March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[Storked]

He has the mood swings....and lack of control.....

True but you know what I mean. He is distant and cold to his son. With you he gets all passionate because you are his woman. MUR.

 

[Sweetz33]

I'm loosing desire to be with him.....like today...got on my butt bc I had to you know, pay the bills and had an appointment to figure out what I can take to calm down my anxiety and OCD.....and we have one car (mine). He son needed to be picked up too. So he got pissy with me bc he had stuff he needed to do....um so do I....and it's my flipping car! So I said you can drop me off at my appointment, pick up your on, drop him off, then come get me, I will drop you off at your meeting at work, hang out at your brothers then pick you up. He said fine....then when he goes to pick me up after dropping his son off he goes on this whole speel on how HE'S inconvienced....what?! I'm the one that got dropped off....I'm the one that is running around paying all the bills...you know like rent....I'm the one that has to sit 2 hrs at HIS brothers waiting on his ass! Oh and then when we finally get home....he disappears into his man cave, then 20 minutes later says he has to go back to work and leaves in my car. Seriously?! Then he says why do I need chill pills...ummmmm....is he really that dense?!

 

[nevergivingup]

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Hi ladies, a quick jump in Bc I'm exhausted, so I wanted to get this out the way. WE ARE HAVING A BABY BOY!!!!
He was extremely active and busy doing the U/S. We even have a picture of his little pecker. He is moving now and hasn't stopped to take a nap yet! My DH is over the moon and so am I. As soon as she turnt on the u/s he was flipping everywhere. He even waved at us, that picture I will post later!! Ok now on to catch up on personals!

 

[Sweetz33]

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Hi ladies, a quick jump in Bc I'm exhausted, so I wanted to get this out the way. WE ARE HAVING A BABY BOY!!!!
He was extremely active and busy doing the U/S. We even have a picture of his little pecker. He is moving now and hasn't stopped to take a nap yet! My DH is over the moon and so am I. As soon as she turnt on the u/s he was flipping everywhere. He even waved at us, that picture I will post later!! Ok now on to catch up on personals!

Omg omg omg yay! Wooohoooooooo!!

 

[Storked]

I'm loosing desire to be with him.....like today...got on my butt bc I had to you know, pay the bills and had an appointment to figure out what I can take to calm down my anxiety and OCD.....and we have one car (mine). He son needed to be picked up too. So he got pissy with me bc he had stuff he needed to do....um so do I....and it's my flipping car! So I said you can drop me off at my appointment, pick up your on, drop him off, then come get me, I will drop you off at your meeting at work, hang out at your brothers then pick you up. He said fine....then when he goes to pick me up after dropping his son off he goes on this whole speel on how HE'S inconvienced....what?! I'm the one that got dropped off....I'm the one that is running around paying all the bills...you know like rent....I'm the one that has to sit 2 hrs at HIS brothers waiting on his ass! Oh and then when we finally get home....he disappears into his man cave, then 20 minutes later says he has to go back to work and leaves in my car. Seriously?! Then he says why do I need chill pills...ummmmm....is he really that dense?!

Warning: I am about to sound sexist. Sweetz, you and I both know that men don't consider any of the things we do to be work unless it is upon them to accomplish them. Hell, it is like they forgot that part of their eagerness to marry was a) steady sex and b) so hopefully somebody else could do all the shit that they hate to do. When they no longer pay the bills (and I mean actually go through the process of balancing a checkbook and paying the bills), dealing with apartment management, caring for children, menu planning, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, vacuuming, ironing...it is like they think those things magically happen so that they no longer have to deal with them. It isn't often that men will acknowledge that that is work, and miserable, tedious work too. And you are growing a baby on top of it all!
If you go, you will take your car and no longer be babysitting his butt and he will know that he lost a good thing. And I am guessing from your talk that it will be too late

 

[Storked]

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Hi ladies, a quick jump in Bc I'm exhausted, so I wanted to get this out the way. WE ARE HAVING A BABY BOY!!!!
He was extremely active and busy doing the U/S. We even have a picture of his little pecker. He is moving now and hasn't stopped to take a nap yet! My DH is over the moon and so am I. As soon as she turnt on the u/s he was flipping everywhere. He even waved at us, that picture I will post later!! Ok now on to catch up on personals!

