March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[Left wonderin]

Wow this thread has been busy Pink who needs Christmas lights when you have Stella . She is just adorable seriously !!!!! And yes OMG it does mean Im next !!!!!! Scary lol....
Still a while to go yet .

I'm so delighted for our new BFP and hopeful for more to come unexpected when I got mine I saw butterfly's everywhere in my house !!

Kat that's a big decisision you have to make !!! But one that brings lots of hope

 

[Starry Night]

mariahs mom - it's hard to say what is going on. Often after my losses the first cycle will be normal but the next one will be off--either shorter or longer and/or with lighter or heavier flows than normal. It's always tough to figure out what our bodies are doing after a loss. I figure a pregnancy that ends early is quite a shock to the system. After all of my losses I got my bfp the first normal cycle after the wonky/off cycle. Fingers crossed for you!

And my dh and I are really hoping for a girl but we know another son would be fine too. I may feel a touch disappointed at first (I have all those dreams of mother/daughter bonding stuff like shopping and baking and one day her wedding) but ultimately a healthy baby is all that matters!

 

[qwk]

MariahsMom - I just read through a little of your history.. I'm so sorry Do you chart?

I just got my beta from 10 dpo, it was 20, which I think is pretty good The nurse was kind of weird on the phone. backstory is that they never recorded a negative pregnancy test for me; I was at 10 on November 22, and then through some sort of bad communication on their part, they didn't call and ask me to come back in for another test until another week or so later, so I just kinda waited til I thought I may have a BFP Soo I kinda gamed the system a little.

But anyway the nurse was like, well you may be pregnant or it could be something like an ectopic. And I'm thinking thanks for ruining this for me

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Starry Night- you're so right. From the sounds of it, I am experiencing what you did after a loss; 1st cycle regular then 2nd cycle irregular...since I was only 6mons when I lost my daughter, it most definitely put my body in shock...Oh well, hopefully this cycle is a success!

Also, I know exactly how you feel abt having that bond with with your daughter. When we found out we were having a girl I felt like all my prayers were answered but my fiancé sat there quiet for like 3mins hahaha...Anywho hope you get your little girl!

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Qwk- no I don't chart and actually don't know how to. I know I know, I am such an amateur to this lol...and thank you!

And WHOA!! I can only imagine how you felt when the nurse gave you that info. I hope that you are in fact preggo and not having an ectopic preg. That would really suck; not fair at all...what did they say the next step is?

 

[Unexpected212]

Qwk- well this is my 2nd Cycle since I delivered in Sept. The 1st cycle was normal but not this one. Idk either. I am goin to assume that was my period and hope for my BFP this time around. Me and DH have been intimate every night since my persons went off, soooooo I'm feeling optimistic abt this cycle lol...

*Fingers Crossed*

Good luck with this cycle

My first cycle after the M/C was normal but the one after (where I got pregnant) was extra long with weird ovulation

FX'd for you hun x

 

[qwk]

I am having a hard time believing this is a continuing ectoptic pregnancy... my home tests went stark white for weeks. I bled, and I chart, and my temp went down, then I had positive opks, and my temp went up with ovulation, then I started having pregnancy symptoms like 8 days later. That doesn't sound like ectopic to me!

 

[Unexpected212]

20 at 10dpo sounds great to me. A lot of people don't even get a BFP that early

Plus I reckon mine would have been about 20...

For example yours could be

10dpo - 20
12dpo - 40
14dpo - 80+ which would be in the completely normal range

FX'd for you hun. I bet they go up for you nicely. When do you get your next draw/results?

I don't think it's an ectopic at all. If it was surely it would have caused you a lot more pain/issues by now??

Like you said you know you've ovulated etc as well

 

[qwk]

Thanks hon! And I don't think my HCG would have been 10 on November 22, and then 20 on December 18! I thought, if you had an ectopic that got this far, you'd have HCG levels that were, you know, high - not as high as a normal pregnancy, but in the 1000s? I'd be like, 9 weeks!

Argh. Nice nurse to give me something else to worry about

They want me to come back on Tuesday... but I just put in an order to go to a lab tomorrow as I really wanted two numbers before Christmas, as we are likely telling our families since it will be a little obvious since I'm not drinking

 

[Unexpected212]

Omg I was thinking that. It's going to be so obvious I'm not drinking. So scared to say anything but at the same time if anything goes wrong I know my family will be supportive.

Yeah I'm going in tommorow for my second draw because I want to know if the numbers doubled BEFORE christmas hopefully so I can relax and enjoy it without worrying.

