May 2012 babies - so far 8 yellow, 22 blue, 21 pink!

[bumpin2012]

Aw, Luci...its so good of you to let him go. I know its hard, and I dont know that I would be as good about it. Hopefully the next month flies by for you!

Anti: Im glad you are enjoying your time off...Im so freakin tired these days, I dont know how I manage to get everything done!

Im going to have more time now though - saw my OB this am and got my note to go off work for the rest of my pregnancy. Last week was seen in early labour assessment unit following a night shift with abdo pains. and yesterday I went to work, not feeling well, but by mid day I had such bad abdo pains, I could barely talk. I seriously thought I was in labor, cramping, backpain... I took some tylenol (Paracetamol for you UK ladies) and that didn't help. I left work early, tried everything I could think of to help with the pain. Ended up going back to the hospital... They really weren't sure what the cause of my pain, they thought it could be early labor, so I was very thoroughly checked out to make sure that I wasn't. The other idea was my appendix, my Gall bladder, or Renal colic.
So Im still geting some tests done, but I was allowed to go home, after getting a shot of Morphine for the pain... I hope I dont ever have to go through that again!

 

[kwood]

Hope everyone is doing well.

yazzy, I find that I don't notice the babies kicks as much at work as I do at home even though I know that it is kicking I just focus too much on work and don't notice as much as when sitting on sofa doing nothing.

Anti - yeah for ordering car seat and base..I would like a base but my husband just seems to think it's for people that can't take two extra seconds to put the seat belt on (his words not mine)...so no hope there.

youngNImum - glad your scan went well, I have mine on the 26th and can't wait to see baby again.

rjsmam - I wouldn't be too happy with DH either..they just don't get it sometimes..

Luci - glad you heard from your partner, hope the next month doesn't seem to long. you can always come here for company.

afm - Had my 30 week appointment today. Measuring 31 weeks and heart beat was great. She said the baby is head down already but did warn that it can still move around, I have ordered the baby to stay head down..it better listen. She asked if I was still taking a vitamin (which to be honest I stopped after first trimester) she suggested making sure all pregnant women get 10 micrograms of vitamin D during pregnancy as there has been increase in Ricketts in newborns in the UK and there may be links to MS and lack of vitamin D during pregnancy. If I didn't have enough to worry about eh? So guess I will start with the vitamins again. Next appointment not for another 4 weeks.

 

[RBurnett]

Im so worried my bump isnt growing.

The first photo is 28 weeks and the second is 29 weeks?...is there any difference?

 

[RBurnett]

Bumpin - I hope they find the cause of the pain. I get stomach pains and they cant find out why?!!

Luci - Glad he has contacted you,ur very good to let him go. Im not letting my OH go to a stag do before bubs come but luckly he couldnt get it of work so thankfully it dnt look like it was me being a nagging wife!

 

[zephyr]

RBurnet - I had the same thing happen last week (although my uterus is measuring a lot larger) I freaked out cos I thought my bump had shrunk. I guess babies move round and make it seem smaller at times. I know after a few days it popped out again bigger than before. In my case it has dropped significantly though and I think that is why. I wouldn't worry too much.
I lol'd at the nagging wife comment! uggh stag do's I don't blame ya. We havn't known anyone to get married in a while and those who have never had stag do's. He was meant to go to one but he broke his collarbone, even though his dickhead mate was around earlier in the day trying to convince him that he should go and just sit there. He told him no he was too sore and his mate just wouldn't let up and got pissed at him cos he wouldn't go. Funny thing is though he actually ended up in theater having unexpected surgery later that day!

Luci - wow you man is lucky, its good that you are able to support that.

 

[RBurnett]

I didnt tell OH not to go cos i wanted to see what decision he was going to make luckly he said that he didnt want to go too cos he would miss baby (he will only be about 6 weeks old)
I wish i asked the MW to measure me last time i saw her, dnt see her now till 15th March.

 

[zephyr]

Naww that is cute he said that good you didn't have to say anything
Aww a wee bit of a wait then till the 15th. I wouldn't worry about your bump, it looks fine its hard to tell if it has grown in the pics cos they are sideways but I think it has slightly.