BLUE FOR NEVER! Congrats!
Thinking up names yet?

 

[Sweetz33]

I think it already is too late....like today he got icky bc he was out of tank tops....ok Hun...you know where the washer is, and the dryer.....why didn't you do it yourself instead of giving me tude....I'm not a fricken mind reader!

 

[lisalee1]

OMG Never! YAY!!!! Boy for you and girl for Sweetz!

 

[Sweetz33]

I'll be happy with healthy...

Just had a crying fit. DH called and said all this stuff about how he wants to be there 100% and how he has screwed up, give him another chance blah blah blah.....but ladies I'm so hurt right now I don't know if i can do it! I'm so tired of hurting and him just either not noticing or not really caring. I even told him that...he said I notice...then I say why the hell ain't you doing anything to fix it? His answer...I will.....you will see.....I even said I don't care if you did things in our past....just please be truthful. I rather know the truth then constantly have question marks! I'm tired of I wills or you will sees!!! I want fucking change!! (Pardon the swear but I'm so upset right now) I'm so tired of false promises....I can't take it anymore! I'm don't know if I should try or just throw in the towel....he realized that he blew it with his older son....and maybe he is finally realizing he is blowing it with me...but it might be too late.....

 

[Storked]

I'll be happy with healthy...

Just had a crying fit. DH called and said all this stuff about how he wants to be there 100% and how he has screwed up, give him another chance blah blah blah.....but ladies I'm so hurt right now I don't know if i can do it! I'm so tired of hurting and him just either not noticing or not really caring. I even told him that...he said I notice...then I say why the hell ain't you doing anything to fix it? His answer...I will.....you will see.....I even said I don't care if you did things in our past....just please be truthful. I rather know the truth then constantly have question marks! I'm tired of I wills or you will sees!!! I want fucking change!! (Pardon the swear but I'm so upset right now) I'm so tired of false promises....I can't take it anymore! I'm don't know if I should try or just throw in the towel....he realized that he blew it with his older son....and maybe he is finally realizing he is blowing it with me...but it might be too late.....

Any choice is ultimately yours so I am virtually going to give you what you need HUGS!

 

[lpjkp]

Storked (Aka. Bethany!): Erm, Hannah Montana isn't very popular in the UK, that's why it's so big of a secret...I'd get laughed at if it ever came out!haha! And,, yes, that is apparently Miley Cyrus with her hair chopped off...what was she thinking?! I saw it in one of the women's magazines/newspaper over here, and I thought silly girl!!!
MMmmmmmm, those cookies look so yummy!!!!!!! They need chocolate chips in them to finish them off...ohh mann, all I've got is some crappy cheapy pre-packaged cookies, I reckon they're stale now...Look what you've started girl!

Angel: Hey lady! Glad to hear from you, sounds like you're having a pretty sucky time of it I hope that November/December speeds round for you and that you get to the bottom of this TTC business to finally get you on your way to your little rainbow baby...thoughts are definitely with you, and you're such a brave courageous woman to go through what you go through and come out the other side xx As for the career change, maybe it's fate and it's meant to be...you mention you'd be happy to follow another path, and maybe that's what you need to make sure your life is becoming as truly happy for you as can be! Good luck and hope you get that dream job!xxx

Lisa: What does it feel like when your baby kicks? Like flutters? I can't can't can't WAIT till I get to that point...at the minute, I just have a very mischievous sucky little baby that seems to enjoy making me sick all-day everyday!

BayBeeEm: Hiiiiiii!!!!!!! Hope you're well!

