May 2012 babies - so far 8 yellow, 22 blue, 21 pink!

[zephyr]

They sure do! Glad he started kicking again He must be getting bigger and running out of room. hehe

I just dropped my son off at daycare for nap time again......he is actually okay with it, I still however feel a bit funny dropping him off to sleep though so maybe I just need to get used to the idea?
While I was there I got asked if we wanted their frogs when they change from tadpoles and of course I couldn't say no, frogs are way cool.

My lip balm turned out yummy, hope OH likes it

 

[yazzy]

These babies definitely do like to worry us. I still haven't had a the big kicks but noticed last night I couldn't feel anything until I rested my hands on my tummy then it was moving quite a bit. I think bubs has turned around because I am feeling kicks - more inside though but cannot find hb on the doppler....obviously baby wants to face inwards today!

 

[RBurnett]

Yeah its so worrying sometimes!

Im back to work 2mo after having 2 weeks signed of and im not sure how i feel about it!?!

I have heard work is stressful and very busy at the moment and i just cant be dealing with that. I stuggle to stay awake all the time so i guess ill just go in and see how i get on.

Only 9 weeks left at work before i go on maternity leave. Im going of 4 weeks before duedate x

 

[yazzy]

I'm back at the doctors this morning because of my coccyx...getting better but I know I can't handle sitting on my computer chair all day so might get signed off this week then only have 3 weeks left before my holiday starts and then mat leave kicks in yay!

Just see how work goes and how you feen about it, have you got any holiday you can take so you can finish earlier?

 

[RBurnett]

yeah i could leave earlier. I need to work out how much holiday I have left, my plan is to get through march and then just get signed of for april up to my maternity leave.

I only get 20 days holiday and thats from january to january. Im not sure if i get it all or only the holidays are to my maternity leave?

 

[yazzy]

My holiday runs from Jan - Dec and I get 29 days and I can take it all before my mat leave starts because we can't roll holiday over.

Bubs still isn't being very active today...i'm abit worried but am getting movement. As long as the movements continue i'll wait until my midwife appointment tomorrow to raise my concerns.

 

[RBurnett]

Please can someone simplify this for me...i have serious baby brain!



Generally people are only allowed to take the leave they have accrued to date before their maternity leave so if they do not choose to come back to work they will not owe any holiday. The holiday accrued during maternity leave is often taken prior to people resuming work. Otherwise, at the time of leaving the company would make a payment for any annual leave accrued and not taken and would claim back any excess annual leave taken.

Yazzy - my baby is also being lazy again!!

 

[Shellbells31]

Hi Anti

Please can you update my due date to 10th of May and put me down as team blue? Thanks.

How are all you ladies going? Have you got your final dates yet to start your maternity leave? I am taking 9 days holiday from 6th of April then starting my maternity leave on 23rd April - our HR dept says we have to start our maternity leave 2 weeks before the week of our due date!

My boss is causing me stress as he is constantly telling me I am entitled to 10 keeping in touch work days (fully paid) and he wants me to still attend the monthly team meetings and if he has any 'projects' he will meet me in a coffee shop and give me the work! I find this very cheeky of him as I am supposed to be on leave and I do not know how I am going to take to a newborn never mind how easy LO will be and feeding etc. And now they are making huge cuts to our central team and they have now told me I will not have a temp cover my maternity leave as orginally agreed and another lady in our company will 'help cover my work' as if I dont have much work to do. Now it has be worrying about if I will have a job to come back to!

I have an extra scan tomorrow at 28 weeks so very excited to see LO wriggling around the screen and my mom will be coming with us this time.

 

[Shellbells31]

Please can someone simplify this for me...i have serious baby brain!



Generally people are only allowed to take the leave they have accrued to date before their maternity leave so if they do not choose to come back to work they will not owe any holiday. The holiday accrued during maternity leave is often taken prior to people resuming work. Otherwise, at the time of leaving the company would make a payment for any annual leave accrued and not taken and would claim back any excess annual leave taken.

Yazzy - my baby is also being lazy again!!