I am having a rest from my dust busting, I have just pulled out the dustiest corner of my house where things have been stored to vaccume and now my allerigies are playing up grrr anyways just doign that one corner turned into me re arranging the entire lounge an there is stuff everywhere!! and OH is going to help me move furniture round too its driving me mental, the whole house is.
This wouldn't be so hard if I could actually bend down to pick stuff up

 

[RBurnett]

Thanks, yeah im not sure how to turn them around!..

I cant wait to be of work and clean the house from top to bottom!...SADO!

 

[zephyr]

Haha no I would probably feel the same if I was still working! Its only frustrating me now because of the rests I have to take every 5 minutes or so. But I am slowly getting there!

 

[rjsmam]

bumpin - here's hoping that pain goes away & all your tests are ok - that would be hard going dealing with appendix or other things whilst pg. hope you feeling much better!

kwood - glad to hear your apmnt went well! i also have been lax in taking my vitamins but have made a concerted effort prior to my nxt apmnt as dont' want to be anaemic & have to take iron pills! i agree re the kicks at work, i tend not to notice them as much, although when jnr decides to stomp on my bladder (usually during a meeting!) i kinda notice that lol

RBurnett - try not to stress hon, as Zephyr says junior can change positions and hide away sometimes - there's just so much to worry about huh. i'm surprised mw didn't measure you though. i do think there is a wee difference in the pics though

zephyr - sounds like you are full on nesting! good for you, not surprised you need to take rests, lugging 2 babbas around must be tough going!

how is everyone today? I clearly had a hormonal day yest lol. Got home last night & dh was making dinner so he kinda redeemed himself – just. But before that I was in a supermarket – was in a real hurry as was on way to son’s swimming lessons after work, was standing in line when the checkout girl had a problem with her till so another one opened beside me – the people behind me all pushed past to get served first. I was sooo annoyed, I only had 2 items when they had huge trolleys - so it would have take no time at all for me to be served - yet they still felt it was ok to push past me. Some people are just plain rude me thinks!

Anyhoo have my 28wk check today & am hoping my glucose test is ok & am interested what position she thinks jnr is in!


x

 

[luci and bump]

Hope everyone is feeling ok today
Has anyone ever had problems with trapped wind? I had such bad pains yesterday, literally felt like i had to burp myself, but nothing would come up It was rumbling away, sounded like thunder! My housemate knocked on my door because she could hear it from her bedroom! feels a lot better today, but it seems to come on in the evenings

On the plus side, have spoken to OH already today He's been out exploring, and is off to watch some mixed martial arts tonight. He said he'll wait up for me to get home from my second job tonight, so we can chat again about 7pm our time
Tomorrow will suck though, he's getting a night train from Bangkok to Koh Thao, which means he wont be online
Think he realised he annoyed me a bit today though. We were talking about him staying out there the full month, so I told him that its ok if he stays, and its ok if he comes home early. He said he was contemplating coming home early, but financially he can't afford to change his flights again. Then, very thoughtlessly, he said "plus, when the baby is here, and crying, and I've had no sleep, I'm sure I'll look back on this trip and smile" So I said, "great, thanks! What do I have to look back on? 4 weeks of being on my own, uncomfortable and lonely, and about 4 months of inturrupted sleep!"
Think he realised he'd put his foot in it then!! Was it bitchy and unreasonable of me?

 

[RBurnett]

Hey ladies, I am staying at work a lil longer. I was going to go of in about 3 weeks time but my friend at work had broken her hand and needs a opertaion so will be of for a while so I agreed to stay. It just means ill take all my holiday on this side and have longer of with maternity at the end. So I have about 4 week and a bit left at work

 

[luci and bump]

4 weeks sounds heavenly! Our holiday runs Feb-Feb, so mine has all been used up Otherwise my intention was to take all my holiday before my maternity leave. Now I've been told I can't, I have no idea when to take it! My boss tried to say I HAVE to leave no later than 4 weeks before my due date, but I think I was hoping to go until 38 weeks. Can they make me take it earlier than I want to? I know my job is a bit more full on, because I'm on my feet the whole time, but right now, I find standing more comfortable than sitting down for long periods of time.
I'm only 27 weeks today, but I like to think I have way longer than 9 weeks of work left in me!! And the longer I take before baby comes, the less I'll have with my baby!!