Aspe: I read good reviews about Vitex, and decided to try it myself (It's called agnus castus in the UK), but it was awful for me! It seemed to do the opposite if I can remember of what I wanted it to do...it lengthened my cycle and made me ovulate later and dried me up...after searching google after that, I also read a lot of poopy reviews of vitex too, where it messed up a lot of people's cycles...I'd say that, if your worried about your cycles, maybe it is time to have a pop to the doctors and see if there is anything they can recommend?x

Sweetz: Awww hun, that made me feel sad reading about your son...I think it's easy for people to just assume that kids don't pick up on stuff, and they're always suprised when it turns out that it's had a bigger effect on that kid more than anyone could know...In terms of your DH, he gives you soo many mixed signals doesn't he?! Men are funny creatures, and it takes a good strong woman to love 'em! Whatever decision you make, you need to stick to your own goals (If you want to pursue your dream too, don't let anybody stop you!) and you NEED to see change in him...Actions speak louder than words I always think, and you can't build a happy life on empty promises...He needs to start showing you that he DOES care and that he WILL change, because you lady deserve to be treated soo much better, and I don't think you should give up until you get the best from a guy, whether it's him or another lucky guy in the future xxx

Never: O.M.G!!!!!!!!!! What a lovely post to see when I've just gotten up!!!!!!!! Argh! I'm soo happy for you that you got to see a lovely bouncing little BOY!!!!!! Start stocking up on those blues for that little baby that you're nearly halfway to seeing!!!!! Soo happy for you and DH!!!

AFM: Eurgh! I'm shocked I've managed to sit here this morning for so long and type! I'm sicky sicky this morning (After a lovely day of feeling almost human yesterday) and have had my daily morning dose of vomiting... you'll be happy to know Bethany, that DH happily gave up the guitar last night (Was soo glad, 'cos he was making an awful racket!), I got my massage (Was quietly impressed, he kept some good massage skills away from me all this time!) and he got his compromise!!! This compromising business might actually work!Haha!x

 

[garfie]

Morning Ladies

Well as hubby is out fishing this morn - I've snuck on here

Mummy Bear - CONGRATS hun on your baby boy cub - oh so so pleased for you and are you sure it was his winky you saw and not the umbilical cord - my ex hubby thought my eldest was well endowed until the German doc told him it was the umbilical cord you must be walking on air right now with the daftest grin on your face - you enjoy hun you deserve it - so what is going to be your first purchase in blue?

Angel - So sorry you are having a tough time of it lady - I think we all understand what it is like to be in a crappy job where you are not appreciated - I hope you find a good job with lots of money ladies who have worked hard for their qualifications deserve it in my opinion

Lp - Glad you decided on compromising - and so pleased he put down the guitar - my eldest has decided he wants to learn to play, so I can sympathise fully on the noise! aaaaarrrrrgh So sorry you are still feeling sicky but that's got to be a good thing right?

Storked - Yum those cookies looked so good - I'm rubbish at anything like that my eldest (again) has just announced he wants to make some Jewish bread for RE. I mean honestly do these schools think the majority of store cupboards hold poppy seeds etc well deff not mine

Aspe - Did you say you see CM - I can't remember if not maybe try grapefruit juice (but bear in mind just because you can't see it) doesn't mean it's not happening up there

Lisa - I used to love it when I got my flutters with the boys - as time went on it started to look like a ripple across my belly that was weird and then as they ran out of room I looked like I had an alien poking out Enjoy the flutters as only you know they are there

Sweetz - Hun what to say - I think it has all been said before, your DH certainly likes to play mind games with you doesn't he and from what you said he has done the same to his son I don't see why women can't combine a career and a baby at the same time I did, no one said it is easy but it can be done, he will just have to make more of an effort won't he

Baybee - Hello lady how are you feeling today

AFM - I have printed of my charts for next week and they are a sad state of affairs no O since my DNC and prior to that on 9DPO a huge temp drop even though the witch might not come until a few days after so that looks like a progesterone issue don't you think



X

 

[lisalee1]

LPJ- Sorry you're being beat up by MS. You should start feeling better soon though.
The movements feel rhythmic like a quick muscle spasm- very noticeable to me.

Garfie- how many cycles have you had since the DNC?