I'll eat my socks if it's an ectopic. I think she is completely mis informed on that. NO WAY could the HCG have randomly gone back up after getting negative tests etc

 

[qwk]

Thank you hon lol, I'm not crazy right? that's just a preposterous idea!! Eek. Maybe she knows I have anxiety issues and she wanted to test me haha. I may call the office tomorrow and ask to speak to a midwife so I'm not freaking out about this.

With my son, we told everyone around 5 weeks because I was home for my birthday; same kind of deal - pre-planned togetherness = hard to hide pregnancy, especially if you are a regular drinker like me!

Thanks for your support hon really.

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Qwk- well this is my 2nd Cycle since I delivered in Sept. The 1st cycle was normal but not this one. Idk either. I am goin to assume that was my period and hope for my BFP this time around. Me and DH have been intimate every night since my persons went off, soooooo I'm feeling optimistic abt this cycle lol...

*Fingers Crossed*

Good luck with this cycle

My first cycle after the M/C was normal but the one after (where I got pregnant) was extra long with weird ovulation

FX'd for you hun x

Unexpected- Thanks. You have given me hope. I hope I have the same success as you have getting pregnant a few cycles after a loss...

Qwk & Unexpected- I know exactly how you girls feel. The week I confirmed my pregnancy I was a bridesmaid in my Friends wedding. I was forced to tell everyone because they were curious as to why I was not drinking lol...

 

[Kat S]

But anyway the nurse was like, well you may be pregnant or it could be something like an ectopic. And I'm thinking thanks for ruining this for me

UGH!! What is WRONG with the nurses at the fertility offices?! I know they've seen it all and are totally jaded, but how can they not know how devastating it is to hear something like that? They really should be more careful about throwing around situations like that

 

[Left wonderin]

Qwk I think its highly unlikely to be an ectopic x if I were you I would ring or go I to them today to ask for an explanation , explain how you are feeling . Kat is right its awful how sometime people don't have an ounce of sensitivity as they are around the situations every day and become immune . Its just awful that they don't understand how much an off the cuff remark which maybe way off the mark causes so much distress and needless worry .

 

[garfie]

Qwk - I agree with left - but how dare they burst your bubble like that makes me so mad

I would contact them today and demand an explanation - they can't leave you hanging like this

Hi to all the new ladies - all of a sudden we have lots of new flowers here - welcome ladies and sorry for those of you that have had a loss/es - we all understand

AFM - According to FF get this I am 17DPO but tested neg on an IC cheapy - anyone want to guess what is going on? - for those that know me this chart is mental this month

So for now I will keep on plodding and keep on testing until she arrives



X

 

[qwk]

Thank you ladies!! Honestly the nurse seemed kind of annoyed by the idea and I'm like well F you lady. I'm probably going to change practices. I had a bad experience during delivery with one of the midwives, and the only reason I considered staying is that that midwife is gone. But it's already been too many things like this.

I thought about it more last night and the idea is just crazy. That would
make no sense whatsoever. And my tests are getting darker just like a regular bfp would I do think I may call them today and try to talk to a midwife, not a nurse, and explain all about my negative home tests and charting. Though honestly I feel like sometimes some of them just don't know very much about some of the things we ttc-ers online know!!

Thanks again all

 

[Kat S]

Well, these are some sobering statistics for someone my age (41 and 11 months). And I have to admit, I started a 40+ thread in July, and we don't have one BFP yet. It really is hard. I guess donor eggs is really the way to go for someone like me. I wish my grandmother, who had her last baby at 45, would give me a little baby dust from the other side!

 

[Unexpected212]

AHHH

So upset. The doctor wrote on my notes 'Low levels of HCG for early pregnancy'

Because he refuses to hear that I'm 4 weeks not 5 weeks due to ovulation

So I've now told him I told him my last period wrong and have put it a week ahead. I know it's wrong to lie but he just won't listen to me that I'm 4 weeeks 2 days not 5 weeks 2 days.

 

[eyemom]

I have just been lurking because of pre-Christmas insanity. But just had to chime in.

WHAT is WITH these Dr offices?????? Seriously would an ounce of humanity hurt anyone?

to you all

 

[qwk]

you know the same thing sort of happened to me with my first unexpected - it was my fist cycle off BCP and I O'd CD 25; so when I went in for a draw at 14 DPO, they were like, oh it should be over 1000 (thinking I was like, 24 DPO), and I'm like no... but still they were "concerned" when I came back at less than a 1000. I however was not

These doctor's offices are a mess! totally agreed!