Oh gosh, fiona, I'm so sorry to hear about the tough time you've been having
There's nothing I can say to ease the pain, i know. As much as I always thought to myself that, if MC was unavoidable, I'd choose to lose the baby before it had all properly started rather than later on, having a MC at 5 weeks was the worst thing I can say I've ever been through...I had the exact same feelings as you and, for a long time, didn't even want to try again...As far as I felt, I'd lost my baby and that baby was the ONLY baby I wanted...The pain was exactly the same, stop start for around 2 weeks...nothing eased my pain, apart from the old saying "time is a great healer"...My hubby, as silly as it sounds, bought me a bracelet with a little charm on, as a little memory of the life that we had inside me, and it took a while before I felt strong enough to take it off.
There's nothing I can say to persuade you either way about becoming a mom...personally, I think if someone has a big heart and a lot of love to give, and is both able and wants another little baby more than anything in the world, age doesn't matter! You have so much to give, and I can bet you're already a fantastic mommy already! I can't imagine how torn you feel with 3mc behind you, but who knows what the future holds? You should remind yourself how strong you've been already...you've been through more than a lot of women TTC, and you're still standing! The heartache and the hard work WILL be worth it, I promise you, and there are so many solutions out there!! It may take time but, in perspective, that time will not compare to a lifetime of joy a child can bring xx
As for your husband...I'm not sure whether his blood type would have an effect? I'd be inclined to say no, but I'm sure your doctor knows the most accurate answer xx
I have my fingers, toes and everything else crossed that you get to the bottom of this and have the strength to continue for that next addition to the family...it sounds like you're getting some fantastic support from the medical team, and that can only be a goood thing for getting you on the right path xxx