 

[Storked]

Loren, who is popular in the UK? I want to know. I promise to keep your Miley secret she does look odd with short blond hair doesn't she?
And those pre packaged cookies may be stale but maybe you can't tell if you dip them in milk?
Yay for sickness! always like good symptoms!
How did you get him to give up the guitar? Did you have to point out that no, you actually couldn't tell what song he was playing because he slaughters all of them? Hehe

Fiona, so much cooking is like that where it will call for fresh herbs or bean sprouts or seasonings that I don't have, like allspice (gotta sub with ground ginger). So you are normal honey, and aren't rubbish at all if cooking doesn't interest you- hard working lady like you wants to relax after a day off work. Don't blame you
How is your son adjusting to school?
I am actually not sure if it sounds like progesterone issues: I will look into it though and see if that sounds like what you have. What will they do if it is?

Morning Lisa!

 

[nevergivingup]

Hi ladies,

Stork: Yum yum, i was dreaming about those cookies last night!! I know that DH of yours is very spoiled with Sweets!!! I know that youre not giving up. I was just making sure. And I DO THE SAME THING WHEN I GO TO OTHERS HOUSE WITH THEIR TISSUE!! Doesvit drive you crazy when you're at someone else house using their bathroom and the tissue is on the floor instead of hanging up... . O and the boy names, is left up to my DH

Sweetz: I'm sooo sorry your DH is acting like he's prego, taking you through all these emotions, I do pray it gets better as I know it will. Every relationship has it's days, they will come and go. About your career...GO FOR IT, DO IT FOR YOU!!! Never give up on your dreams, only you can dream those dreams and only you can make them come true!

AngelSerenity: It's so great to hear from you! I'm sorry that you have to wait til Dec. but ma'am that time will be here in no time, you'll see. You'll get that stick baby, don't worry you will. And I understand ab lurking, but if it's ok with you will you pop in once every blue moon and update us, I look forward to hearing ab you. And don't stress ab the career thing it'll get better, it have too. I'm in search for a job, no luck over here, I get depressed some days but I have to keep going, Bc ibknow God has a plan for me.

Lisalee: Your babe is moving alot too!! I love the idea of keeping the gender unknown. That's a great surprise, but everyone was asking and trying to give us a girl(which was fine with me) so we had to go see. That'll def be a great surprise in Delivery but you might have a time reminding your OB staff on u/s days to not tell you.

Garfie: Sorry that your chart is already disappointing for next week. But ma'am in my belief God knows the future even when it's tommorrow. Dont get down about what's not here yet. Head Up Chin Up!!! Your BFP is coming soon. Did you go to the docs yet about your cycles and "O"?

Aspe: I can't wait until you go to the doc so we can find out what's going on in there. Which I hope everything is fine. I used preseed to match my cm.

BayBeeEm: How's that m/s coming along. And yes, it seems like all the oldies are posting more, what's up with that....were they trying to tell us something!!? Anywhoo glad their posting!!

Bama: Where are you ma'am. I hope everything is ok.

Lpjkp: Thank you sooo much for your post!!! I have no idea what I will buy, I'm still not buying until im 25 wks. But the DH is already telling me that we know what we can start buying now. I'm starting to think you enjoy that m/s?!! I know I did, so embrace it ma'am, it's a wonderful feeling to know your bean is driving you crazy sick. And def tell us ab your pregnancy I love hearing it!! Glad to hear the DH is compromising....I wish mine would give ms a massage...lucky girl you!!! When is your next appt.?

Hi Armymamma, Kanicky, MnJ, and anyone else I may have missed, I'm trying to remember everything...

AFM: Well it's 8:35am and my baby boy woke up at 7am kicking and moving and still is. Every morning I have to stretch my hips legs and pelvis Bc they be so sore, and peeing is a Demand Bc if I don't I will be in pain and pee on myself

I'm Soooo rooting for everyone, we're all going to be mothers of many children, just got to believe ladies. Keep our head up, chin up and the days will def get better, trouble don't last always! Love ya!!