RBurnett: You are accrue holiday whilst you are on maternity leave so if your company's holiday leave is January to January you have your full year's entitlement. If you only take a few days prior to starting maternity leave (like I will be) you need to find out from your company if they will pay you the leave not taken at the end of the year (this is what I am doing) or you can ask them if they will allow you to roll this over into next year and add it onto the back of your maternity leave. The issue will be if they will pay you out or allow you to roll them over. As you will have all your leave entitlement for 2013 on your return they may not allow you to roll this over. Check with them to see what they are willing to allow or not.

Hope this helps.

 

[RBurnett]

Could i take my full leave before maternity leave?

 

[wavescrash]

I just needed to whine real quick.

There's 17 days until moving day and the time is just dragging by I don't know what to do with myself during the next 2 weeks. Can someone speed up time and make it March 1st already!?

 

[RBurnett]

I know get it all! lol Thanks for helping me understand it

Ill speak to my manager 2mo and find out how much holiday I can take.

Wavescrash - i wish we could speed it up to then

 

[yazzy]

Yepp Rburnett, basically as long as you don't inform them before the end of the year that you have no intention of returning to work then you are entitled to take all of your holiday before your mat leave starts which is what I am doing. I finish on March 8th, taking 27 days holiday then starting mat leave on 19th April and returning in January.

Oh and Rburnett - obviously we have lazy babies that are going to worry us until they pop out in May lol! Will let you know what my midwife says tomorrow.

Waves - roll on the 1st March for you...it will appear before you know it

 

[wavescrash]

Thanks ladies... I hope you're right. I'm so glad to be out of work but it sure makes the days drag on by.

 

[RBurnett]

8th March - My birthday .

Im hoping then that if i can take my full 19 days holiday before maternity, my last day will be 19th March to the 13th April and then ill start my maternity leave

 

[RBurnett]

If i dont return i guess ill owe them money or just work those days. im sure i can find someone to have baby those few days as my maternity will end in December and new holiday starts in January so there wont be that many days left!

 

[kwood]

RBurrentt - Working out this maternity pay is so confusing, I was trying to wrap my head around it today with my HR and Payroll.

You are entitled to your holiday pay regardless of if you go back to work or not so you shouldn't need to pay them back. Also something else to consider is if you should still get paid for bank holidays while you are off as well so that should be a few extra days of money in the pocket which is nice.

Hope you get it worked out, I am still a little confused with it all because my work won't let me take before I have accrued but will only let me carry over 5 extra days so I'm trying to figure out what they do with the other 17 days?!?! I have a meeting with my boss, HR, and payroll and we are all going to bash it out together (they don't have many pregnancies where I work so are a little rusty themselves)

 

[rjsmam]

hey everyone!

welcome larab how are you feeling - are you keeping well? do you know if you're team blue or pink? sorry if you already told us - baby brain!

waves - you could pop on a flight over here & do my ironing???? that would take at least 17 days haha

yazzy - good luck & let us know how apmnt goes tom

shell - good lord - i have kit days today - but i thought they were just that - keeping in touch? not accepting projects - i don't that's right at all! do you have an hr dept to ask?

good luck to everyone sussing out the mat leave - it's a minefield... i get 35 days leave including bank hols which i can take before mat leave if i want... and then anything i don't take is added to my allowance when i return but needs to be taken within 3months.. so i think i'm sussed lol - hoping to work as long as i can until 4th May. I actually get mixed emotions about leaving work!

i had it out with dh today & he's promised not be such a douchebag. he doesn't handle stress well & has some other stuff going on with stepson etc but i reminded him i aint his punch bag.



x

 

[luci and bump]

So after all the stress of preparing for my OH to leave for a month, the tables have turned somewhat, and I'm now trying to persuade him to go. My dad, who has been terminally ill for 2 years, and seriously ill for 4, died in his sleep sunday morning. He was 51 :'(
So now my OH is determined to postpone or cancel his trip, so he can be here for the funeral. Obviously I want him to be with me, but its so important that he does this trip, and putting it off is going to cost so much, and if he puts it back too far, he'll miss some ante-natal classes
To top it all off, I feel awful for crying, because everytime I get upset, I feel bumpy kicking away, and worry what my stress is doing to baby
Right now, LIFE SUCKS!!!! :'(

 

[RBurnett]

Im back at work and to be honest its fine! Im just doing the odd jobs for people which is what i wanted to come back and do. Baby very active this morning, think its cos im sitting at a desk .

Being taken out for dinner tonight for Valentines, cant wait