 

[zephyr]

rjsmam - yeah I think I am, and its driving me bonkers cos everything needs to be done and I just physically can not do it all so I sit here going out of my mind over it. On the upside my lounge looks fantastic now, only took me a day of stopping and starting

Luci - Nahh, I don't think so. He will understand you are pregnant and we are prone to have our moments where something someone says to us irritates us. I think that's just something we are meant to do I've said way worse! lol

I was meant to do grocery shopping today while the kids are at school and daycare but I just cant bring myself to do it! I have to take the girls to dance classes this afternoon and I already was out paying bills. I went to the mall and felt great, so great instead of OH getting out to get what we needed I stupidly said I would come in and for the first half I felt wonderful and got to catch up with my old workmates! but then after walking and standing for 10 minutes or so I had to go back to the car cos I felt like babies were going to fall out everywhere and I was in so much pain!
So now I just dont want to do anything.

 

[wavescrash]

Hey ladies. Just wanted to pop in and say hi, I'm alive and the move went well. Still no Internet, not sure when we're going to get it. We've assembled a lot of the baby stuff and I can't wait to finish her room! I'll share pictures as soon as I can.

 

[cliqmo]

... Then, very thoughtlessly, he said "plus, when the baby is here, and crying, and I've had no sleep, I'm sure I'll look back on this trip and smile" So I said, "great, thanks! What do I have to look back on? 4 weeks of being on my own, uncomfortable and lonely, and about 4 months of inturrupted sleep!"
... Was it bitchy and unreasonable of me?

Hey Luci I am pleased your OH has been in touch

In answer to your question I can fully understand why you would feel that way about his rather thoughtless words and I totally agree with the others that plenty of women would have talked their OHs out of going away at all in the circumstances, so I hope he appreciates how good you are being about it ... however now that he is out there and doing it, part of me wonders if you should try extra mega hard not to give him a hard time about it? (even when he lets thoughtless comments slip )

Just because it would be a real shame if the main thing he recalls about his 'trip of a lifetime' in years to come is how guilty he felt for going?

I hope I don't sound like a killer bitch it is just what struck me when I read your post

4 weeks sounds heavenly! Our holiday runs Feb-Feb, so mine has all been used up Otherwise my intention was to take all my holiday before my maternity leave. Now I've been told I can't, I have no idea when to take it! My boss tried to say I HAVE to leave no later than 4 weeks before my due date, but I think I was hoping to go until 38 weeks. Can they make me take it earlier than I want to? I know my job is a bit more full on, because I'm on my feet the whole time, but right now, I find standing more comfortable than sitting down for long periods of time.
I'm only 27 weeks today, but I like to think I have way longer than 9 weeks of work left in me!! And the longer I take before baby comes, the less I'll have with my baby!!

Hey again :wave:

Here is some info about UK law you may find helpful

https://www.direct.gov.uk/en/parents/moneyandworkentitlements/parentalleaveandpay/dg_10039631

https://www.businesslink.gov.uk/bdotg/action/detail?itemId=1080902982&type=RESOURCES

Essentially it says
- You are entitled to (and recommends employers allow you to) take your full years A/L entitlement before you go on M/L irrespective of when the annual leave entitlement gets renewed (you continue to accrue A/L entitlement whilst on M/L anyway, so not 'having enough' it is not an issue) This is because it can otherwise get complicated with your entitlement to be paid for the A/L that has not been taken (as different companies have different policies in this regard)

- You can start your maternity leave up to 11wks before your due date, but at the latest it must start on the day the baby is born - there is no law about having to M/L start 4wks before your due date which is what your company seem to be suggesting

If I were you I would check with HR that your company don't have any particularly quirky policies and, assuming they don't, that you book up all the A/L you can before your due date and M/L from your EDD onwards

...My EDD is 31st May, so I am taking A/L from 30th April - 29th May and going on M/L from 30th May onwards... because I want to maximise time at home with LO when she arrives

Hey ladies. Just wanted to pop in and say hi, I'm alive and the move went well. Still no Internet, not sure when we're going to get it. We've assembled a lot of the baby stuff and I can't wait to finish her room! I'll share pictures as soon as I can.