 

[nevergivingup]

Oh and Bethany, Fiona and Loren, I love those names...mine is Lenay! HELLLO!!

 

[lpjkp]

Fiona: Forgive me if I'm wrong, but when I got really worried thinking EVERYTHING was wrong with me when TTC, I decided to look up about progesterone deficiency...I read (If I can remember rightly), that indicators of a progesterone deficiency are a luteal phase defect (It differs between doctors, but it's suggested that you need a luteal phase of at least 10 days to sustain a pregnancy and, if your luteal phase is shorter, your corpus luteum isn't sustaining high enough levels of progesterone...I looked into two options:
1)Vitex/agnus castus (Same thing, different names): Is a herbal supplement that works at the level of the pituitary gland/hypothalamus in the brain to balance the hormones oestrogen and progesterone (If you have too much oestrogen, this can have a negative effect on progesterone and vice versa so it harmonises everything)...It isn't a quick fix solution and an infertility scientific study found that the majority of women who took agnus castus for 3 months went on to conceive during the study. It can also increase the length of your cycle if it's too short.
2)Vitamin B complex: (Has to be a complex because taking just individual B6/B12 etc can cause more harm than good)...I took vitamin B-50 (50mg)...vitamin B is meant to increase your progesterone by producing a better follicle quality, and better follicle quality=better corpus luteum=more progesterone for a longer period of time and a longer luteal phase...out of 1) and 2) that I tried, I'd definitely recommend vitamin B to people...I was having a luteal phase of about 8-9 days and, in the first month of using it, it went up to 11 days, then second month 13 days...I could tell it had a good effect because the temperatures on my BBT after ovulation went so much higher away from the coverline whilst taking it, and for a lot longer. There are also scientific studies that it can be beneficial during early pregnancy too, because it was found that women who miscarried tended to be deficient in vitamin B6/12, so it can only help. It is also apparently good to ease morning sickness, so bonus!

Sorry for the essay, but I just wanted to give you my experience, and they may be a possible thing to discuss with your gyno if it is infact a luteal phase defect/low progesterone deficiency...agnus castus, so I've just read, can also help with anovulation (Which I guess is because balancing of the hormones regulates a cycle and makes it more likely that you'll ovulate)...hope it helps a little! I've also read plenty of ladies have been put on metformin for progesterone/luteal phase issues, so be assured that there IS plenty of help out there, you've just made the first fantastic step of reaching out for it!x

Bethany: Errrrmmm, let me think....apparently that gangnam style is number one over here at the minute (Not sure how that happened?!)...I really like an English pop band called one direction (Mega cute boys who do really cute pop songs!), not sure if you've heard of them in the states? Who is the coolest band over there?
I actually didn't get him to give up the guitar, surprisingly! I think I just mentioned that it was getting towards my bedtime and that I was starting to get tired, and obviously he realised that his window of opportunity was extremely narrow! Haha! He's been lovely to me today so far though (My sickness has been the worst it's ever been today, and he let me snuggle into him on the sofa with NO COMPLAINTS WHATSOEVER!), so obviously he must have just been a little, ahem, "frustrated"!

Lisa: Are you USA too? I can't be the only UK lady in here, surely?

OOOHHHHHHHH, question I've been meaning to ask, because I just don't get it: what is a redneck? I must be so stupid! I was reading my magazine last night and it had a tiny little column talking about that Honey Boo Boo (I think that's what its called, I know sweetz mentioned it the other day?!) and they said it's a redneck show too?!

 

[lpjkp]

Lenay: That is such a lovely original name! I haven't heard that name before! Haha, I think I'd be very much mistaken if I said I enjoy the sickness...I threw up again at dinner and spent an hour crying and feeling sorry for myself during my DH dinner break...he was very supportive though listening to me moan through sobs "I just want to eat! I'm tired of feeling hungry!" I used to LOVE food so much, so it kills me now to constantly turn it down! Haha!

