March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[eyemom]

Aww mack those first two weeks are the worst. It does get better. Combination of hormones settling down and somehow adapting to the crazy sleep (or lack thereof) schedule. Hang in there!

 

[MamaTex]

All right ladies, please don't slap me if I sound selfish. My new little man will be 2 weeks old tomorrow, and man oh man have the postpartum blues hit me BIG time this week. I'm beyond overjoyed and filled with love, but at the same time feel so overwhelmed. I've done some reading and spoken to DH and I don't think I'm feeling anything abnormal. Probably due a lot to being so tired.

Week 2 was a lot harder than week 1. Had an OB appt this afternoon and was looking forward to discussing it with her and getting reassurance from a professional, but they literally called the minute we were putting baby in the carseat to leave to reschedule for tomorrow since she was out delivering a baby. I hope I don't sound ungrateful, I don't and I'm not, but OMG I feel like I am just barely hanging in there sometimes and wonder HOW you keep doing this with no sleep.

You don't sound ungrateful at all. Who doesn't feel overwhelmed? You are adjusting to this new baby and a new way of living. Some exhaustion, frustration, and baby blues is expected. I am sure I will be feeling similar to you. It's a big change after all!! Hang in there. You are doing a good job.

 

[Starry Night]

mack - sorry you're feeling down. Definitely talk with the OB about how you're feeling. It's so normal to feel stressed, overwhelmed and just down with a new baby. Nothing really prepares you for it. It takes a couple of weeks but both you and the baby will settle into a routine of sorts. And you're always allowed to put the baby down for 5 minutes of you ever need a good cry.

It does get better. Just give yourself lots of patience. You'll get the hang of this mom thing in no time!

 

[essie0828]

Aww Mack hunny I know exactly how you feel. I agree with left. You need at least a 6hr block of sleep to kind of reset. It's difficult to turn them over to someone else but if you can, do it. Sleep will make everything seem better. Lol I remember only managing to get 6hrs straight twice a week. I was almost crazy with sleep deprivation. It's so hard but you will make it, loving that lil guy will pull you through.

 

[essie0828]

And yes its always ok to leave him for a few min if you are overwhelmed. I have had to put DD down in her bed and just walk outside into the cold air to clear my head.

 

[garfie]

Aw Mack - Big all of us mums have been there - it is such a difficult period of adjustment, it will get easier it is not called the baby blues for nothing

If you don't have someone who can take little one off your hands for a few hours - get hubby to sit with baby while you go upstairs and take a nice hot bath and re charge your batteries.

Sleep is what is needed to make you feel better - but I know that is not always possible so just put baby in the crib and stand outside and grab some fresh air.

Are you trying to be super mum (keeping a clean house, cooking meals and looking after little one?) it's not like it is in the films - so cut yourself some slack hun and relax if the housework doesn't get done - so what there's always tomorrow

You are a brilliant mum - and don't worry this will soon pass, but I agree talk to the professionals just so they can understand what is happening and can give you some support - certain parts in the UK you can have someone who comes to your house and just looks after the baby for half an hour (just long enough for a nice soak) or she comes down and makes you a cuppa, or feeds the baby just so you can kick back and relax.

As others have said the love you feel for your little one will bring you through this.

In the meantime you know where we all are BIG mama.



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[Pinkcasi]

OJess, sorry your feeling this way, like everyone says im sure it's normal and we all know your not complaining, once you settle into a routine you'll be fine.

This is something i worry about, will i cope, i need lots of sleep just now but i know that will be a thing of the past but like people say your little one will pull you through.

 

[mackjess]

thanks ladies. my SIL was on vacation this week, but is going to come over one afternoon next week. my mother in law has been bringing me food and I promise my house is a mess. lol. thankful it's the weekend and dh won't be at work the next few days.

 

[Kat S]

Mackjess, I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. I wish I could send you a free nanny to help out!! Who cares if the living room is a disaster if your LO is loved and cared for. That's what I say. I hope you are able to get more sleep.

