March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[ESwemba84]

Starry, I'm thinking that's probably what it is.......and the soreness in my chest might just be from the muscles underneath. I've been doing a lot of physical labor lately.

 

[eyemom]

*waves* hope everyone is having a good weekend. My work week is Tuesday through Saturday, so it's not quite my weekend yet...but close!

I had issues with charting during my cycle this time around (crap sleep), so ff isn't getting my crosshairs. I know I ov'd, so it's okay. It's just nice seeing those crosshairs! If I manage to make it to 12 dpo before I test, I'll test on Monday the 16th. Sigh, it always seems so far away.

 

[garfie]

Eye - Is your O slightly earlier this month? - hope that's a good sign for you

Es - so was it O pains and if so hope you were busy

Never - Hope you are both feeling a lot better - it's horrible trying to look after a little one when you feel so lousy

Mama - BF was difficult for me with my first - but by the time 2nd one came I was in my element - so keep trying but if its not for you then so be it well done you for giving it a go - so many women these days just point blank refuse to even try

Hippie - sorry she got you

Pink - It only seems like yesterday (to me) we were congratulating you on getting a BFP now look at you. Remember everyone wants to give first time mums advice - do what I did put all there ideas, suggestions etc in an imaginary bag - to probably be used at a later date, some ideas though are ridiculous and should stay in the bag never to see the light of day

AFM - I have updated my chart - 6DPO far to early to be testing but in my defense I didn't know where I was in my cycle I had scribbled down my temps as I thought it would make FF not having the previous ones to go by when I was on holiday

So now I am told by FF to test on Thursday - yeah right



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[eyemom]

Eye - Is your O slightly earlier this month? - hope that's a good sign for you

A little bit! I usually ovulate on day 15, but my O has been on day 12 a couple of times now lately. I don't know if it's good/bad/neutral but I guess I'll roll with it.

Pink - It only seems like yesterday (to me) we were congratulating you on getting a BFP now look at you. Remember everyone wants to give first time mums advice - do what I did put all there ideas, suggestions etc in an imaginary bag - to probably be used at a later date, some ideas though are ridiculous and should stay in the bag never to see the light of day

I love this!

AFM - I have updated my chart - 6DPO far to early to be testing but in my defense I didn't know where I was in my cycle I had scribbled down my temps as I thought it would make FF not having the previous ones to go by when I was on holiday

Chart is looking pretty! Fx!

 

[mowat]

So jealous of you guys in the 2ww. I'm still waiting to O....Actually I'm not even sure that the bleeding I had was AF. So confusing. Guess I'll wait and see.

 

[Starry Night]

First AF is always so confusing. I got what I think was my first AF about 34 days after my d&c but my hcg didn't go to zero until a few days before and my next AF didn't show until 50 days later without any ovulation and I passed some more blobby stuff. So was that first bleed a real AF? I don't know. People who haven't gone through a m/c don't realize how ongoing and confusing the physical recovery can be at times.

afm - not sure when I ovulated. I got a second round of ewcm on Thursday and today my cervix has finally dropped. I guess I have to say that I'm just now in the TWW. I was going to temp this month. I wish I had remembered so I could at least have some clue as to what is going on. I even had the thermometre beside my bed so I have no real excuses other than a really, really faulty memory (I am SO not a morning person).

 

[nevergivingup]

Hi ladies!

Pinkcasi: The thought of having to take care of a child that's relying on you for everything is really a tough thought to think, but that's what we women were made for to nurture and love these babies and protect them from these crazies in this world today. I thought of it often as well like this little boy will be relying on me until is 19+ and I'm so ok with that. It's like I don't need anything else. Bc I got someone who actually wants me and needs my attention ESP. when the DH do not.

Hippie: Sorry ab AF, but at least you got an answer and this will be a start to a whole new start at your rainbow baby!!

Mowat: Don't worry, your time will come and someone will be jealous of you in the TWW......(just to throw someone out there......umm like ME )

Garfie: So are u testing Thurs.? bc my Fingers and toes are already crossed!!! I never could understand that FF charting, it was almost like trigonometry to me

Eswemba: I hope you're feeling better. I know after a heavy workout at the gym, the next day I feel like I'm carrying bricks bc I be so sore that I dread going bk to the gym that day. And like starry said, it may be good ole "O" again but if you're testing then my Fingers are crossed for that instead!!

Hi to Bama: Hope mommy hood the 2nd time around isn't being to rough on ya.

Hi Tricia: Hope you're relaxing and feeling all the wonderful movements from your sweet bundle of joy inside ya.

Hi to Sweetz: I know you're chasing Xander around, I bet he's crawling at 15 miles per minute seeing if you can hang!

Hi to all the ladies Here who I may have missed.

AFM: Doctoring LO while trying to doctor myself is so tiresome, I forget ab ab myself sometimes and make sure he's comfortable. DH and I DTD and he barely withdrew in time But it's not my "O" time so I don't think I have to test anytime soon but it will be fun to POAS again. $. 88 cent test here I come.....