Next appointment is Monday for my booking in appointment with the midwife, so 4 days away...I'm a little nervous and don't know what to expect, but apparently lots of blood tests to check for a million things and lots of history taking...then my nuchal fold scan (Is that what it's called?!) doubled with 12 week scan 2 weeks on Monday to both see the baby and check risk for Down's syndrome...still, I'm not looking too far ahead and just taking each day as it comes I guess. I thought that, once I'd reach something like 9 weeks, I'd begin to relax, but I still worry every day and just have to have faith that everything is ok...I'm not particularly religious, but I keep asking some guy up there (Wherever he is) to make sure that everything is going to be ok!x

 

[nevergivingup]

Lpjkp: (Loren) Great info on the phase!!! Very informative!!! And don't feel bad if you're the only UK lady in here!! And don't try to run off to find other U/K women, we love our 1 U/K lady!! I think we have one more, was it Hopestruck or someone else. My DH hates when I cuddle with him, he calls me and his baby aggravating!! Lol, I love to annoy him!!

Yayyyyy for Midwife appt!!! I'm sure everything is going to be ok. I hate all that blood drawing, I just want to see my baby on the U/S and leave. Ibknow how you feel, ab being scared still. But it is a man up there in heaven watching down on us, and watching over your unborn child. You'll be ok and you'll be in 2nd trimester in no time. Then you'll be worried ab something else, like me. But you'll be ok!!!

 

[HisGrace]

Disclaimer: I typed my responses as I read each post so things may come out a little crazy.

Aspe - So, do you just look at the full website view on your phone? Sorry about your cramping but with all that BD'ing you did, I think you still caught it. Why would they make you wait until December to see a gynecologist?

Storked - I hate talking politics too. DH quit talking to me about it because I would just zone him out. I'm a number 1 (faithful) on the toilet paper and DH is a number 3 (reckless). It drives me nuts. They are actually building an Aldi in Pearland. I don't remember when it's supposed to be completed, but I saw the sign the other day. Yummm on those cookies.

Leather - Oh my gosh with the elephant butt eating. I don't think I could stomach that but DH would love it. LOL.

Shefali - :wave: Hi!!!! We've missed you. I hope the pain goes away soon.

Garfie - glad you're getting to see a gynecologist. Sometime you have to add a little color to get things done. I don't really know about the progesterone issue though. Hopefully, your docs can get things figured out.

Never - I see you had your scan yesterday. So anxious to keep reading and see how it went. FXed for you as I read even though you've already been by now. LOL. I just read now it's a boy!!!! Yay!!!!

Sweetz - Glad the bimple is gone. LOL. You are hilarious. Yay for the clothes. What had you been wearing? Hopefully your hubby will think over what you said and realize how selfish he's being. There's no way he can look over that and not see it, right? As for the stepson, maybe he sees it but is just too ashamed to admit it? Has he talked to his son? He needs to hear these things. He needs to know that while he didn't get it right with his older son, he still has a chance to make things better. And he definitely has a chance with this one. This makes me so sad. My dad didn't show up until I was 18, but we have a decent relationship now. It's not too late. Okay, so I kept reading and I see now it may be a cultural thing. I can't really relate to that. So sorry for your family. I hope things get better.

lpjkp - I don't think they've started another Sherlock movie, but the way it ended, I'm sure there's another one coming. I thought it was funny too. As for BD'ing. You're growing a person inside of you. Of course you're tired. They can be so selfish sometimes. argh! So, I kept reading and I saw that you reached a compromise. Good luck at your appointment on Monday.

Angel!!! - It's so good to hear from you. I think about you often. So sorry about your job situation. DH just found out that he's being laid off soon so I can relate. I pray it all goes well for you.

Lisa - I think it's so cool to wait to find out the gender. I know I wouldn't have the patience for it. So will everything just be gender neutral colors or will you wait to purchase a lot of things until after baby gets here?

AFM - Finally back home. I was feeling horrible the entire plane ride home. I had to take some medicine to get things going and today ended up being a sick day. I don't think I've ever felt this bad, but the medicine is working so I'm happy with that.