 

[mackjess]

it's been hard with the breastfeeding since I have to wake him to eat every 3 hours, and he's a slow eater, so I maybe got a 45 minute to hour nap between feedings. that was last week. after Monday he decided he didn't need as much sleep. I thought all newborns did was sleep and eat? he's totally done eating, clean diaper, and burped, but cried if I put him in his bassinet. he wants to stay awake and watch his hands move, which is adorable, but he's not in a safe crib or bed for mommy to be able to sleep, also had a really hard time getting him to settle at night. he maybe slept 6 hours total around his feedings. we have his ped appt in a few hours so I'm going to talk to her about why it seems he isn't sleeping enough, and how to do better with bottles. we tried doing one daddy bottle an evening so I could nap thru that feeding, but he seems confused and lets a lot of it drool back out, then still doesn't sleep and wakes up hungry very soon after.

I had no idea how hard breastfeeding was going to be, and I feel terrible when I hear him starting to wake up and it's so hard for me to get up and feed him. I how this passes soon, I feel like a bad mom being so down. also going to ask the doc about maybe strictly bottle feeding and pumping since that would give me more sleep time.

 

[Starry Night]

I know I had nights where I had to put my son into his bassinet and let him cry because I was so tired I was blacking out and nearly dropping him. He was in the room with me and I still slept through his cries. My body took over, I guess.

afm - had a bfn this morning but wasn't feeling pregnant at all so was expecting it. I think AF should be due tomorrow if I am returning to my 40 day cycles.

 

[nevergivingup]

Hi ladies!

Thanks Pinkcasi and starry and everyone else who makes me feel better about spoiling my LO. Bc my mom and dad watched him yesterday and he gave them a run for their money so they left out of here yelling, "THAT BOY IS SPOILED, THAT DON'T MAKE NO SENSE!" I'm like whatever to myself of course

Starry : Soory ab the bfn but this jus gives u time to restrategize if there's ever such a thing in our case. Don't lose hope.

Mackjess: Don't feel bad at all!!! Most women go through that!! I totally did, I began asking myself in my head why I didn't wait or why this but that was only at night when I couldn't get any sleep and I didn't have any help some nights bc my DH was working over the road. But once I did get 3 hrs of sleep and woke up to my baby man duped I feel better and rejuvenated....Until I had to do it all over again That is totally normal, AND CONGRATS GURLIE, those 2 weeks came so fast!!! Next week your LO will be 5 months like mine holding their bottles and yapping all day and reaching for who they want!

How is everyone doing today? Me and the LO will head out for a little shopping.

BAMAGURL, Lpjkp, Lisalee, Sweetz: I know you're lurking hope everything is going great for you mamas!

 

[Starry Night]

Right now I'm trying to decide when I should test again. I should give AF a chance to show first so I may test Monday. But I may even wait until later. My OB appointment is next Thursday and I do want to know one way or the other before that. I could wait until Thursday morning to test if AF hasn't shown.

I'm also thinking that I may start preventing for a short while after my appointment depending on the kind of wait I will have after that for the fertility clinic. Just really torn at the moment.

 

[mackjess]

thanks so much ladies. you are the best!

 

[MamaTex]

it's been hard with the breastfeeding since I have to wake him to eat every 3 hours, and he's a slow eater, so I maybe got a 45 minute to hour nap between feedings. that was last week. after Monday he decided he didn't need as much sleep. I thought all newborns did was sleep and eat? he's totally done eating, clean diaper, and burped, but cried if I put him in his bassinet. he wants to stay awake and watch his hands move, which is adorable, but he's not in a safe crib or bed for mommy to be able to sleep, also had a really hard time getting him to settle at night. he maybe slept 6 hours total around his feedings. we have his ped appt in a few hours so I'm going to talk to her about why it seems he isn't sleeping enough, and how to do better with bottles. we tried doing one daddy bottle an evening so I could nap thru that feeding, but he seems confused and lets a lot of it drool back out, then still doesn't sleep and wakes up hungry very soon after.

I had no idea how hard breastfeeding was going to be, and I feel terrible when I hear him starting to wake up and it's so hard for me to get up and feed him. I how this passes soon, I feel like a bad mom being so down. also going to ask the doc about maybe strictly bottle feeding and pumping since that would give me more sleep time.

Definitely ask about options. There is nothing wrong with exploring other options so your baby is fed and you are more present for him.