 

[Hippielove]

Thanks, never. It is a new start. Hoping this cycle is it.

 

[Sweetz33]

LOL yeah I am worn out....can barely focus. Couldn't write earlier bc my computer took a poop. All fixed now though but it is almost 3am and I need to sleep....just for kicks and giggles (and since AF came yesterday) I am going to chart. Eh, why not right? We are not trying but not preventing....but with my health with the lyme disease, chances are very very low. Love all you gals and hopefully I will be coming back more frequently. Loves to all!!! Sorry totally not a personal post but literally seeing triple right now.

 

[Pinkcasi]

Mowat, I know it's hard to wait when you want to try but just enjoy not having to worry about it for a bit.

Never thanks that's nice and I do look forward to having someone rely on me and believe that I am the centre of their world just as she will be mine.

Sweetz omg NTNP already huh, tho if your charting some would say you're trying lol babies are addictive huh, I hope not as my oh has said definately no more I'm thinking I could convince him tho if need be ha ha

Afm my mum came over today and we took the carpet up all ready for the new one to go down on Tuesday, we put the curtain rail up and I gave the final wall another coat of paint, so that all the painting totally finished thank god, just need to iron the curtains then they can go up, it's starting to look like a proper little girls room I so love it I might move in myself! Ill post pice once the carpet is down.
As for the SPD well ill prob hurt like hell tomorrow but I can rest at least, I'm going back to work on Wednesday after I've seen the midwife, so we'll see how that pans out.

 

[Sweetz33]

LOL I am charting just for the heck of it. My visitor has been making unscheduled visits so I am wondering what my cycle is doing. Last month she came on the 10th, lasted 2 days...now I am on day 3 and...very confusing. As for trying, half the time DH and I are too tired to even cuddle HAHAHAHA

 

[nevergivingup]

Pinkcasi: I wish I had that motivation when doing my nursery, the darn thing didn't get finish until he was like 2 months probably! And by then everyone done came by to view the nursery and now that's its finish no one care to go in it, so I just be hoping they need to go to the bathroom so they can see it when they come out....but it's like they close their eyes or something. Next time it'll be finish b4 the 2nd baby come.

Sweetz: I totally understand, I believe DH and I get 1 cuddle moment the whole month and we really take advantage of it, we be so tired all we want to do is just lay there bc is to much of work bc neither of us want to initiate it Charting,, huh, I love the NTNP thing, so you can't be too mad at whatever happens bc we're NTNP. That's how I got prego this time at least I thought I was NTNP, although I was still testing....but just less and has your cycle regulated itself yet?

Hi to left wondering! I knew I was missing someone how's it going ? We need an update whenever you get a chance bc I know how busy it gets

Hi to Mackjess!! How's that adorable boy doing?

I forgot who mentioned it but yea after a m/c it's like our body has to reprogram itself all over again. And it feels like we pay attention to every cramp, gas bubble, d/c that comes after a m/c. It's like life can never go bk to normal but hopefully with time it will.

Hi to all the ladies here! Don't give up ladies...FX for BFP's these coming days and holidays!! Have anyone thought of how they would share the news with their OH. Bc they really go through alot with us and our bodies and our emotional roller coasters.

Good Day ladies! FINGERS CROSSED FOR EVERYONE HERE AND AFAR!!

 

[lisalee1]

Hi Sweetz! Never!

I'm with you about being too tired. But somehow, once you get past the initiation, it all works out.

NTNP is a good idea b/c that way you don't get too disappointed.

Sweetz, I saw that you were saying you're not regular yet. R u still BF'ing?

Hello to all the other ladies too!

 

[nevergivingup]

Lisalee I was just thinking about you, I kept checking my pm to see if you were there, even happier to see you're here! We just did the dance and it was my turn to initiate I just wanted to say, never mind but I knew he would've been disappointed. So just get over with it already.

NTNP SOUNDS A WHOLE LOT BETTER THEN WAITING TO TRY. I'm down for NTNP How is it going for you Lisalee if its ok to ask?

 

[eyemom]

Hi everyone! Hope everyone had a good weekend. I can't wait to one day be in that NTNP zone! It sounds so nice, sigh. DH and I reaaalllllllyyyy want 2, then NTNP unless a 3rd happens (which we'd be cool with. ) But then if we are blessed with 3, we are done.

Okay so if you will indulge me, I am so sorry but I have a mini rant. >_<

A few days ago, I sent my MIL an email to kind of let her know what our status is (because I don't think she could have had any idea). DH had been thinking about doing something similar, and finally I just did it. She really never did say anything wrong, but she had said enough things that we are just hypersensitive about so I thought maybe if she knew what was going on and how we felt when things are said, maybe she could be a little more sensitive. Really I never heard her say anything that REALLY crossed a line, though DH says she has been more direct with him (like when are you going to have another, that kind of stuff).

I know it shouldn't matter, but I am just so sick of people assuming that we don't have another because we don't want one. Because we really REALLY want one!