Yey Wavescrash, I am really pleased you got moved in okay

ETA: Sorry for the mega long post peeps

 

[luci and bump]

Thank you Cliqmo
I am trying hard not to "bust his balls" as he puts it, just really annoyed me, that he takes for granted that he can still go do whatever he wants, when I'm already looking after our child. He tried to convince me that once baby is here, its his turn to look after it, so I can do what I want for a while, but I don't think he understands that I won't want to just leave our baby! Plus, we've agreed that I want to breastfeed, which means I won't be able to just leave baby!

Those two links are really helpful! Not sure how I would get in touch with HR though? As I work for a big restaurant chain, so we don't have HR in our building. Also, we aren't automatically entitled to a set number of holiday hours, we accrue it through how many hours we work. I think we get something like 8 minutes of holiday for every hour we've worked, so not sure how they would work that out? Pretty sure they ripped me off for a good few holiday hours too, as I took two weeks off due to my dad dying, and when I checked my online banking, had been paid less than I should have if they'd processed all my outstanding holiday, plus I'd worked about 20 hours that week already!! So am going to have to investigate I think! Handily for the company, our wage slips have a habit of going walkabouts!

 

[yazzy]

Hey girls!

Going back to your post about trapped wind....urgh yes I have suffered badly sometimes with that and its so uncomfortable and just horrible. Peppermint helps with that.

Zephyr - take it easy...remember you have 2 bubs in there so if you are achy then rest up and don't worry about your food shopping. Hope all is ok.

Waves - yay for moving, and looking forward to seeing pics of your little girls nursery.

I have now been signed off by my doctor because of this coccyx pain, I did 2 days at work and could've cried when I got home on the 2nd day because of the constant pain. So that is me done with work now until 2013...wow sounds crazy. I think my work are going to have to pay me my holiday entitlement aswell because I should be on my hols as of next wednesday but legally can't because of being signed off so will look into that...will help out in a few months time for sure.

Baby has been a bit quiet this week, still wriggling around but just not as powerful kicks etc. I never know when I should phone the midwife etc if I am concerned...sometimes I can see my tummy moving but don't feel it. Oooh and i'm 30 weeks today yay!

 

[rjsmam]

Hey everyone,

Waves - glad the move is going to plan

Luci - i wouldn't worry in the slightest - agree that this is a once in a lifetime for him etc etc but this is also an extremely hard time with the loss of your dad etc & he needs to appreciate that

cliqmo - magic post - glad to read that my company seem to be toeing the line

Had my mw apmnt yesterday & all is well. Junior is lying across my tummy – transverse – which I suspected as everything feels really high – but mw was not really concerned as plenty time to turn. Still have low blood pressure which is probably why I had that dizzy spells a few wks ago but nothing really to worry about. Have been getting horrid upper back pain, not sure if it’s related to juniors position or just a general pregnancy thing. Hoping that it doesn't stick around for the rest of the term as am hoping to work til 2wks before due date. Am measuring on track sizewise too, actually slightly behind, although again nothing to worry about. Took pleasure in telling dh as he has often told me I’m huuuuuge haha & at my last apmnt i was 2wks ahead so i guess i don't take much stock in these measurements! I have stinking heartburn too & was up in the night to glug gaviscon, the taste makes me want to vomit but needs must.


Hope everyone is having a good Thursday!


x

 

[anti]

My car seat just arrived!!!! Yay!!! Got the isofix base as well so it's gonna be easier and safer for baby. Been busy personalising baby grows today as well. Got my midwife appointment in an hour.