Starry: Sorry about the BFN. Whatever you decide, it is your decision. There is no right or wrong, just what you feel is best for you at any given time.

never: Lol @ your parents' reaction. Hopefully this baby of mine will be like me when I was young and will be calm and quiet, so she won't be too much of a handful whenever she does stay with my parents. Wishful thinking!! She has been rather active the last few days. Wonder if this means something or if that sleep she got all day last Saturday was enough to energize her for a few days. I know I will probably want help after this baby is born, but I am already feeling protective over the baby. I don't want him with anyone but me Oh and my husband was talking about going out to eat after the baby comes. It dawned on me that this baby is going to have to go just about everywhere I go and I wonder if I will be up for taking her out a week or two after she is born. I will probably feel and look like a mess lol. I've heard the worry never stops and people are right. I am hesitant to take her out into this big world, but it has to be done at some point. If it's not one thing it's another eh?

 

[MamaTex]

Update from today:

I had my weekly appointment. Everything looks good with me and the baby. My OB impressed upon me once again that he feels it would be safer if I was induced at 39 weeks since I will be term and there are increased risks with me going over that due to my high risk conditions. I am going to give it another week and see how I feel. I don't want to be selfish and put my baby at risk, but right now there is no evidence that there is a medical need to be induced right at 39 weeks or even 40 weeks. I am not sure how I feel about going to 41 weeks though. I might see if I can compromise and schedule to be induced at 40.5 if there is an opening at that time. What I am focusing on now is a playlist for labor and delivery, no matter how things go down. Even if I do not go on my own, I will have music to help me keep calm and to visualize my baby is coming because that is all I think about now. I am trying not to be nervous. It's hard though, giving up control and just letting things happen.

 

[Starry Night]

mama - I like to think you can get a hint at a child's personality while they are in the womb. I just knew my son was going to be a social butterfly who would also be bit of an imp! He would kick up a storm whenever there were children in the same room as me and at every check up he kept rolling away from the doppler and the doctor had to "chase" him around just to get the heart beat. But between those times he would often lay quiet so I felt he would also be somewhat congenial. My son is more active than what his womb activity seemed to indicate but he does love other kids, is always getting into mischief and loves to laugh and play tricks. He's generally been a very happy, easy-going kid. Just busy. My predictions were not too far off of the mark.

That definitely has given me courage to give personalities to my little angels too. I always felt certain characteristics from them. My first angel would have been a sensitive sweetheart, the twin would have been like DS but to a milder degree, my third angel would have been the Diva and the last one a more practical sort. All of them would be tenacious and stubborn too because they all held on longer than the doctors predicted. They fought for survival. When DS gets sick you can just see him willing himself to get better. Always smiling...even with a high fever.

mama, I do hope you can get the birth you want. Why is your OB so insistent on having an early induction if there is no medical evidence that it is necessary?

 

[Pinkcasi]

mama - I like to think you can get a hint at a child's personality while they are in the womb. I just knew my son was going to be a social butterfly who would also be bit of an imp! He would kick up a storm whenever there were children in the same room as me and at every check up he kept rolling away from the doppler and the doctor had to "chase" him around just to get the heart beat. But between those times he would often lay quiet so I felt he would also be somewhat congenial. My son is more active than what his womb activity seemed to indicate but he does love other kids, is always getting into mischief and loves to laugh and play tricks. He's generally been a very happy, easy-going kid. Just busy. My predictions were not too far off of the mark.

That definitely has given me courage to give personalities to my little angels too. I always felt certain characteristics from them. My first angel would have been a sensitive sweetheart, the twin would have been like DS but to a milder degree, my third angel would have been the Diva and the last one a more practical sort. All of them would be tenacious and stubborn too because they all held on longer than the doctors predicted. They fought for survival. When DS gets sick you can just see him willing himself to get better. Always smiling...even with a high fever.

mama, I do hope you can get the birth you want. Why is your OB so insistent on having an early induction if there is no medical evidence that it is necessary?

Oh Starry i don't know if it's my hormones or what but that made me cry, i love that you have lil personalities for all your lost lo's it makes them more real i guess, i often wonder what my angel would have been like and whether this baby will be in any way the same.

 

[Left wonderin]

Starry that was so lovely xxxxxxx

 

[Starry Night]

I'm so glad there are ladies here who understand and don't think I'm silly for imagining such things about babies I lost so early. That I can talk about my angels and not be accused of being mopey or "not moving on". To me, talking about a lost loved one is a positive experience. It makes me happy to think of them.