have living children.

 

[Leinzlove]

What's wrong with our feelings being different? Even without # of children involved, our feelings are different. We are different people.

We are entitled to our own feelings.

 

[kazine]

I know. I don't understand these people. I literally have stated a million times

I didn't mean that MC hurts less if you have a child.
I didn't mean that MC hurts less if you have a child.
I didn't mean that MC hurts less if you have a child.
I didn't mean that MC hurts less if you have a child.
I didn't mean that MC hurts less if you have a child.

Then people keep coming back and telling me that is what I meant!

I could scream.

You think these people arguing, the ones WITH children, could be a bit more grown up.

 

[confuzion]

Honestly kazine, I would avoid that thread and that stress. It's the last thing you need after what you've just experienced.

 

[kazine]

Yeah, a moderator has closed it now.

On another note. When I went to the hospital when I was miscarrying they basically took a urine test which came back negative and then did nothing.

Didn't take blood tests or want any followups so I don't know what my levels were or anything. And I don't even know if I'm going to have fully miscarried properly.

I was 4+2. Should I have had more care?

 

[confuzion]

I've never had a miscarriage that early so I'm not sure. But I would think you would miscarry fully because there's not that much for your uterus to clear. I don't think you'll need to worry about it. If the pregnancy test was negative your levels must be low and your body is taking care of you. I think when you stop bleeding you should ovulate normally.

With my first miscarriage the midwife told me as long as even a regular urine test is negative my body should be recovering just fine.

 

[Leinzlove]

I'm glad they closed that thread DOWN!

They usually don't do anything with early losses unless you've had 3 in a row. They are the most common and happen 70% of the time. Just usually before we know it.

Be good to yourself hun!

You should ovulate when you normally do and you're more fertile after miscarriage.

 

[kazine]

Well that's good news that it should all be okay I suppose.

Luckily for me there's a recurrent miscarriage clinic at my local hospital which is on my actual street just in case I need it... Hopefully not but I'm starting to lose hope

 

[Leinzlove]

Don't lose hope! Just keep trying! The odds are always in our favor.

 

[Renaendel]

Wow this thread moves fast!

Kazine, sorry people were so insensitive and were unwilling to read what you actually wrote. It probably isn't the stress you needed right now. A day after it happens it rocks your world, the same as a year from when it happens. You have great support here and I am glad you felt comfortable enough here to voice what you needed. It says a lot about the kind of ladies in this forum.

Andrea, having to pee frequently in the middle of the night is one of the best signs out there. If stuff is bad enough to wake you up, it means it is actually happening, you can't be imagining it. Good luck!!

Leahlou, I had a hard time seeing stuff on the tests but I have the eyes of an 80 year old man. (Well except for my tests which I can spot a line or a shadow at 100 paces).

Maphy- my hubbies bday is on the 10th. Maybe we will all make birthday babies!

I am sure I probably missed people, if I did sorry and

Afm-not much, just the lovely witch and a realization that we started this journey 15 months ago. Crazy. As we had to go back to WTT while I healed it is more like 8 months copious nookie activity. Just taking advantage of the witch to splurge a tiny bit with my food. Worth it.

 

[Leinzlove]

Renae: Splurge away! I'd like some of the food you are having.

 

[bridget021182]

I don't know what MC is like without having a baby! I don't agree that they should jump down your throat. But I think the person is thinking you are considering your MC harder than others because you don't have children. But its all hard... Miscarriage is a pain that never goes away for anyone whom experiences it. We can't classify who's pain is worse. It's all loss and we all grieve differently. It's a very evil, hard thing.

And the fear... that fear that you will never have a baby. That's the same fear experienced with each Mom who wants another. You think you will never get it. BUT YOU WILL! WE ALL WILL! WE WILL ALL HAVE RAINBOWS!

I've been here before with a MMC between my 2 children. I was with a lot of Ladies on these threads like we all are now. THEY ALL HAVE RAINBOWS!!! Some are carrying #2 or #4 NOW! I agree with Confuzion, there is no competition. We will all reach the same destination. A beautiful rainbow to take home!

Bridget: Even if the blood test says BFN, which it might you could definitely be pregnant. 7dpo is so early, if implantation hasn't occurred, even the blood test would be negative. (The most common time for implantation to take place is 8dpo.) Eeeek! Bring on that BFP!

Leah: You need to put yourself out of testing misery. I clearly do see lines on them all. And if these tests are positive FRER will be too. I'm so ready to say CONGRATULATIONS!

Oh I understand. I know that it is early and so does he. So as soon as I get even the faintest line to call him and start the progesterone script. I kinda want to start it now because Im pretty sure I will get the BFP but not sure what that will do if anything.

 

[Leinzlove]

Bridget: I don't know anything about progesterone. What does the Dr. advise? I hope you are about to see your BFP.

I'm going to ask my Dr. about progesterone because I had 3 early losses in 4 months. 2 of those I had BFP's during the bleeding. The other time the lines went faint.

My appt. is Feb. 19. Scheduled right after AF's departure. However, I hope that she's not going to arrive!

 

[Leinzlove]

P.S. I surely hope you all aren't getting sick of me.

Also I wish KRIPPY would update. It's one of the reasons I keep showing up here at BNB. I'm pretty sure she's gotten that BFP today!!!

 

[Rahma]

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[Leinzlove]

I know right. Who hides out at 10dpo? lol