Anyway, here's the email I sent. I showed it to DH and he said it was a lot nicer than what he would have said. (names changed obviously)

Hi (MIL),

I just wanted to bring you up to speed on some things. It's not stuff we generally talk about because mostly we don't like talking about it and secondly it's a little awkward. But I thought I should tell you so you can understand where we are coming from.

(DH) and I have been trying to conceive again for a long time, ever since the miscarriage, so well over a year now. We have begun testing to find out what's wrong and why nothing has happened yet. So far all our tests have come back normal, but there are more things coming up. So when you talk about us having another baby or bring up our future plans, we know in our heads that everything you say is with the best of intentions. However, we are still pretty sensitive at times because our hearts still hurt, so it is not always well-received by (DH) or me. I'm not telling you not to talk about it at all, just please be very delicate if you do say anything because we are already a mess sometimes without being reminded of what we're going through. I just ask that you pray for us and our family and that tests turn out okay or have simple solutions. My next test I will be scheduling next week. They'll inject dye up through my cervix and do an ultrasound to make sure my tubes aren't blocked. I imagine that won't actually take place until at least October though. Better yet, pray that I won't need that test by October.

Thanks! Love you!

I didn't hear anything about it so I figured that's cool she just wants to respect our wishes. But DH talked to his dad yesterday and apparently she got all huffy about it. I mean seriously how much more diplomatic should I be. She's not really well mentally anymore so it is kind of sad if I separate myself from the situation a little. But still I'm sort of

It's all kind of third hand, but I get the feeling she's not really angry, just more whiny like, "I didn't do anything wrong!" First of all, I didn't really mean to imply that she did. Second of all, whatever get over it.

Guess that was more than a mini rant! Sorry! I feel better now though.

 

[Starry Night]

eyemom - I'm sorry your MiL didn't respond the way you were hoping. I have noticed that family members often make our TTC and m/c struggles about them which really is unfair. I'm sure your MiL will get over it and I hope she's more sensitive in the future. Your email was very diplomatic and kindly written.

I love seeing all the mommas back to ntnp! That's so exciting. DH and I are fighting for a second child and we'll probably be done then because this is really stressful but part of me still dreams of a third child (what I would love to have in a perfect world). Right now I'm contemplating convincing DH to agree to ntnp after the second is born, provided that second child comes.

 

[eyemom]

Thanks Starry. In her defense, she was really wonderful at the time of our m/c. She had one too after DH. But her reaction to hers was quite different than most of ours. She made sure she never got pregnant again.

 

[lisalee1]

Never,

So sorry I've been a bad buddy and didn't respond to your e-mail. Thanks for being very kind to me in light of the situation. We are doing good tho. Everything happens for a reason and perhaps my body wasn't ready yet. I just tested negative today (I think). I looked at the test after a few minutes and it was negative. Walked away and did some errands and came back to a slight positive. Hoping that was a fluke. I have to buy another test and hope it's completely negative. How is your baby boy? What has he been up to lately?

Eyemom, sorry to hear about your MIL not understanding your feelings. I thought your e-mail was VERY kindly worded. How could she not see that you guys are hurting? Unfortunately when you're dealing with people who are not fully mentally capable, their reasoning capacities can be a little off-whack. You just have to topic with her unless you're ready to have a frank one-time conversation about it. Best of luck and I hope you get the BFP soon! Just so you know, the month that I did an HSG which is what you described in the e-mail to her) was the month that I got pregnant! So IF you're not pregnant by then, I hope that does the trick!

 

[eyemom]

Thanks lisalee! I don't really know what your story is but I really really hope things turn out okay for you.

I've heard stories of people getting pg after their HSG so I am hopeful.

 

[nevergivingup]

Lisalee: You know I'm here for you ma'am. Bc we been there and it's never easy but how you came to terms with it is growth. We are totally down for NTNP just let it happen and be half way surprise like we would never know how in the world it happen if we were to get a BFP. Yes ma'am I would go get another test bc to make sure. This part of it when testing to get a negative to confirm normality is tiring bc you'll never throw the test away in the time that the box tells u too. And of course it'll take a turn and change to something else. Hey but miracles does happen so you know my Fingers stay crossed for you gals. If it gets darker how wonderful that would be and just know that it is possible!

Eyemom:rant away ma'am, we're hear to listen! I think your email to your MIL was rather nice. I enjoyed reading it bc it was well written. You didn't get disrespectful you just laid down the facts for her. I had to do that to my MIL, when I had my first m/c. She had one too in her lifetime. She told me I should wait a year to try again bc maybe it wasn't meant to be, granted the part where she said "wasnt meant to be" probably was true but alittle more compassion. would be appreciated...anywhoo this isn't about me. I hope she come around and understand where you're coming from. Everyone is not able to pop out babies as easily as some make it seem.

Starry: In actuality I think my NTNP is more of a mental detour to make me think I'm not stressing over Trying although I'm keeping track of my cycle and my "O". And I understand that, my perfect world consist of 5-6 kids In my future, how I had to fight and pray to get this one only God knows what the future will hold. How awesome that would be. DH wants 2 but I always love a big family so I guess when the time comes I'll be doing all the enticing and initiating.